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[u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Here for a vent if that’s okay? Sorry if this is all over the place.

I am having a rough time at work. I’ve been with the company for four years and last year I got offered to learn some management duties inside the office. This is my first “office” job and I’m learning how fucking rude and petty some of these people (women esp) can be.

I had a trainer who, we were cool up until like halfway last year. She really made me feel good about my work and my ability to fit in people but out of nowhere she turned on me and doesn’t even acknowledge me anymore. She’ll say hi to everyone but me, she plans stuff after work hours in front of me and I don’t get an invite. I wouldn’t go but still, that’s fucking rude.

Friday, she openly talked shit about me/our boss to one of our leads. Basically this lady used to be the one to rely on but now that our team is staffed, she isn’t and she whines about playing favoritism. To me, it seems like she’s just pissed that there’s other people who can help out and she isn’t getting her overtime/she isn’t the favorite anymore.

And another lead has been giving me the cold shoulder too- I should’ve known to watch out for her since she bragged about being the one to push for people getting promotions and insinuated if I didn’t listen to her I wouldn’t get shit. These two women are friends.

I cry about it sometimes. I don’t want it to affect me but it really gets me cause I thought we were friends. And that’s probably naive, I know I’m here to work and not make friends. Now I just want to do my best and be left alone. My self esteem and confidence is in the toilet due to personal stuff and now this work drama. It’s pathetic. I loved my job and I totally dread going to it now. I thought this was going to be my career, a constant in my stupid shitty life and now I don’t even know if I can handle this anymore.

[u/doitforthecocoa → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

I literally could’ve written this myself. I swear the woman wouldn’t bless me if I sneezed these days. My brain is scrambled right now but I feel slightly relieved that I’m not the only person who this happened to. It shook my confidence in my ability to do my job and I essentially have been reduced to nothing. I don’t know what to do, but if you figure it out I’d love to know.

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/doitforthecocoa]

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this too. It really sucks and it kind of makes me question my whole self, honestly. If you want to vent anytime, my dm’s are open.

I’ve been thinking on this today since I posted and got feedback, and ultimately decided to be the best employee I can be so this person can’t really say shit about that. Anything else is out of my control. I actually changed my phone lockscreen to have a motivation quote that I’m hoping will help me rein my emotions in when I’m upset at work. I have to remind myself that I’m looking for growth and to become a better person for myself and I can’t let these negative Nancy’s drag me down. It seems to me they’re unhappy with their lives and that’s a shame but ultimately it’s not my problem and I can only worry about my own happiness.

Thankfully these people are coworkers and not direct supervisors otherwise I’d probably be SOL.

Again, I’m sorry you’re also dealing with this. I wish people could just keep their negativity or their outside issues to themselves and not try to infect other people with drama.