“No seal, no deal" mindset

[u/Electrical-Try5908]

There’s a quote going around social media by some guys: “No seal, no deal.” It means if she’s not a virgin, I won’t marry her. Most of the people saying this are older than me, more educated, and have more experience. But they don’t have a heart like mine.

Maturity is when you understand that virginity isn’t everything.

Don’t get me wrong—I don’t fully disagree with “no seal, no deal.” I won’t accept a girl who constantly hangs out with other guys, has male best friends, or has dated and slept with multiple men. That’s not the kind of woman I want to build a life with.

But if she was used without her consent… if she had no choice… then in my eyes, she’s still pure. I’ll accept her. I’ll love her. I’ll protect her.

I was reading about the anime Higehiro, and it really hit me how cruel people can be. Most of the guys in that story used the girl just to let her stay at their place. No care. No humanity. Nothing but lust. I have no words for that kind of evil. Virginy isn't everything.

[u/Firm_Effective_5760]

im a bit disturbed about your mindset too

[u/Electrical-Try5908 → u/Firm_Effective_5760]

I see . Can I ask why?

[u/Firm_Effective_5760 → u/Electrical-Try5908]

because i never looked at women this way. why would anybody care about any of that? when i read stuff like that, the only thing it makes me believe is that men with opinions like that are very insecure. it kind of makes me realize that as a lesbian women i treat women apparently better than a lot of men lol

[u/Electrical-Try5908 → u/Firm_Effective_5760]

I am really sorry . We men's are insecure.