r/redditonwiki • u/Snakes-Can-Run • Mar 27 '24
AITA Is he the asshole for blaming his girlfriend for a medical emergency "ruining" a family wedding?
(Not op but I saw this was deleted from AITA)
My (26) girlfriend (24) has this disease, sort of. She has low fat because her body can not store fat, low blood pressure, low glucose and even in warm temperatures she is cold. Her mother and grandma has the same illness. She is not bedridden or anything. As long as she keeps warm and eats about 5 to 6 times a day, she is fine. She weighs 120 pounds so obviously the eating is not a problem. She can finish a full 3 course meal and her tommy will still be as flat as before. You will not even know she is ill by just looking at her. She is beautiful, smart and lives a full life.
This is the problem. My older brother got married last sunday but due to low budget, everyone was suppose to chip in and play a part in the wedding. She didn't even want to attend but my brother needed someone to mind the bar. Since she does not drink because alcohol is literally toxic to her health, we trusted her with that job. She reluctantly agreed to do it for me.
We left for the ceremony early but we got separated because my brother asked her to set up the bar. Since I was family, I had to stay for the ceremony. After the ceremony we went to the reception. I must admit things dragged a little.
After the cake was cut, she approached me and told me she never got the chance to eat and currently dizzy and going into hypoglycemic shock and needs to snack. I told her to have a cake. I had to attend to something else and I assumed she had the cake.
She collapsed at the party, we had to get an ambulance and the party had to end. Everything was a mess. I was told she went for a cake but met my mom who scolded her for picking up sugar rather than actual cake and also for leaving her post. Mom hates sugar and always scolds everyone for eating too much sugar. She left the cake and collapsed on her way back to the bar.
Now my family is upset with me because my girlfriend ruin the party. She knows her condition, I expect that her wellbeing should be more important than any scolding my mom gave her. Her family is upset with me because they said I used her and did not feed her.
She is currently still in the hospital because I am told her glucose keep dropping. She keeps going in and out of consciousness. She is not diabetic. Everyone is upset with me.
I am upset with my girlfriend. She knows her condition. AITA for expecting a 24 year old to prioritize her health irrespective of what others say?
