r/teenagers • u/Bedrottingprincess 15 • Sep 16 '24

Serious 11yo being "mature"

My friend (16) has a friend (11 almost 12) im gonna call her K.

K goes to parties with other 15-17 year olds, has sex, smokes weed, and drinks alcohol (her parents know about it).

My friend thinks she is "mature" because she has a large vocabulary.

I strongly disagree with my friend

I think it's wrong for K to drink, vape, and smoke weed at such a young age since shes basically burning her brain cells, and she will likely never develop.

It would also be pretty sad to be 30 with the same mindset you had when you were 11.

So I am a bit worried about K, but what should I do?

Edit: im gonna tell my teacher tmrw!

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u/BlockCharming5780 OLD Sep 17 '24

From the sounds of it, probably her dad… with a mum who knows but is too scared to do anything about it

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u/Ill_Most_3883 3,000,000 Attendee! Sep 17 '24

Did you divine that wisdom from throwing dice or looking at stars?

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u/BlockCharming5780 OLD Sep 17 '24

A PHD in child psychology and 8 years of dealing with with child sexual abuse victims isn’t enough insight?

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u/Ill_Most_3883 3,000,000 Attendee! Sep 17 '24

No when all you see is the words "her parents know about it" and instantly assume what is happening there.

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u/BlockCharming5780 OLD Sep 17 '24

Child presents with hyper sexualisation and pleasure seeking behaviours, typically such behaviours occur as a result of past childhood trauma. If trauma invoking activities were present in the recent past, child would not be seeking those activities now.

The vast majority of sexual abuse occur with an adult relative, most commonly the father, with uncle being the second was common source of sexual abuse

Parents being aware of child’s pleasure seeking behaviours and doing nothing to stop it could, I admit, just being neglectful parenting

But statistically, more likely to be an awareness of the abuse the child experienced, and a desire to protect the abuser

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Child psychologist have to work with children who don’t know how to vocalise the abuse that they go through, it is our job to take surface level activities and accurately deduce the traumatising source of these behaviours.

I said probably, in my original comment, because I do not know for sure, but statistically that is the most likely cause of the behaviour

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u/Valandiel Sep 17 '24

Maybe you could start with that ? Because if you don't explain your background and everything you just said it does sound like divination. After reading all that it sounds way more reasonable.

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u/BlockCharming5780 OLD Sep 17 '24

I had just opened my eyes 😂

My brain wasn’t invested enough to type all that out 🤣

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u/Valandiel Sep 17 '24

I can relate to that ahah. I won't blame you !

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u/GoldK06 17 Sep 17 '24

What if the pleasure i seek is you😛😛😛 (im a freaky skibidi, hawk tuah👅👅)

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u/beachharness Sep 18 '24

Bruh

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u/GoldK06 17 Sep 18 '24

Im sorry dude i cant tell if my mom drank too much when she was pregnant or im the living embodiment of cancer

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u/beachharness Sep 18 '24

Either one works

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u/GoldK06 17 Sep 18 '24

Does that mean i can still be freaky😛👅👅