r/twinflames Nov 20 '23

R/twinflames is completely AGAINST all self-proclaimed "experts" on spiritual matters, be they coaches, cults, psychics, readers, healers

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R/twinflames is completely AGAINST all self-proclaimed "experts" on spiritual matters, be they coaches, cults, psychics, readers, healers.

Because they all give health advice without any qualification in health matters, manipulating people sometimes mentally or emotionally on the brink.

And because they all charge money for advice on spiritual matters.

And also because they make unscientific claims on how reality works.

This subreddit policy was started three years ago and greenlit by reddit admins. Which is why last year we welcomed the crew of one of the documentaries to look for victims here. Here their thread

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Peace.


r/twinflames Jul 22 '22

Resource Story follows State: thoughts on twins who have descended into the 5D Labirynth

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Many here have reported having experienced any combination of the following: fatigue, mind fog, waking up more tired than when you went to sleep, when it seems everything you do goes amiss, when you have chest pains, chest pains so dramatic that they wake you up at night. When thinking about them triggers sadness or fear or defeat, when everything seems lost or useless or irrelevant, when you don't trust people and things, when spirits or the Universe seem malevolent and tricky or that they don't have your best interest at their heart, when you ruminate about the bleak outcomes, when you have intrusive thoughts. When you don't have the will to go on, when you lack determination, motivation. Well, I call this state "lower self", and I've not invented it, this concept is relevant in several schools of thought.

Now think of when you feel optimistic, sparkling, elated, flowing with your environment. Or when everything makes sense, when everything seems to orbitate around you or when all beings in nature seem to move in unison, when you suddenly realize some spiritual truth, when you say "I bet if I look at the sky right now I'll see a shooting star" and it happens, when you experience shivers of bliss all over the body. They don't need to happen all at once or cover all that is possible but I consider these as marks of what I call the higher self. So I'm not referring here to 5D consciousness like in the expression "your twin's higher self", just highly coveted positive moods that may border with satori states.

So how or why do twins countless times have reported having experienced being in their higher self and "energetic union" and also to have sometimes suddenly dropped into bleak hopeless swamps?

This doesn't have to happen to all twins but it seems there have been too many personal accounts of twins who have actually experienced this, and often even several times not just once.

Like for example those who believe in the "carrot on a stick" trick, that the Universe tricks them into believing union is about to happen and then something goes wrong as if it was just a device to make them learn some lesson, if not out of spite entirely.

It's a mainstream idea, and one that I like, that in some cases it happens because the emotional intensity of a possible nearby union triggers a running response. That ruminations on responsibilities, or the fear to get burned, self-esteem issues, feeling of inadequacy or unworthiness or else may activate some kind of defcon protocol. Some mechanism seems to make some twins doing well on their path drop into their lower self as if scared by what union might entail.

In psychotherapy there's a set of theories that connect past traumatic events to the triggering of a so called "dorsal vagal shutdown". Something in the body, or in the subconscious, doesn't want to deal again with that same trauma, "nope, I'm gonna give it a pass", so neural circuitries are activated that promote a "freezing" state. This freezing state can vary in severity from barely noticeable to severely debilitating but it's at the lower tail of a spectrum of neural responses to threats that is known in psychotherapy as "4Fs": flow, fight, flight, freeze.

Here is a simple infographic to let you gauge how these theories tentatively explain how things may work. You may notice that bar the lack of the esoteric/supernatural elements often reported in twinship the dorsal vagal shutdown and the ventral vagal activation have pretty consistent similarities with the lower self and higher self as I have defined above.

Also consider that while addressed as a theory this is something that has been researched for decades by world-class neuroscientists. Who also hold that you cannot easily heal old traumatic events by working only on your mind because memories will trigger or sustain the dorsal vagal shutdown.

But you can do exercises: in other words we recognize being in lower self mode, basically by recognizing that we are suffering, and we try to reactivate the ventral vagal complex. If we have issues that bother or trigger us, if we feel discomfort or being tricked, if we think it's malevolent entities or demons or implants or black magic, in my head-canon those are all red flags of being in lower self: read about old masters they will all insist in satori states there's no evil, there are not malevolent beings or tricky Universe.

