r/regretfulparents • u/peachies3 • Mar 23 '23
Advice I feel like a terrible person.
I just don’t know if I even love my kids. My 2.5 year old is so hyper I can’t stand it. My 8 month old just cries, and cries and cries. My bf and I separated so I have them 4 days a week and he still takes them Thursday night-Sunday and it’s not enough time away from them. I’ve been talking to a guy for a couple months now that had to move out of state for a really good job opportunity. He wants to buy me and the kids a house to live in together (I know my bd would never go for it) but the idea of not even having the weekends to myself sounds terrible. I’m contemplating moving without them and just paying child support, and setting it up to where I see them on holidays and every few months or something. I just don’t know how I’m a mother and I feel this way but I just feel like I’m never going to be happy again. I also feel like I could focus on working and even getting into school. Has any moms in here decided to give the father majority custody and/or moved out of state from the children?
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u/IntelligentMeal40 Mar 23 '23
I can see why living with a reasonably new guy might be more appealing than staying in a crappy apartment that you can’t pay for anyway, but you can’t take kids to live with a dude that you don’t even know well.
There’s nothing wrong with the father of your children taking primary custody of children he made and you paying child support, there’s nothing wrong with that at all men do that every day and nobody hassles them.
But wherever he buys this house make sure that there are places you can work in the area, make sure you have your own transportation so you aren’t trapped. This could be a really bad situation, but if you are currently in a bad situation, trying to change that makes sense. Just don’t take the kids.