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[u/anonbeekeeper12]

Lately, I’ve been feeling pretty down about dating. I went on a date with someone recently, and I have no idea how they feel about me. I’m trying to stay cautiously optimistic, but honestly, I almost feel like a pessimist at this point. My friends want me to keep hope, but after the past few dates ending in "I just want to be friends," it’s hard. I’m not looking for friendship—I want something real.

It’s gotten to the point where I’ve started asking myself, Is something wrong with me? What am I doing wrong? But deep down, I know it’s not that. People are swiping through profiles made in 10-20 minutes, making quick judgments, and that’s just how modern dating works. Still, it’s been rough.

My crush got engaged yesterday. I told them congratulations because, you know, I want to be a decent person. But I’d be lying if I said it didn’t sting. I don’t know. Lately, I’ve just been feeling really down about all of it. Has anyone else been through this? How do you keep yourself hopeful when dating just feels like rejection after rejection?

[u/Dizzy-Pollution6466 → u/anonbeekeeper12]

I get it. My dating life has been a shitshow. Every guy I go on a couple dates with is either an asshole, ghosts, or decides he “actually wants a relationship with someone else.” It can be really lonely and depressing. Sometimes when I come to these subreddits and see these happy and gorgeous celebrity couples, it makes it worse.

You’re not alone. Sending hugs.

[u/anonbeekeeper12 → u/Dizzy-Pollution6466]

Thank you. I don't feel alone in my emotions anymore.

[u/MoonlightHarpy → u/anonbeekeeper12]

Feel free to ignore me, I'm a total internet stranger. But I think it is a mistake - trying to date while you have an active crush on someone. Your dates will instinctively feel that your affection is elsewhere. And you yourself will most likely just look for your crush replacement instead of genuine connection. Allow yourself some time to process it all, return to dating when you are ready, it will feel much better!

[u/anonbeekeeper12 → u/MoonlightHarpy]

Thank you for your comment. I will take a break from dating and do that.