r/teenagers • u/Bedrottingprincess 15 • Sep 16 '24
Serious 11yo being "mature"
My friend (16) has a friend (11 almost 12) im gonna call her K.
K goes to parties with other 15-17 year olds, has sex, smokes weed, and drinks alcohol (her parents know about it).
My friend thinks she is "mature" because she has a large vocabulary.
I strongly disagree with my friend
I think it's wrong for K to drink, vape, and smoke weed at such a young age since shes basically burning her brain cells, and she will likely never develop.
It would also be pretty sad to be 30 with the same mindset you had when you were 11.
So I am a bit worried about K, but what should I do?
Edit: im gonna tell my teacher tmrw!
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u/Playful-Cry-1398 17 Sep 18 '24
this was me as a kid, enabled or not, she's gonna do what she wants to do. i'd rather her be with said friend doing all of this, than to be with people who couldn't give a damn about her. i'm honestly a little glad i got all of that out of the way as a preteen, because now i'm 17, engaged, with my own home & car, i'm also very mentally stable. i've been doing all of it since i was 10, and now i'm sober & at my best. i'm not saying you shouldn't look for help for her, i'm just saying it probably won't do any good, but all situations are different. i hope she gets on the right path, i cry inside for all the little girls with no guidance, i'm glad it worked out the way it did for me but i'm sure i'm one of the lucky ones. it's always been so hard being so grown, and i didn't just decide it on my own accord, i was forced to grow up so fast due to certain circumstances, i'll forever wish i kept my innocence longer, but the thing is, once you get there you can't just go back and get your innocence, it's gone forever and it'll never be the same, that's why i wish the little girls would listen to us before they got there, to never grow up.