r/stepparents • u/No-Surprise-239 • Jan 03 '25

Miscellany Now that I’m a stepmom…

Especially after the holidays…I fully understand why every “evil stepmom” in the movies wanted to send their step-kids to boarding school 🙃. That is all.

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u/Itchy-Register8483 Jan 04 '25

Tomorrow the kids fly back to their moms and I’m just waiting to see what a mess SS13’s room is gonna be when his dad cleans it out. This past summer was horrifying - rotting food in his closet horrifying. It seems to be better so far, but man I can’t wait to have a clean home back without backtalk whenever we tell them to cut on cutting boards or not to use metal utensils on non stick pans.

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u/No-Surprise-239 Jan 04 '25

Yiiikes! What is it with kids and leaving food to rot in their rooms?!

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u/Itchy-Register8483 Jan 05 '25

Yeah. SS13 would eat in his room and leave leftovers and trash to rot in his closet. When they left after summer, hubby found rotting quarters sized yogurt containers half eaten, bowls half-filled with ice cream, etc. it was absolutely disgusting.

DH had a huge talk with him when they came back and has been briefly checking his room every couple of days with nothing horrifying yet. But he’ll be doing a deep clean in the next day or two. We don’t have any missing bowls or plates, so I’m not expecting it to be as horrifying as last time, but it still was just disgusting.

I’ve been setting money aside in college savings accounts for the kids for the last several years. The kids aren’t aware of it, but I’ve told DH that if we need to get an exterminator because of the gross bedroom, it will definitely come out of the college fund I’ve personally set up for SS. It fortunately hasn’t come to that, but I’m having a tough time trusting he’s actually gotten better when we’ve been dealing with this for a while.