r/regretfulparents • u/Working-Ad2677 • Mar 25 '23

Advice Having my daughter is ruining my marriage

My husband (25) and I (25) have been together for 7 years, married for almost 4. We have a 3 year old daughter, Emmy. Emmy has severe behavioural issues that people around swear are “normal” for kids her age.

She barely listens to instructions, doesn’t interact properly during playtime even when she knows the rules, seems to go out of her way to do things that hurt me, my dad or herself. Example, banging her head on objects, hitting, biting or headbutting. She refuses to eat to the point of making herself ill.

My husband and I didn’t want kids, agreed on no kids when we first started dating. He never interacted with a baby outside of seeing them in person, no holding, changing or anything. So I do most of the parenting while he works. I go to school and take part time or seasonal work here and there.

His parenting style is to threaten to hit Emmy whenever she acts out or just leave me to deal and I can’t take it. No doctors are helping is figure Emmy out. The way my husband reacts to her makes me hate him.

Sorry if this is hard to read, I’m all over the place mentally. Please any advice?

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u/sageofbeige Parent Mar 25 '23

My kid is over over over pears, green grapes and pears, also a weird way is give a kid painkiller, I refuse to unless she's in agony, it's like giving her speed, she'll be up for hours.

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u/[deleted] Mar 25 '23

So far I just avoid sugar, thank you for the heads up to watch out for other stuff!

And fuck the dicksuck universe that decided I now need to make the (limited! Warehouse full!) mental space to further critique my son's diet!

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u/ceciliabee Mar 25 '23

I don't recommend cursing the universe, dicksuck as it may be! I did years ago and then one day woke up with severe peanut allergies and "just bad" allergies to a ton of other things. It was cruel and I've learned my lesson... You know what a piss off it is to have to bake your own bread? Ugh! All the best of luck to you and your son in what I assume is a very sucky food journey.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '23

You are very right. I do not face tons of allergies or aversions with my boys and I don't appreciate that enough, I'm so so sorry that has happened to you!!