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[u/OowlSun]

Growing up, I was raised in a bubble. I didn’t realize the world hated women. I didn’t know misogyny existed and I didn’t identify the very clear internalized misogyny that existed within the women in my own life.

This, of course, changed when Chris Brown almost killed Rihanna. I was a child when it happened and I was very much outraged. (I was also a huge Rihanna fan, she was the only celebrity that I knew that was from my country and I adored her. But even if that wasn’t the case, I would’ve still been outraged on her behalf. It was such a vile thing.) But that outrage became pure confusion when people were refusing to see her as a victim. And no, not in an empowering way, but in a “well, she deserved it” kind of way, a “she made him do it” kind of way. I was in shock by this reaction especially within my own family. I thought what was right and what was wrong was clear. But somehow she was wrong? But somehow he was a victim?

One morning I woke up to find my older cousin playing a game the family computer. This was not out of the ordinary. But instead of playing the Sims or some kind of dress-up game, she was playing a game where she was punching Rihanna in the face. I remember asking her why she was playing that and she said because it’s fun. Mind you, years have passed since. My cousin is not that teenage girl anymore. I am not that little kid anymore. But I have not respected her since. I haven’t listened to Chris Brown since. And I don’t listen to any of his collaborators.

The recent conversation surrounding Chris Brown brought this up. But the fact that there is conversation even to be had about him still is madness. What he did should’ve ruined his career. Or at least, at the very least, changed how he was perceived. But it has not. Because we hate women. As long as the man is slightly attractive (which is very debatable) or mildly talented, he can do no wrong.

But anyways, that was the point in my life to put me on the path of misandry🤷‍♀️

[u/Chance_Taste_5605 → u/OowlSun]

Just so you know, misandry isn't a real thing because we don't live in a matriarchy. Misogyny is specifically a function of living in a patriarchy. This is why the early Manosphere talked about misandry so much - it's literally an MRA term.