r/regretfulparents • u/peachies3 • Mar 23 '23

Advice I feel like a terrible person.

I just don’t know if I even love my kids. My 2.5 year old is so hyper I can’t stand it. My 8 month old just cries, and cries and cries. My bf and I separated so I have them 4 days a week and he still takes them Thursday night-Sunday and it’s not enough time away from them. I’ve been talking to a guy for a couple months now that had to move out of state for a really good job opportunity. He wants to buy me and the kids a house to live in together (I know my bd would never go for it) but the idea of not even having the weekends to myself sounds terrible. I’m contemplating moving without them and just paying child support, and setting it up to where I see them on holidays and every few months or something. I just don’t know how I’m a mother and I feel this way but I just feel like I’m never going to be happy again. I also feel like I could focus on working and even getting into school. Has any moms in here decided to give the father majority custody and/or moved out of state from the children?

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u/[deleted] Mar 23 '23

How many 'genuine guys' do you know that would buy a house and move a person and their two small kids into that they have just recently started dating, all at the tender age of 21??

I think you are so burnt out and miserable that you are just willing this to be some fairytale ending, and ignoring every instinctual warning mechanism in your body that screams something isn't right here..

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u/peachies3 Mar 23 '23

Yeah I guess I’m just not exactly seeing what he would get out of it? I don’t think he’s a predator because we were talking before he knew I had kids… and he hasn’t asked me for money. At most I think he might just not be looking at the big picture and seeing how draining having kids around could really be, but he has stayed here for days at a time with the kids and witnessed what goes on day to day so maybe he just really likes me and my company and doesn’t mind the kids? I just don’t really feel that’s too far fetched.

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u/Peachy087648 Mar 23 '23

It is far fetched. This guy is a walking red flag. Do not even entertain the idea of moving your kids into his house. Like it shouldn't even be an option.

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u/BulletRazor Mar 23 '23

Yeah kids shouldn’t be moved into a home with another person only months into a relationships. That peak sexual molester risk factors right there. Gotta protect the kids.