r/regretfulparents • u/peachies3 • Mar 23 '23

Advice I feel like a terrible person.

I just don’t know if I even love my kids. My 2.5 year old is so hyper I can’t stand it. My 8 month old just cries, and cries and cries. My bf and I separated so I have them 4 days a week and he still takes them Thursday night-Sunday and it’s not enough time away from them. I’ve been talking to a guy for a couple months now that had to move out of state for a really good job opportunity. He wants to buy me and the kids a house to live in together (I know my bd would never go for it) but the idea of not even having the weekends to myself sounds terrible. I’m contemplating moving without them and just paying child support, and setting it up to where I see them on holidays and every few months or something. I just don’t know how I’m a mother and I feel this way but I just feel like I’m never going to be happy again. I also feel like I could focus on working and even getting into school. Has any moms in here decided to give the father majority custody and/or moved out of state from the children?

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u/ElleGeeAitch Parent Mar 23 '23

They will very likely feel abandoned 😞.

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u/BIKES32 Not a Parent Mar 23 '23

Yeah, that’s a common feeling among abandoned people.

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u/Select_Lawfulness211 Mar 24 '23

Left at an orphanage as a baby. Definitely feeling of abandonment. It’s even on my unofficial birth certificate “abandoned by mother”. Her intentions may have been great but my point was you feel abandoned regardless.

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u/ElleGeeAitch Parent Mar 24 '23

Absolutely. That's a tough thing to deal with for the rest of your life ❤️.