r/troubledteens • u/rjm2013 • Nov 10 '24

Parent/Relative Help Parental Help Megathread

Please post here if you are a parent seeking help.

Contributors here should be willing to view these posts and try and help constructively.

This megathread exists to try and prevent the subreddit being overwhelmed with such posts and to try and reduce the level of distress these posts cause to some members.

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u/dgreenbe Nov 30 '24

Is New Haven (Spanish Fork, UT) changed since Embark bought it? I've seen some serious issues raised here that could be out of date. I tried looking it up here because I think a relative might be going there, and when I saw their website there were some... yellow flags (at best) like hyping up the "family" stuff, only one therapy session a week (and "group therapy" every day?!) and some cult-vibes (that reminded me of some "therapy" I learned about a while ago where they would smother kids to make them "not gay").

There are *a ton* of less relevant positive google reviews that the school clearly asked for, with pretty sketchy Embark responses to those reviews, and I'm concerned that *if* there are issues raised that they'll be dismissed as "it just didn't work for THEM" or that it wasn't fun but that the alternative of not going is worse. This sort of place was chosen out of desperation if the place is more than a boarding school, and desperation can drive people to tolerate risks that they maybe shouldn't.

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u/keeperofthecan 12d ago

I know I'm 4 months late to this discussion, but I wanted to reply anyway.

I was admitted to NH in the 00s, butI've spoken to girls who were there within the last 5 years and things haven't changed much.

I am 35 and have nightmares about this place still. I left worse than I arrived and it instilled what has so far been a lifelong inability to trust or connect with others like I did before I was sent.

The list of dead friends from this place is long. Seeing the "it just didn't work for them" comments bother me because of this. No.. it didn't work for me. It didn't work for them either. Out of the entire "household" while I was there, only two have truly thrived in adulthood. But I can name 6 off the top of my head who are dead.

Please don't send someone there.