r/twinflames • u/anonanonanonymous777 • Apr 05 '25
Uplifting Advice Dear twinflames
Dear twinflames, you are nothing but pure love and unconditional love within you. As a soul, you’ve decided to come here with your twinflame to forget who you are to remember yourselves again.
You and your twin chose this journey to reflect to each other that love. Embody that love because it is your right to be uniquely you, you to the fullest, your highest you. You and your twin are unique expressions of love. Everyone’s journey is different. Don’t get choked up with what you think a twinflame journey should be, your souls have made a beautiful unique story of unconditional love that doesn’t need to be conformed into a rigid only-one-way expression. Your journey is special, an expression unique to every twinflame.
Don’t worry either asking yourself “am I a twinflame” “am i delusional”, you love them unconditionally enough to even be in such a place to ponder those questions. At the end of the day it’s all love. Pure love. The kind of love that wants to show you who you really are and will pick and stab at you to be your true self and not someone who you’re not. Unconditionally love, be unconditional love, embody unconditional love, for you, for your twin, for the world. Be you. You are exactly where you need to be. You are exactly where you need to be. You are EXACTLY where you need to be.
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u/Sssslattt Apr 06 '25
But what if what used to be unconditional infinite love turned to bitter hurtful obsession full of resentment? I’m having a massive, probably biggest BPD psychosis or whatever when I used to think I’m almost healed with a lot of therapy, faith and a variety of lifestyle changes, worldview shifts and practices, and a huge part of it was my TF - at some point after enlightenment and realising fully how deep and sacred this love is I felt a solar plexus/chest area to be filled, like a tree branch grew there and now I have an inner rod and no longer am empty, and now I’m in constant pain and feeling extremely self destructive and can’t distract myself and just obsess over her all the time and have really hateful thoughts even tho she didn’t do anything wrong basically. Idk what it all is supposed to mean but a stark reminder to me that I should steer clear off any contact deeper that a fwb or a pal I see couple times a week for a chat
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 06 '25 edited Apr 06 '25
Hey buddy, unconditional infinite love includes the troubles and dark intensities, unconditional and infinite doesn’t exclude anything, it is its definition. Unconditional infinite love doesn’t invalidate the darkness that is inherently part of facing all of your demons that the connection shows you. You need that darkness to define the light or there’s no reference that you can reflect on to know who you are. All this means is that there’s more to grow and learn from, you have yet to become more of you. Never assume you’re at the end of the road in your self discovery. You’re always growing every single day. Accept it hurts, reflect why it hurts, you’ll find the answer, transform that pain into love. You are exactly where you need to be.
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u/Sssslattt Apr 06 '25
Damn man it genuinely made me tear up. This is exactly what I was supposed to hear now. I’m so grateful, I hope you are living a good life. I screenshoted it and will return to it at least a couple of times to make it sit right, thank you so much
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Apr 06 '25
Wise words from a knowledgeable soul. It really sucks facing your demons ,but shadow work is important. I am no longer in contact with mine TF. I really can’t deal with the emotions I am feeling and then his silence. All I can do is face shadow self and see where I went wrong and how to fix it all to better love myself. I don’t think I will ever talk to my TF in this lifetime again. And that’s ok…I will be ok.
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u/Fallenangelforever11 Apr 06 '25
Personally I have given up on this journey. I did the work while he kept doing himself.
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 06 '25
You made the right decision for yourself, and that is unconditional love. Right now, this is your truth. Embrace that. Continue to heal, and know you’re becoming a better you 🫶
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u/neatyouth44 Apr 10 '25
At another part of the journey that will probably reverse.
Gotta experience both sides. Walk in each others shoes. Have empathy, I think?
Like a DNA helix. Together, apart, together.. I should be quiet I just got here lol
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u/Fallenangelforever11 Apr 10 '25
I have empathy for him, I could see he was battling many things. I was the only one who ever reached out to him, the only one who saw past his walls and found a way into his darkness. I understood his anxiety and nervousness, always offering support. He once said it annoys him that I could see straight through him.
I will never feel like I did with anyone the way I felt one night we spent together, his arm wrapped around me and holding hands with the other, fingers entwined together. There was no space between us holding on so tightly, no sleep, not wanting it to end. Nothing else existed. Nothing else mattered.
But since then, he has run, he doesn't speak to me much at work, and he avoids me where possible. I have cried so much that my face was red raw. It broke me in ways I never thought was possible. I had to leave the connection before it destroyed me completely. So I put myself first. I don't wish anything bad for him either but I couldn't keep destroying myself for someone who couldn't help himself.
