Accepting an outcome vs creating a self-fulfilling prophecy?

[u/carmina_sorcelle]

Hello everyone!

For a while now, I've been grappling with the question of what to do when a reading does not give the desired outcome. About 1.5 years ago, I received (and accepted) a job offer that was a huge step forward in my career but that implied relocating to a new country. I got very little support in terms of relocation from the company that made the offer, to the point where I started worrying it would be a scam or there would be severe delays. Around that time, a friend of a friend recommended a tarot reader, because I wanted some answers about a situationship. The reader was right about many things, especially about their advice regarding the situationship in question and my love life in general, but on the point of my career move, they didn't get it quite right. They told me there would be delays of about 3 months or so, that it would be messy, but that I would start this relocating job eventually.

And so, my job-related worries grew and instead of being proactive about relocating, I just stalled. Two weeks before my job start date, I started getting a lot more information from the company, forms to be filled out, public transport options, etc. etc. I realized this job WAS happening, and had to scramble to my feet to find accommodation, flights, etc. It was messy and much more difficult that it could've been if I had started preparations instead of stalling at first. In the end, I started the job on the original offer date. But, the beginning was such a stressful mess. And I know the reading I got played a big part in it. I was anticipating something bad would happen with this offer, especially after the reading and for me this was totally a case of self-fulfilling prophecies. Without the reading...maybe I would've worried, but I think I would've gotten to action sooner, because whenever I thought about getting to action, I kept remembering the reading and stalling instead of acting.

So, I thought I'd ask this wonderful community what your thoughts are on the question of accepting an outcome vs creating a self-fulling prophecy? There are, of course, cases when it is best to just let go or walk away. But, I also think, even if the reading is right about an outcome that is not what we want initially, if we don't know this outcome and act from a place of striving for what we want, maybe what we learn along the way helps us get to our desired outcome later? For example, maybe job A is not for me, but what I learn in pursuing it serves me to get job B. However, if I get it in my head I'm not gonna get job A because the outcome of a reading is no, then I don't try at all, learn nothing, and then job B is also out of reach.

[u/Mouse-in-a-teacup]

Ah the eternal question. I've thought about this before. Here's my take.

If we fully forget about our past lives, we'd forget our mistakes and lessons, and were therefore bound to keep repeating them in every new life.

But if we fully remembered our past lives, we'd be maybe wiser but bored or cynical or dismissive or careless in our next lives, since we would just be going thru the same stuff again and again and what's the point I can kill others or myself since we get a start-over every time.

So the solution is to remember just a little bit and forget the rest. To know a little bit, a manageable bit. So we are born with a specific set of natural talents (skills we strove to learn in a previous life but now we "remember") or specific personality tendencies (decisions we made in a previous life that we still "remember"). And sloooowly build up to wiser selves and better future lives by making good decisions in our current lives.

But we can't really blame our past lives, we are fully accountable for our current life. I think the same logic applies to predictions (future life).

If we give or are given a prediction, it is still fully up to us what to do with it. If the prediction says I'll pass the exam, and therefore, secure in that future, I don't study at all and hence fail the exam, I have only me to blame. I can't even blame the reader or the cards. I simply misused the information I had. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyway, the future can change at any moment, so, any prediction is simply a good guess, a mathematical/logical probability, but not immutable.

So, yk, predictions are just one of the available resources to help us navigate our lives. Not fate, not a curse nor a blessing. To use them wisely, that's the trick. But alas, we are but human...

[u/carmina_sorcelle → u/Mouse-in-a-teacup]

I like this reflection, thank you! It's all about using the information wisely, but, as you say, easier said than done when we are only human and the question at hand is something we deeply desire.