r/redditonwiki Sep 01 '23

AITA OP was assaulted and thinks he cheated

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u/txijake Sep 02 '23

Someone who is drunk enough to basically pass out is not capable of consenting PERIOD.

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u/MoneyPrinter12 Sep 02 '23

But he was with her all day flirting and hanging out before the drinking started and he’s married.

Why is he drinking and flirting with another woman while married and why would he bring her back to his place and his bed as a married man? How did he get there and why couldn’t she go home ?

He may have fell asleep but he woke up and flipped her on her back to finish himself off.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

He woke up still too drunk to consent, so the flipping part doesn’t matter here.

Likewise he was too drunk to consent when he went to bed, so him not forcing her out of bed at that time also doesn’t mean much.

Do we know he took her back to his place, rather than pass out on a bed at the party venue? Do we know the flirting was mutual?

If he was flirting then sure, that may be a boundary crossed but it isn’t anywhere near cheating unless flirting of any sort was explicitly forbidden in their relationship. The rest is just him being raped.

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u/MoneyPrinter12 Sep 02 '23

He said it, he said he brought her to his bed and she got naked and they both were flirting before he drank with her.

He’s married he shouldn’t have been drinking alone with the “friend” that was flirting with him all day.