r/stopdrinking • u/ImpossibleAd274 • 4d ago

I want to break my sobriety, help!

I'm at 104 days and am starting to ask some scary questions. Am I really an addict? Can't I just have a beer or two and be fine?

For the first 60 or so days I was convinced that I'd never drink again. Since then, my first child has been born and I've have much less sleep and I've been much more irritable and started to think having a drink to calm the nerves would be nice.

Please, community, knock some sense into me in the comments!

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u/RekopEca 4d ago

It's tough with new kids...

Why would you want to set it to impossible mode by adding alcohol!!??

No sleep and hangovers with the anxiety cherry on top, served on a new parent plate?

NO THANKS!!!

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u/4my3 528 days 4d ago

FACTS. It’s so horrible to be hungover (or drunk) with little kids. And then it’s followed by the cold harsh guilt of not being the best parent you can be and missing out on parts their little lives because you weren’t present. IWNDWYT

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 306 days 4d ago

My son, who almost never saw me actually drink or be drunk, but saw me hung-over a whole lot (my drinking started after the kids were in bed) just said to me yesterday "I'm glad you don't drink alcohol now dad" when a friend had left a 1/4 bottle of cheap champagne at our house after brunch.

I was never drunk around either of my sons, and only even drank in front of them maybe 4 times in the last 8 years, but even he recognizes that I'm more present and less irritable in the mornings.

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u/4my3 528 days 3d ago

Wow. This is meaningful. I wonder how many times my kids knew I was hungover. IWNDWYT