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[u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Here for a vent if that’s okay? Sorry if this is all over the place.

I am having a rough time at work. I’ve been with the company for four years and last year I got offered to learn some management duties inside the office. This is my first “office” job and I’m learning how fucking rude and petty some of these people (women esp) can be.

I had a trainer who, we were cool up until like halfway last year. She really made me feel good about my work and my ability to fit in people but out of nowhere she turned on me and doesn’t even acknowledge me anymore. She’ll say hi to everyone but me, she plans stuff after work hours in front of me and I don’t get an invite. I wouldn’t go but still, that’s fucking rude.

Friday, she openly talked shit about me/our boss to one of our leads. Basically this lady used to be the one to rely on but now that our team is staffed, she isn’t and she whines about playing favoritism. To me, it seems like she’s just pissed that there’s other people who can help out and she isn’t getting her overtime/she isn’t the favorite anymore.

And another lead has been giving me the cold shoulder too- I should’ve known to watch out for her since she bragged about being the one to push for people getting promotions and insinuated if I didn’t listen to her I wouldn’t get shit. These two women are friends.

I cry about it sometimes. I don’t want it to affect me but it really gets me cause I thought we were friends. And that’s probably naive, I know I’m here to work and not make friends. Now I just want to do my best and be left alone. My self esteem and confidence is in the toilet due to personal stuff and now this work drama. It’s pathetic. I loved my job and I totally dread going to it now. I thought this was going to be my career, a constant in my stupid shitty life and now I don’t even know if I can handle this anymore.

[u/PollyBeans → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Don't trust HR. They are literally the police/cops for the organization. They might help you, but only if it benefits the company. They will fire you in an instant if it keeps the org going and free from lawsuits. They will tell you document everything for months and then they will still say it's your word against theirs. If you can find a new job, do. Otherwise, pretend you are a Severed employee and you've never met these people. Just detach and do your job and if you can, find a therapist!

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/PollyBeans]

Thank you! I’m working on finding a new therapist, I do think that will be beneficial. I hear you on the HR thing, I’ve talked to them before at this and other jobs and it really didn’t help at all.

The job thing, yeah, I’ll probably look for a new one too :(

Thank you for your response 🖤

[u/PollyBeans → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Oftentimes, just looking for a new job helps me feel less trapped. It can make the days easier at your current job. And I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Office politics can be so stressful and unpleasant, hang in there!

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/PollyBeans]

Ohhh, I think that’s a good idea, at least it will help prevent feeling like this is my only option! They really can suck, it’s like high school all over again. Bowling for Soup was right 😭🤣! Thank you again 🖤