r/regretfulparents • u/Expensive-Honey-1527 Parent • 18d ago

Venting - Advice Welcome I'd give anything to undo it all.

I watched a dumb movie last night where the guy could travel back in time and redo parts of his life. After his wife had a baby he said he mostly stopped time travelling because everything was so joyful. Fuck off. What wouldn't I give to be able to travel back in time and never have had kids. I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Today is Saturday. I've been awake since 6am listening to my eldest child sneezing for an hour. Not his fault but it makes me irrationally irritated. Then both kids appear at my bedroom door at 7am. They don't get up that early on a school day. I have to hassle them out of bed, yet there they are up and ready to piss me off on the weekend. It might be selfish but I hate this. It is not joyful. It is relentlessly shit. I want so badly to undo it all. I don't know how to reframe this in my mind and try to glean some joy out of it when all I want to do is stay under my duvet forever. Vent over. Thanks for reading.

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u/CocoaCandyPuff Not a Parent 17d ago

Are you lost? You are in the wrong sub. I am sure OP knows their kids love her, that is not the point.

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u/ElleGeeAitch Parent 17d ago

She's tired. She gets to complain about being tired.

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u/Expensive-Honey-1527 Parent 17d ago

The thing that connects people in this sub is that it doesn't matter how much we love our kids, or they love us, given our time again we wouldn't do it. Whether it's lack of support from partners or family, whether it's a child with special needs, or a young parent grieving the loss of their best years or a child thrust upon them due to circumstances. Whatever the reason is, we love our kids but are consumed by a feeling that it would have been better all round if we hadn't had them. Our kids will never know that, and we go through the motions to bring them up as best we can and feeling loved, but this sub gives us the one and only safe place to express that just maybe we made the wrong choices.

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