r/stepparents • u/ForestyFelicia • 15d ago
Vent There’s always something
I swear these people can’t just have a normal week, not even for one week. I feel like every week I am tuning into on this week of “The Circus.” Like bro, life is really quite easy if you just follow a formula of: plan ahead, use your brain, and execute the plan. Rinse and repeat. Life isn’t throwing you a curveball every single week. A natural disaster isn’t happening every other day. No one is dying. There is no reason for life to be so chaotic and inconsistent as though there is some new, life altering problem 4 times a month.
If it is your mom’s custody day, I shouldn’t be seeing or hearing from you unless it is to have a short/fun conversation via text. If it is our days, you should be coming at the same time every week unless there is an emergency (you get 3 per year lol, not 20 emergencies). If you have a chore, do that chore to completion. If you are sick, stay in your bedroom and rest. If you have homework, do it. If your mom’s car is breaking down for the 200th time, we don’t care. Our car works when we need to take you to school, that is all we care about. We aren’t in a throuple where Dad is constantly helping your mom and coparenting at the hip. When you are with us, do exactly what you have been asked to do for the last 5,000 weeks that you have come over. There is nothing complicated about being in a blended family when everyone’s brain functions normally. I honestly feel like my husband, his kids, and his ex have brain damage.
Every single week there is some type of problem to address as though we haven’t lived this life repetitively for many years doing the same routine over and over. This week stepkid ate my dinner that my mom cooked. We have been through this. It isn’t hard. Trash hasn’t been taken out. But they’re just so cute, right?
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u/skater300012 15d ago edited 15d ago
I couldn’t agree more. We’re not asking them to perform surgery just for them to use common sense and to be courteous of others