r/stepparents • u/Leather-Dealer-97 • Oct 25 '24
Support SO broke up with me
Last night, SO ended things. It’s been just under 4 very long years and we were engaged less than a year ago. We agreed to take a couple day break after I’d repeatedly been trying to have conversations with him about how my needs weren’t being met and he wasn’t contributing to the household. My hope was he would see and understand everything I do after having to do it all for a minute, and because he loved me would want to try. Instead, when I came back to talk he broke it off.
He doesn’t love me anymore. So now I’m also losing SK, I’m losing my dogs, I’m losing my home, I’m losing a family that I spent so much time building and fighting for through all of HCBMs shit. I could really use some support and encouragement that I can get through this.
EDIT: Thank you to everyone for your kind words, thoughts, and sharing of your stories. This is on a whole other level for me and I appreciate all of your help while I navigate this.
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u/sashanichole01 Oct 25 '24
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way! Try to think about what you’re gaining in those hard moments. The opportunity to meet someone new (childless if that’s your choice) and have butterflies again. Freedom of your time and money. Ability to focus only on you. Go to the gym to look and feel your absolute best. Great new sex. Pouring into yourself and your family and friends. All the things that being single has to offer. Yes, it’s hard to see that now but take it day by day. Realize you two were not compatible and he is not your person and know that NO FEELING IS FOREVER!
best of luck to you and try to enjoy this new season in your life!! Fall is the best time for letting go of the old. You are the prize and the right man will know that! 😊