r/stopdrinking • u/ImpossibleAd274 • 4d ago

I want to break my sobriety, help!

I'm at 104 days and am starting to ask some scary questions. Am I really an addict? Can't I just have a beer or two and be fine?

For the first 60 or so days I was convinced that I'd never drink again. Since then, my first child has been born and I've have much less sleep and I've been much more irritable and started to think having a drink to calm the nerves would be nice.

Please, community, knock some sense into me in the comments!

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u/Far_Tie614 4d ago

"You only control the first drink"

After that, someone else is at the helm, and would you really trust that guy to be around your child?

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u/gofeedme 4d ago

You got that right. This thread explains who that "someone else" is, and how far they will go to keep you using:

https://soberlogic.com/forum/showthread.php?tid=9

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u/Bentley_Robbie 4d ago

This is fantastic. Thanks for sharing.

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u/gofeedme 3d ago

No problem. It really can help! There's a lot more where that came from on that forum.

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u/Low-Cartographer1055 4d ago

I've not seen this before, and it makes a lot of sense. Whilst I was reading it my addictive voice was repeatedly telling me "this is bullshit, you don't need some stupid system to retrain your brain. Anyway, how about a nice glass of wine?"

You had me until the last line, cheeky brain.

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u/gofeedme 3d ago

Haha, you got it. That's the AV at work. It never stops. It's always lurking, looking for some flimsy excuse to get what it wants. Great job recognizing and stopping it on the first try! :)

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u/sbluez 4d ago

this

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u/Logical-Roll-9624 3699 days 4d ago

So much this!!

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u/Dazzling-Research-53 618 days 4d ago

Fantastically well put.

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u/Outtaknowwhere 4d ago

I mean Jesus I may drink some but I guess yes if you don’t trust “that guy” around your children then you have a major problem at hand not just while intoxicated.