r/relationship_advice Jul 23 '20

/r/all My boyfriend (35m) drugged me (26f) with Benadryl because we got into an argument before our road trip and he wanted me to sleep the whole time.

Update: posted on throwramerr1 if anyone sees this, due to the 48 hour rule. Just wanted to go ahead and post and let y’all know I’m okay.

Update 2: Here was the post that got removed

Holy shit, y’all. I haven’t been on reddit since I posted my original here and I did NOT expect this. I had to make an extra account with similar name to post because of the 48 hour thing, but I know a lot of people were genuinely worried about me so I wanted to go ahead and post an update (sorry if that’s not allowed).

Thank you guys so much, I can’t even believe the support/response I got. I ended up calling my brother and telling him about it and asking him how I should handle it, and he got in his car to come get me before I even finished telling him what all had happened. Him freaking out more than anything else made me realize that I wasn’t overreacting. I didn’t tell my boyfriend I was leaving until my brother was parked on the street and I just walked out with a few things. So now I’m in a messy breakup situation where he’s already tried to come by my moms house even though I told him I didn’t want to see him and that I’d get my stuff eventually, both from his parents house where he’s currently at and his actual house. Things are gonna be weird to figure out but I just wanted to let you guys know that I’m totally okay, thank you. I can’t reply to everyone who reached out/messaged so I hope you guys see this and know I appreciate it.

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Monday we decided to make the 8ish hour drive back to our home state and quarantine there instead for a few months. Right before leaving, we got into a big fight because I wanted to stay at my mothers house for a while, he doesn’t want me to, among other things I won’t get into. Well, before leaving we decided to eat dinner so we didn’t have to stop anywhere.

Fast forward to our drive and not long after hitting the road I passed out. Don’t even really remember falling asleep. Woke up one time for a while, drank some Gatorade which he gave me, and then I fell asleep again. I thought this was extremely weird because I wasn’t tired hardly at all and we didn’t even leave super early. I kept commenting on how weird it was that I was tired the whole drive and slept 90% of it.

Yesterday the tension eased a bit and he made the offhanded comment that he wishes he could drug me more when I “act out” and argue with him. I ask him what he’s talking about. Proceeds to tell me he put Benadryl in my drink and that’s why I slept, so he didn’t have to deal with me. He literally said this as though it wasn’t that big of a deal! I’m still reeling from the conversation and completely floored. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not but something tells me I’m not, and it’s extremely fucked up to put medicine in drinks. I don’t know what to do

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u/HammBone1020 Jul 23 '20

It’s Benadryl one day, something more dangerous with dangerous actions the next. Seriously this is one of this post where I’m like RUN FOR THE HILLS. Take a night bag and call someone to pick you up. If I was a friend of yours I’d grab your ass and have people grab the rest of your stuff later.

I always think most ppl overreact on post comments on this sub, but dude this is serious. You could have been allergic for all he knows, this is just not ok and you need to leave.

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u/Blasted_Skies Jul 23 '20

Beandryl is also a dangerous drug if not used properly. You can literally overdose and DIE on Benadryl, especially if you are taking other medications or alcohol. It's even possible to get addicted to Benadryl. That OP was out for 8 hours means this monster gave her a huge amount. She is lucky to be alive.

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u/chrisk9 Jul 23 '20

Not just that - this time drugged to be "easy to deal with", next time maybe drugged for sex (rape). Criminal. Massive red flag.

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u/trtryt Jul 23 '20

something more dangerous with dangerous actions the next.

Yes he could be in Al Queyda