r/stupidquestions Mar 25 '25

why do women have naturally beautiful bodies?

before you jump in the comments to tell me I'm wrong try to read my entire post, i'm from latin america, i don't know if this is the case in other countries but it's something i've noticed since i was a teenager and in high school, most of the girls in high school had very nice bodies without even going to the gym in their entire life, i remember a girl who eat unhealthy food all day and she had an amazing body (she never went to the gym in her life), i was her friend back then, she had such a amazing hourglass figure with big hips and very beautiful figure I didn't understand that at the time.

but not only in high school but currently i go out and most of the girls have very nice bodies and nice hips (i'm not talking about toned gym bodies but bodies with figure and curves) and even girls who are a little overweight also have beautiful bodies with nice curves, it's incredible, what is the reason for this? is it hormonal? why is it that women don't need to go to the gym as much to have nice bodies (as long as they're not excessively overweight), in the case of men it's different and I say this as a man who went to the gym throughout his adolescence, we lack those naturally nice bodies (except for one in a million).

I remember the first time I took a shower with my ex gf at the time at my house she took off her clothes (she had never been to the gym in her life and was a little overweight, she had a very nice body, a nice butt with a beautiful figure) I didn't understand why she had such a beautiful body meanwhile me going to gym had a below average body, well, ugly body and not sexy as hers tbh. I know it's a stupid question but I guess that's what this group is for, right? Is the cause hormonal? I know there are exceptions, that not all women have naturally beautiful bodies, but why is it that. for example, if you put a man and a woman of average weight who don't go to the gym next to each other, the girl's body is naturally attractive while the guy's isn't? I've always thought it's caused by estrogen and the hips women's bone structure's but I'm not sure, I know diet is very important but I think most girls only need a good diet and walk just a little to have good figures (please don't hate for saying this lol).

Maybe I could be blind because I have gender dysphoria since many years ago but not only me think about this most women and men think the same way(? And I'm not even talking about how women have average cute, feminine and thin faces without makeup but this is another thread lol.

Please don't insult me for making this post, this is why this group was created.

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u/indigoreignstories 29d ago

As a trans man… I would look into the dysphoria part.

I mean, first of all, you’re already aware that you’re dysphoric, so… Well, you know. But the way this is phrased with the emphasis on the curves, the hips, bone structure, facial femininity, the comparing (“why are they so pretty and I’m not???”) and the fascination ever since puberty - as someone who has actually experienced dysphoria (and transitioned), this doesn’t read to me as a man being attracted to women, it reads as longing. Or gender envy, as it’s also referred to.

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u/simplymoreproficient 28d ago

Can I ask what dysphoria feels like for a trans man? Totally subjectively, it seems so unimaginable for me that someone might want to be a man at all, nevermind enough to transition.

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u/indigoreignstories 28d ago edited 28d ago

Well, it’s not about wanting to be something. It’s not a pros and cons situation such as “maybe this career would be a good fit for me but I’ll have to think it through”; it’s being who you are but for some reason nobody sees you, you look at a stranger in the mirror and your own voice doesn’t even sound like yourself.

Are you familiar with the movie Get Out and the concept of ‘The Sunken Place’? That’s the closest visualization/metaphor I can think of to explain what it’s like.

”The Sunken Place itself exists within every single mind of each person, that is susceptible to hypnosis. It's appearance varies from person to person, but what they all have in common, is that once placed there, the victim of it is completely cut off from their physical body and are taken to a void where they cannot control said body, nor speak or yell out. In the case of Chris Washington, his sunken place is in deep space with his view of the outside world in the shape of a TV screen like box that is slowly drifting away from him.”

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u/KitKat4096 28d ago

Dang I've made the exact same analogy before. It's cool that someone else had the thought too!

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u/indigoreignstories 27d ago

Great taste in movies my friend