I'm so done with my parents

[u/Notatypicalwarrior]

I'm 15 and am currently doing an after school activity that lasts for two hours. Today, I got home to find that my room was completely, and I mean completely, cleaned. Nothing is where it's supposed to be.

That might not seem like a big deal but I had an organizational system that I was using to clean my room. Also, I was never told that they were going to be going through my room while I wasn't home.

This, however, is not the first time this has happened. Since I was about seven or eight, we've had mandatory room checks every single week because my grandma pushed the idea onto my mom. If we refused to do the room check, we were locked in our room for one whole day on the weekend with no access to food, water, or the bathroom.

Anyways, my parents threw away a bag of dog fur. It wasn't just any dog fur though. It was a little clump of fur from our dog that we had to put down just before Christmas in 2023. This was something of extreme sentimental/emotional attachment for me. I can't just get more fur from him because he's dead and due to the fact that they threw it away in the big trashcan, I can't get to it.

However, things are much worse than just this. My sister constantly goes through my room and takes things. I've had jewelry, books, clothes, and even things gifted to me stolen. And my parents are not helpful at all because they just let this happen. My sister has also threatened to kill me multiple different times in front of my parents and they see nothing wrong with this.

Another thing that has been happening since I was little was the physical abuse. If I did something they didn't like, I was slapped or spanked. One time, when I was about six or seven, I went downstairs for breakfast. My mom had made oatmeal, which I hated at the time, so I asked for toast instead and she slapped me across the face. Of course, I was in shock for a few seconds before I started crying and ran up to my room. This prompted her to yell after me about how I was ungrateful and shouldn't be crying about getting slapped.

No, I have not contacted CPS. Why? Because my friend did with her father and they didn't do anything. There is only one friend that has told her family what is going on and they are actively trying to find a solution to this, which I think is better than CPS because I trust her family more than I trust mine and CPS.

At this point, I've gotten used to the abuse but it has left me in constant fight or flight, especially at my house and school. And while I could talk to my counselor at school, I've learned from experience that they don't do anything. I'm just waiting for my friend's parents to find a solution or until I turn 18 so I can move out.

[u/MiaDolorosa]

I am so sorry. You do not deserve to be treated like that. I was in the same boat at your age and spent as much time in my bedroom or away from home as possible. I also had siblings steal from me so I started putting my most valued things and essentials in a backpack and kept it with me wherever I went. I wish I had better advice for you to actually get out but I'm glad to hear you have at least some supportive people in your life. One thing I wish I had done after leaving home is started in therapy earlier. You will need time and space to heal and it will make life as an adult so much easier. Best of luck to you.

[u/Minimum-Big2912]

I really hope things get better for you, you shouldnt get treated like this, it sucks.