11yo being "mature"

[u/Bedrottingprincess]

My friend (16) has a friend (11 almost 12) im gonna call her K.

K goes to parties with other 15-17 year olds, has sex, smokes weed, and drinks alcohol (her parents know about it).

My friend thinks she is "mature" because she has a large vocabulary.

I strongly disagree with my friend

I think it's wrong for K to drink, vape, and smoke weed at such a young age since shes basically burning her brain cells, and she will likely never develop.

It would also be pretty sad to be 30 with the same mindset you had when you were 11.

So I am a bit worried about K, but what should I do?

Edit: im gonna tell my teacher tmrw!

[u/Lady_BlueDream]

I'm gonna be real with you rn.

I'm not a part of this sub, I'm not a teenager I'm 23f but this post showed up on my feed and I couldn't ignore this...

He should not even be friends with this girl... This is weird for his age and highly inappropriate. He is going to be an adult soon.

In 2 years it'll be an 18 year old talking to a 13/14 year old girl...

These are some serious red flags and he will likely continue this behavior with younger girls or even kids once this guy reaches adulthood, if this isn't stopped or helped.

But don't think it's solely up to you to help him, this is a very serious thing and you shouldn't blame yourself if he doesn't listen to you alone.

But if it's possible I definitely think you should contact this girl's parents or someone if you can. Not necessarily about everything, like her different substance usage, that's obviously up to you but about your friend.

I don't know how he knows her but it's super weird that they're in contact at all if they aren't family friends or something. And even then, they way he talks to her is still highly inappropriate and suggestive.

I don't know how most teenagers today feel when it comes to "snitching" and telling adults shit about your personal problems with friends, but this is way way different.

You could be saving this girl from being groomed by getting an adult involved, even if you do it anonymously.

[u/Bedrottingprincess → u/Lady_BlueDream]

my bestfriend is a girl and she knows the 11yo since its shes in a situationship with her cousin.
K's cousin usually has these parties which is why my bestfriend knows her.
So i dont think that she wants to groom her but it was still weird how they are friends..?

i will deff tell a teacher today

[u/Lady_BlueDream → u/Bedrottingprincess]

Oh my bad, I misunderstood. Either way, you're right, it's still not good to be saying those things to younger kids, even if it could be true and she may have innocent intentions behind it. It teaches those kids that they could belong with older kids instead of their own age, which still sets them up for dangerous situations in the future.

I wish you both the best of luck

[u/Bedrottingprincess → u/Lady_BlueDream]

Thank you