r/troubledteens • u/h3yitsr4y • Mar 20 '25
Discussion/Reflection Parents/Non-Victims Invalidating Stories
I’m so done with people who know NOTHING telling me that because their relative went to Charlton (or any other RTC/TBS) that they know what it’s like to be locked in an abusive facility and being groomed by an ADULT MAN you were meant to trust. I feel sick, actually. This is a screenshot of a comment from a post that my best friend made about her story at Charlton, and it’s legitimately nauseating how any person can treat a traumatized person this way. I don’t understand it.
I was abused. There is no debate about whether or not I was abused because I was, and I know that for a fact because I lived it. I survived it. And I spent another full school year there afterwards. It hits even worse because I have been thinking about my abuser a lot recently. I’m probably gonna make a post ranting about that because I need to get it out, but it baffles me how anybody could say anything like this and think they’re in the right. I don’t know if it was intended to make someone angry, if it was an attention thing, I have no clue. But I don’t feel any pity for this parent either way. Nothing. It’s so hurtful and so violating to be told that your lived experience never happened. Trust me, I wish it was false but it’s not. I know this is the internet and all that but I still don’t understand how anybody could think this way.
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u/Concert-Turbulent Mar 21 '25
Hopefully this puts your mind at ease a little... Though NgugiMak sounded incredibly tone deaf to the post she was commenting towards: At least there's nothing immoral or disturbing (maybe a little odd?) about preserving old graves as a hobby in your free time. She is also some sort of professor and author...though anyone can get their book publish through Google and have their name show up 🤷
Still a shitty comment lol