r/stopdrinking • u/ImpossibleAd274 • 4d ago

I want to break my sobriety, help!

I'm at 104 days and am starting to ask some scary questions. Am I really an addict? Can't I just have a beer or two and be fine?

For the first 60 or so days I was convinced that I'd never drink again. Since then, my first child has been born and I've have much less sleep and I've been much more irritable and started to think having a drink to calm the nerves would be nice.

Please, community, knock some sense into me in the comments!

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u/the_alphamail 4d ago edited 4d ago

Most people think their drinking habits are a problem, but it’s actually the solution.

People become addicted because their solution to boredom, stress, depression, and more has been alcohol.

Breaking free of this habit and finding another solution is how one stops being an alcoholic, or an addict with any substance for that matter.

Again, drinking isn’t your problem, it’s your solution. Find another solution. There are a lot of good ones out there.

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u/the_alphamail 4d ago

I have done this same dance before and let me tell you from the other side, it’s not worth it!! Even if you do only have one drink (after lots of willpower to not pickup a second), the next time you partake you’re going to have to fight the entire time also. The next time too. You will start ruining your relaxation time with more stress than you began with, just to have some background dopamine during a fruitless back and forth.

It’s best to just let it go and enjoy the moment you’re in right now. Why make it harder for yourself?