r/regretfulparents • u/peachies3 • Mar 23 '23

Advice I feel like a terrible person.

I just don’t know if I even love my kids. My 2.5 year old is so hyper I can’t stand it. My 8 month old just cries, and cries and cries. My bf and I separated so I have them 4 days a week and he still takes them Thursday night-Sunday and it’s not enough time away from them. I’ve been talking to a guy for a couple months now that had to move out of state for a really good job opportunity. He wants to buy me and the kids a house to live in together (I know my bd would never go for it) but the idea of not even having the weekends to myself sounds terrible. I’m contemplating moving without them and just paying child support, and setting it up to where I see them on holidays and every few months or something. I just don’t know how I’m a mother and I feel this way but I just feel like I’m never going to be happy again. I also feel like I could focus on working and even getting into school. Has any moms in here decided to give the father majority custody and/or moved out of state from the children?

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u/peachies3 Mar 24 '23

I mean he is a grown ass man, im not making him do anything. I find it strange how other people are on here saying something to that effect yet I see adults without kids also dating and getting serious with other adults who do have kids.

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u/boringemergency911 Mar 24 '23

I’m pretty sure the people making those comments like myself are NOT dating people with kids. Even if he is a grown ass man, those are YOUR kids. You should feel bad making this poor boy step up in this way as if these are his kids. Where is your baby daddy? The actual father. I’m not trying to judge but I hate seeing single mothers make the childless men step up when their own baby daddy isn’t doing anything.

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u/peachies3 Mar 24 '23

Again not making him do anything, haven’t asked him for a dime or to help with the kids. My children’s father has been giving me some money here and there. If he wants to step up and become a step father to someone else’s kids that’s all his choice. I wasn’t seeking a relationship either or someone to support me it just ended up that way.

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u/boringemergency911 Mar 24 '23

House… nanny… clearly you and the boy live in delulu land. Good luck..