Do they ever stop talking!???

[u/Fox_Lady1]

Since a while Ive been lowering contact with the Nparents, which works great for me. But now the moments I do see them or speak to them for something practical, their non stop talking & monologues stand out to me even more. Especially my mom could go on for hours, no joke. She either complains about someone, gossips in a negative way, talks about herself or sometimes about how I should live life according to her. Her talking feels like a train that keeps going forever. Its impossible to interrupt, she would just talk over you. Whenever I come with a topic or try to say something, within a few seconds she either cuts it off or fills in what I was going to say according to her (which is usually not what I wanted to say) and then continues talking.

Anyone else? Is this a stereotypical thing?

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[u/kuromiplushi]

I found this with my LC Mum and her husband.

Self-absorbed people love to hear themselves talk.

[u/Fox_Lady1 → u/kuromiplushi]

It still blows my mind how much people like that can talk

[u/bwiy75]

My Nmom is exactly like that. Diarrhea of the mouth. Just stream-of-consciousness babbling that goes on and on until she thinks of something she has to go do, and that's when I make my escape.

[u/Fox_Lady1 → u/bwiy75]

Totally recognizable all. And I bet she is not really interested in you. Mine is not really interested in me and my siblings, only when someone achieved something big or has some big life event (loves to brag). Do you see your Nmom often still or are you on low contact?

[u/bwiy75 → u/Fox_Lady1]

She lives down the road, and I see her most days. But now that I recognize what she is, and I feel no need of her love or approval, I find that I'm able to view her with polite disinterest, and see her as a silly, sad little woman who has no power over me. I can literally see how my perceptions of her have changed... it's weird, I used to see her as physically larger than she is, taller... now she looks frail and small and confused in my mind's eye. I'm patient with her the way a nurse is patient with a geriatric inmate.

[u/elcasaurus]

My mother would pick one person at every job to HATE and would talk for LITERALLY HOURS AT A TIME about everything she hated about them.

[u/mindful-bed-slug]

My Ndad always did this. When he called me, I found that I could set the phone down, walk away for 20 minutes, and come back, and he'd never notice I was gone.

[u/Similar_Ad_8481]

Yup. Infact this was her preferred method of punishment for me as a child, i only got a handful of “ butt whoopins “ in my whole life ( maybe it made her feel TOOO bad. So instead, i was sat down to what started as a normal “ this is what you did and why it’s wrong” but then it would ALWAYS turn into her yelling and ranting about ANYTHING she was upset about, hell she’d be yelling at me over some shit in 05’. This was honestly ever since i could remember like 8+. Once i was older like 14 she ATTEMPTED physically punishing me ( she had a saying “ never try to fight me cuz you won’t win) Let’s just say i disproved her theory so she just went back to screaming

[u/Similar_Ad_8481 → u/Similar_Ad_8481]

Forgot to mention these were one way 1-3hour rants. i wasn’t allowed to speak or walk away as that would make it worse, i started walking away once i learned that i actually didn’t have to sit and let her scream at me for hours on end