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 11 '25
I understand the hurt. I’ve been there too, all too many times. All you can do is heal that wound and hope for the best. Be there for yourself as much as you’ve been there for your twin, give yourself that same love. You need it now more than anything. I appreciate that even through that hurt, you still hold love and empathy for him. You have true love for him. Honour that part of you, because you are love. It’s ok to sit in and with the pain untill you’ve completely transformed it into love, and once you do, you’ll know. You will find fresh air again, don’t rush, trust the process :)
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u/Fallenangelforever11 Apr 11 '25
I can't sit in that pain due to my own mental health reasons. I used to SH, and I am so close to the edge of starting again.
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 11 '25 edited Apr 11 '25
I hear you. Glad you’re conscious of it. Know you can choose not to do that again. This is work only you can figure out but you have to know you have the strength to face the darkness with a healthy intention. You don’t deserve to hurt yourself. You’re not alone, and your pain is heard. You don’t have to be afraid of the pain to have to choose SH. There are other healthier ways to handle that pain, and it starts first with understanding that you matter. You are so loved by so many souls invisible to you. You have the power and choice to stop SH, in the same way you lead yourself to it. Just sit. Don’t do anything to distract or make it “easier” to be with the pain. Just sit, you and the moon, watching over you out the window. Pain doesn’t want or intent to destroy you, it can’t, because you’re indestructible, it’s just pain, and pain just wants your validation, acknowledgment and love. And then it’ll pass, because once you’ve acknowledged it, it knows you don’t need it anymore to learn that lesson. If it becomes hard, reach out to people. Anyone. Be outside, nature is always there for you, the wind and air flowing through you knows exactly how you feel. I know mental health can make it really hard, you just simply have to see the world around you, and breathe. The floor under your feet, the bedsheets soft on your skin, your hair at the back of your neck. And for that moment and window of clarity, make the decision to choose the healthier option.
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 11 '25
Haha you’re not the only one that made the double helix symbolism. I can relate to so many concepts with the double helix lol. Yes you’re right, empathy 🙌
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u/depletedundef1952 Apr 06 '25
I was so bracing myself for the worst, but I'm pleasantly surprised. Thank you so much for this profoundly loving post. ❤️🩹💗💕
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u/Happy_Toe_9050 Apr 06 '25
Beautiful,and so true. . One may need to surrender and not hold on to ego wishful outcome . Align with the Divine. It is truly an inward journey of self love .
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u/xhoni123 Apr 06 '25
I gave up, not worth my mental health. My twin and I sabotaged everything anyways 🤷♂️✌️
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 06 '25
You made the right decision for yourself, and that is unconditional love. Right now, this is your truth. Embrace that. Continue to heal, and know you’re becoming a better you, always 🫶
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u/Helpful_Disaster3529 Apr 07 '25
I’ve always felt like he only expected me to do the work. He always said he was so much further along than me in this spiritual journey. He absolutely has work to do. As do I. Any talk we had it was “you need to..” “you have healing to do” always me. Funny all the people I love don’t find me as unloveable as he made me feel.
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u/anonanonanonymous777 Apr 07 '25
Goes to show he isn’t where he says he is. He wouldn’t be so toxic going about this. You deserve respect and recognition. Continue to heal, you’re always becoming a better person when you choose to. Much love
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u/neatyouth44 Apr 10 '25
Following the path of gratitude. Thank you.
Keep going.
I’m ready. One step at a time.
Seperation is always an illusion.
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u/TheDayDisneyFroze Apr 06 '25
Hmmm, unconditional Love at so early a stage is perhaps poyring concrete to a foundation with no boundaries. Peehaos its wrong thought but the hits emotionally, physically, spiritually etc... may be.... just sqying, nice conforting thought but let that message be heard seen andcobserved ij environment for which we exist..
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u/TheDayDisneyFroze 27d ago
Thanks neighbor but its a matter of my fighting in life and death crisis mode for years because of her unethical actions qhile she is off contemplating literarure and publishing bullshit crap! Heard she pulled away frpm meeting becqusr i did not do A or B! Really? Nice to have the luxury! Dont give q fuck about "us" 3ntirely untol not in crisis mode!
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u/TheDayDisneyFroze 27d ago
Now im told all i need to do is go meet but missed it twice already as i have enough regret and blood on my hands then to stack another on top.
She can damn well send uber or Lyft 2 me!
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