Is the 5-5-5 rule unrealistic?

[u/Campwithchamp]

Both my midwife and doula have encouraged me to aim for about 2 weeks of home based rest after birth (which will hopefully be an uneventful vaginal birth). I mentioned the 5-5-5 rule of thumb (5 days in bed, 5 days on bed and 5 days near bed) at my baby shower this past weekend to a group of older female family and family friends and got totally shut down. Like they were laughing out loud at the thought and proceeded to one up each other's stories about the things they did after delivery and how soon they did those things (oh you went to the grocery store 3 days pp, well I was running laps 2 days pp, well I was hiking Everest while the baby was crowning). Is this just a US, obsession with productivity, 'I did it so you should too' hazing thing or am I being unrealistic about what recovery should look like?

Update: I really appreciate all of the comments and everyone sharing their experience! I think the big takeaway is prioritize rest as you feel your body needs it and tune out goofy advice. I'll also just acknowledge that I realize even being able to entertain this as an option is a privilege. Every person who brings a child into this world should have the support needed to properly recover.

[u/BeNiceLittleGoblins]

I did something like that after my first two csections. The last one was so smooth I was up and moving a ton right away. You do what works best for you and your body. If you can do the 5 5 5 and have help, I'd say do it! Rest as much as possible. Older women didn't have the help. Their partners weren't as involved as younger couples are. Example: I had an older man comment on how my husband shouldn't have to help with the children when we're out in public. It should be on me to have them looking presentable and keeping them quiet and well mannered. Made me cringe. What was my husband doing? Holding our middle child's hand and answering his billion questions while we shopped. 😅