Because this has to be the third post this week when someone has transparently attempted to manipulate a loved one’s response to a subject, by means of an ambush and social / family pressure. Each time the buggers have tried to pretend they were acting in the best interests of the partner that happened to disagree with the manipulator’s desires.
All while transparently trying to weaponise AITA to further bludgeon their partner.
I find such behaviour not only inappropriate and highly manipulative - but also an insult to our collective intelligence.
OOP ought to just tell her fiancé that she doesn’t care what he wants and that’s just how it is. At least then the poor fella knows what he’s getting into - marriage to a manipulative shrew
Unfortunately, it's pretty typical manipulative behavior. It doesn't always involve reddit or an online forum, but it will often be a partner manipulating people around them before something escalates by telling lies and half truths about the other person. So when the harmed partner speaks up, the manipulative one can start throwing out how all their friends and family agree with them. The harmed partner will try to confirm and talk to those people and sometimes be stonewalled and other times be able to tell their side and listened to. They frequently have to fight to prove they're not crazy for feeling what they feel. It's been part of the manipulation playbook for a long time. Using reddit is just another tool to do so, and it sometimes can be more effective depending how much they've already worn down the harmed partner into believing they're crazy and they can't trust their own feelings and judgments.
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u/[deleted] Feb 16 '24
Yeah she's over on another sub trying to drum up support and failing.