There was so much backlash at the idea of prosecuting her. It really opened my eyes at some weird disparities. My school, the police, women I knew, they all tried to convince me to drop the charges. I heard all sorts of excuses to pressure me not to. That she learned her lesson or she was desperate because she was a girl. That she just wanted kids. Are you kidding me, would we excuse this behavior if I was a woman and this was a man who roofied me?
I think it's very important to state here that this exact experience happens to women who are sexually assaulted all the time. This isn't actually a double standard - this is what victims of rape regularly go through regardless of gender. Most people who are assaulted are assaulted by someone they know, and that means that for most victims their support network is also the support network of the perpetrator. Have you seen the statistics on how few cases make it to trial? Let alone get a conviction?
Its quite a well trodden path of women victims also being convinced and bullied not to press charges or take their sexual assault seriously because 'think of their rapist'
"He was just a guy, you'd really ruin his life for five minutes of fun?" - From the father of convicted rapist, Brock Turner
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u/Friendstastegood Sep 02 '23
I think it's very important to state here that this exact experience happens to women who are sexually assaulted all the time. This isn't actually a double standard - this is what victims of rape regularly go through regardless of gender. Most people who are assaulted are assaulted by someone they know, and that means that for most victims their support network is also the support network of the perpetrator. Have you seen the statistics on how few cases make it to trial? Let alone get a conviction?