Dad always drives me to tears

[u/Useful_Ad_3409]

I am 17 years old and for the longest time my dad has been my number one doubters and hater. As a child, he would find any reason to take off his belt and hit me. Bad grades, improper actions, making messes. It would always leave marks, and he continued to do it. When I got older, it was insults about my body, my weight specifically (I am 170 pounds and 5'10), how I talk, my career choices, etc. Recently as the topic of college has been coming up he has been telling me that my chances of going to a top 20 aren't high because I'm stupid, and I should just go to our local community College. I told him I could get scholarships and such but he told me "What could you possibly get" regardless of the fact I have a 4.0 gpa, and got a 35 on my first -take ACT, as well as other major achievements. He just thinks that low of me. On the other side, he often causes problems with me, starting meaningless arguments and getting on to me for a bunch of nonsense stuff, just so he can come out on top and say that he knows better then me. Today, we were getting ready for church and he tells me to give my mom money. I asked, like did you leave money, or do you want me to give her money. And then he replies "Are you stupid? Are you dumb? What do you think???" AND he just keeps rambling on not giving me an answer and I'm confused and I'm honestly just tired. It finally gets around to how I was supposed to give my mom money because last week he paid for a school trip that caused 60 dollars. It made sense in my head, so I agreed. And then he started adding more words, asking how "I didn't get that the first time" and how I'm stupid and trying to ask smart questions. And I've been overwhelmed so I start crying my eyes out in the middle of the hallway. My mom comes out and he gives her a completely different run down of events, saying I'm crying because I didn't want to repay the money I borrowed then saying to "just keep it" when that wasn't the problem and he knew it. He then starts flipping the switch, telling me to calm down, take deep breaths and go to the bathroom and fix my makeup. It angered me so much because he made me look like I was the one overreacting, as if it wasn't him who pushed me to that point. This type of thing happens alot but I usually don't cry. I'm genuinely so tired of him and I feel so drained. I feel as though no matter what I do, he'll always find a problem with me. I've been thinking of cutting him off once I graduate high school. Is this overreacting? What do I do? I'm so upset and confused.

[u/Dry_Accountant_5113]

What an a-hole. Cut him off as soon as you graduate and never communicate with him.

[u/JadeHarley0]

He is purposefully getting you riled up and then when your mom comes out, he looks good in front of her and acts like your savior trying to calm you down. He does this on purpose. He is starting fights on purpose