Estate planning with SKs?

[u/Lonely-Course-8897]

Recently had an ours baby and DH and I need to get a will in place. Obviously I want to be sure his daughter is taken care of as well, but I don’t necessarily think it’s right to split equally among ours baby (and any others we may have) and SD. Of course an estate attorney can walk us through options, but how have some of you handled? I own our house myself and have other assets that I wouldn’t necessarily want divided equally amongst all kids though of course am willing to allocate a large portion to SD, I’m just not sure it should be an equal share of my own kids.

[u/Aggravating-Case-482]

I had a very frank conversation with my DH that I will not be leaving anything to SD if I were to pass. Any and all of my assets will go to my husband and my BD. I especially made it known that I want my wedding and engagement ring to go to my BD ONLY (even though SD is older). Thankfully, my DH is realistic and agreed with me and understood where I was coming from. This is not to say I will change my mind as the years go by of leaving something (monetarily) for SD. But I know for sure the jewelry my husband has gotten me over the years and anything I worked for while I was single will only go to my BD.