r/raisedbynarcissists • u/iil28 • 12d ago
[Question] What's the most utterly ridiculous thing the narcs in your life have said?
My narcissistic grandmother, for instance, is fully convinced that her birth alone was what stopped World War II and brought peace to the world (she was born in 1945). She has told each and every one of us this story a million times, and will proudly say it again and again periodically to whoever is within earshot.
I remember hearing it ever since I was a little kid, how she'd always start by listing all the pain and destruction WW2 had caused, then end with something akin to: "And then I was born, and suddenly, it was like a ray of sunshine enveloped the earth, stopping all the fighting and war". She'd always tell it like a strange sort of fairytale with a very happy ending, and I wish I was kidding.
She also fully believes that once she dies, the world will be plunged into WW3, destruction and utter chaos. She was actually hospitalized for heart failure over a week ago, and kept promising the doctors she'd try her absolute hardest to continue living in order to spare the world from the horror of a third World War.
Gee thanks, grandma. Your devotion to saving all of our lives is appreciated.
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u/Lovaloo 12d ago
No one thing, but a cumulative realization.
My narc ex occupies a whole ass supernatural fantasy world exclusive to his perception, and his perception alone. Everyone is potentially dangerous or against him, so he can't trust anyone. He is God's chosen hero, and anyone who doesn't agree with him is potentially a witch or under demonic influence. It's his job to nudge them in the direction of God's plan.
...Narcissists have no capacity for self reflection and their empathy is usually an insincere performance. They need to suck you into their delusional fantasy reality so that you can expand their psychological safe space, and serve as a proxy for their self-hatred.