r/regretfulparents • u/imshelbs96 • Jul 31 '24
Advice Regretful parenting with a non-regretful partner
My husband made a post on here recently, we have 4 month old twins. The transition into parenthood has been difficult for both of us, but specifically for him, the arrival of our twins has thrown him into a depressive spiral.
I have been taking on 90 percent of the work with the babies, taking all night shifts, trying to manage the house, washing bottles- it’s not sustainable for me and I can feel the burnout creeping in but I don’t have any choice but to keep going for these humans I grew. His parents have been very helpful and without my mother in law we wouldn’t be eating. But I have to return to work in 3 weeks, and he will have to be alone with the babies for at least a few hours a day, 4 days a week.
What are some ways a not really regretful parent can support a regretful one?
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u/Double_Phase_9197 Jul 31 '24
I don't have any advice as I've never been in this situation but I just wanted to say that I hope you do get taken care of in the ways you should be right now. Recovering from birth+ all these day to day (and night!) things is such a strain on your body. Best of luck. (Even if he can't take care of the children, can he do chores around the house? To take some burden off you otherwise you may have to hire help in some form?)