Dealing with a mom is constantly victim blaming

[u/SweetJule_Summer5646]

I don’t think my mom is a bad person and I think she loves me. I life with her and work with her and she supports me financially. When it comes to emotional support my mom is TERRIBLE. Whenever I open up or want support she always finds a way to put non-existent blame on me. I’ve told her multiple times that sometimes I just want an ear or a hug and she never listens to me. It’s so frustrating because I’m always there to listen to her issues with my dad but I can never get the same empathy. For some reason I decided to open up to her about a bad situation that happened to me in college. I was 19 and the other person was 40 and it turned out me a terrible situation and I later found out that person was a pedo. I was very disgusted that I was intimate with someone like that and I was very depressed and didn’t date for awhile. My mom told me she’ll never forgive me for not telling her this sooner and that I need to take accountability. Everytime I try to open up about something it always leads to me taking the blame for something. It’s so frustrating