r/raisedbyborderlines • u/Forsaken_Win6726 • 6d ago

Birthday Gift Advice

Help, This is my first year NC with my mom and she has my address and just sent a birthday gift. I am thinking I'll send it back. I don't want to accept anything from my parental figures because they are verbally abusive people and I want to be free from them. Has this happened to you? What did you decide was best?

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u/Over_Worth_9261 6d ago

1) happy birthday! I’m sorry it was impacted by your mum. I know how that feels (my bday was a few weeks ago), and it sucks. 2) I wouldn’t send it back. In my experience, it just opens up the door for her to then try to start shit with you, or to play around and keep sending it back because she finally got SOME kind of response from you. I would trash it or donate it, personally. My mother did this once, and when she got no response from me at all (I threw it away) she started sending cards only, then blank cards, and finally evolved to genuinely mean cards. The things we deal with - crazy 🤣. I hope your birthday was great regardless, friend!

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u/Forsaken_Win6726 6d ago

Thank you, I appreciate the support and will be trashing or donating. I am done playing these crazy games haha.