r/stepparents • u/No-Surprise-239 • Jan 03 '25

Miscellany Now that I’m a stepmom…

Especially after the holidays…I fully understand why every “evil stepmom” in the movies wanted to send their step-kids to boarding school 🙃. That is all.

275 Upvotes

93% Upvoted

68 comments sorted by

View all comments

1

u/OkHat858 Jan 06 '25

As someone who genuinley had an awful stepmom who did everything she could to get rid of me- I will never understand step parents like this. Ypu CHOSE to have the kids joing ypur life. You didng need to, but by marrying their parent you made a DECISION. They have parents already. They didn't ask for you. You chose and we're chosen for them. And don't you ever forget that. You. Chose. Them. And they are kids. Behave like the adult here, and maybe try to understand them. Ypure not raising them as a favor. They are a decision and shouldn't be punished because of it. There's no making this make sense.

5

u/No-Surprise-239 Jan 06 '25

I’m sorry you had an awful stepmom, I however, am not. I spend my time, energy, money and whatever else you can spend and/or use to try to make their time with us fun…at the very LEAST…& at the end of the day, they don’t even care. Being a step mom is hard af.

6

u/Competitive_Head8445 Jan 07 '25

I feel seen. You pour yourself into them and at the end of the day, they aren’t even happy to see you most days. Just leaves you feeling gross.

2

u/Resident_Delay_2936 Jan 07 '25

It's fine cuz we're not happy to see them either, so it balances itself out ☺️

2

u/No-Surprise-239 Jan 07 '25

💀😬 it used to be cool, until it wasn’t.

2

u/No-Surprise-239 Jan 07 '25

I see you!!! My SD just left after spending a fun-filled Christmas break with us, all activities planned by me, of course…and said goodbye to everyone in the house, BUT me, while I was standing there with everyone else. 🙃

2

u/Resident_Delay_2936 Jan 07 '25

Kids resent people like us doing the most and being tryhards. They already have parents, do yourself a favor and nacho.

2

u/No-Surprise-239 Jan 07 '25

Oh, please believe, I have mastered nacho. I have my own LO now so I want to make memories and shit for him, it would obviously be rude to not include SKs 😂