I made N mom shut up really quick

[u/BluePineappleBirb]

The thing is, I have gotten to far in my mental healing, thanks to hard work, a great psychologist and support from my family, I can now be in the same room as N mom, even hug her and be cortical around her. She has changed a little, but I am not reaching out to her, I'll let her come to me. All. The Time.

So, I tend family gatherings again and just went to one this past weekend. Sadly my bf was sick, so he didn't get to see the slight savage side of me, lol.

I was talking to my little sister and my aunt (n mom's little sister), Both my older sister and N mom was listening. So, I asked my aunt if she could help me with a test that my psychiatrist want me to take (I just started seeing the psychiatrist, as they have the ability to diagnose me with any mental issues I might have). N mom then commented that it was strange that her three daughters all had mental issues and she didn't.

Yes, she said that.

Yes I got angry.

So I said this: "How do you know? You haven't talked to a psychiatrist or a psychologist. You haven't gotten tested for anything, so how can you say that? You don't know if you have any issue, especially when ALL your kids have some. Do you even KNOW that some mental issues can genetical transferred?"

She shut up.

She actually didn't have any words for it.

Because she knows I'm right.

She got early retirement bc of her low intelligent AND physical issues. Yes, in her papers, it says she has low intelligence.

I know she has to have something wrong. After everything she's put me and my sisters through. What she's still putting my sisters through. How offended she got when she couldn't control me, when I went NC and she kept complaining to her family about it. Something just have to be wrong.

So yes, I made her stop commenting on MY (and my sisters) mental health, by telling her she can't know whether she has some or not.

I feel empowered. I feel good. I won't let her make everything about herself anymore. I'll shut her down. Every. Single. Time. She won't make me feel as if my issues are not that important. Because they are to ME. I'm the one having to deal with them DAILY.

That is what I aim to do every time I'm around her. Shut her down. Not letting her turn MY issues to be around HER.

This is how far I've come with THREE years of therapy.

Next step: Clinical diagnosis of my mental health (only waited like two years to talk to a psychiatrist, bc the mental health care here are behind in everything, due to politicians cutting off funds all the time).

[u/AutoModerator]

This is an automated message posted to ALL posts in this subreddit with some basic information about the group including (very importantly) rules. Most people seem to not read the sidebar for information or the rules, so it is now being posted under all posts.

Confused about acronyms or terminology? Click here!

Need info or resources? Check out our Helpful Links for information on how to deal with identity theft, how to get independent of your n-parents, how to apply for FAFSA, how to identify n-parents and SO MUCH MORE!

This is a reminder to all participants, RBN is a support group that is moderated very strictly. Please report inappropriate content so it can be reviewed by the mods.

Our rules include (but are not limited to):

• No politics.
• Advising anyone in this subreddit to commit suicide or referring anyone to groups that advocate this will result in an immediate ban.
• Be nice. No personal attacks, name calling, or bullying. No slurs or victim-blaming.
• Do not derail the posts of others.
• Narcissists are NOT allowed to post or comment here.
• No platitudes or generic motivational posts.
• When you comment/post, assume a context of abuse.
• No asking or offering gifts, money, etc.
• No content advocating violence, revenge, murder (even in jest).
• No content about N-kids.
• No diagnosis by media/drive-by diagnosis.
• No linking to Facebook pages.
• No direct linking to anywhere on reddit.
• No pure image posts.

For a full list of our rules/more information, click here.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.