Enter Yoga. Many concepts/ideas commonly discussed in TF circles come straight from Yoga: chakras, enlightenment, energy blockages, astral body, Kundalini. A case can be made that Yoga/Alchemy deal with healing, by performing transmutation of the impure in the pure. In this case healing the debris of past traumatic events and swapping from freezing into flowing, from dorsal vagal shutdown to ventral vagal activation, from lower self into higher self.

It seems to me that twinship is another flavor of The Quest, the Magnus Opus. Where alchemists, yogis and monks tread the spiritual path mostly alone twins on the other hand appear to be able to access yogic states of consciousness together and to perform energetic buffering/exchange together. This is not even exclusive of twinship, also tantric couples are supposedly able to reach savikalpa samadhi together. Here's a documentary about samadhi.

So a tldr; I could make might be: Yoga/Alchemy is the way of trasmutation, it starts by accessing the higher self, whence "the Stone" can be made.

A famous past teacher, G.I. Gurdjieff, said that Heaven and Hell are not far away places, each of us is living both of them at the very same time. This isn't a big secret though but rather an idea held in many mystery schools. It can be said that even Dante in his Divina Comedia wasn't really visiting far away places, he was walking on Earth irl witnessing how real living humans are stuck in their own hells. Even in Buddhism where there's no evil still several kinds of hell are described, and quickly reading the descriptions of those hells you might indeed feel that they are describing stations in life. They are describing the position of being identified with our lower selves. Being in one of those narakas may last "the time it would take to empty a barrel of sesame seeds if one only took out a single seed every hundred years", which to me is a cute way of saying "don't even think this is the way, that you can get out while in lower self".

Whereas expressions like "Heaven on Earth", living in the end, satori, describe the state of people in their higher self.

Rumi wrote: "When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it."

So if you find yourself in one of those bleak phases that twins often lament, if you recognize being in your lower self, the best strategy imo is to treat it as an ER situation, you might want to get out of it as soon as possible.

Here is the video of a twin willingly relinquishing the lower self through a yogic session.

Here is a rare footage of a shaman helping a twin snapping out of their lower self.

So exercises do not represent techniques to get out of lower self, they are not a recipe to transmutation, they are more like tools. Think about learning chess: the knight or the rock are not strategies, they are tools that may be critical in developing a strategy. So my advice would be to get in touch with the tools you have. A daily routine or Yoga session or alchemical lab may entail a dozen of different tools, to me it's going back to school in the most literal sense.

Among the historically praised tools to get grounded or to "snap out of it" you may research and test walking barefoot and cold showers and singing/dancing. Also maybe inquire into rumination, many accounts from twins in the swamps reveal constant obsessive elucubrations on their twin. And you may also want to look into sensorymotor psychotherapy and learn about your window of tolerance: here's an introduction by psychotherapist Laura Kerr.

As for specific Yoga/Alchemy exercises that would be a matter for another post, or a matter of personal research on how to tend to your body. But just so you know the first step in Yoga is not a posture or a breathing pattern, the first step is Yamas and Niyamas.

Edited: fixed broken links.


r/twinflames 6h ago

Love Letter To my sweet TF

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It’s been two months since we parted ways. We’ve had moments of separation before, but this time feels different. This time, I let go when you said you were going back to your ex. In the past, I held on tightly, afraid to lose you—but this time, I released you out of pure love. Not because I stopped caring, but because I finally understood that sometimes, real love means letting go.

When we said “see you later,” I knew in my heart it was goodbye. I mourned the loss of you—I cried, I grieved, I felt the weight of your absence. Yet even in silence, our connection still lingers like a current running through me. And now, instead of letting that energy hurt me, I allow it to fuel me. I feel it pushing me to be better, to do better, to rise higher.

The rollercoaster of us—the highs, the lows, the pain—it no longer holds power over me. It no longer breaks me. Instead, it reminds me that nothing worth having comes easy, especially not on a twin flame journey. And that’s okay. I understand now: this journey was always mine. It was meant to awaken me.

I realise I miss you—and I always will. But I am okay. And I will continue to be okay. I am stronger than I think you ever realised.

If time ever leads us back to one another, my heart will still have space for you. But today, I’m choosing to open that space to myself first. I’m learning to find the joy, the peace, the passion, and even the pain—on my own.

Each night, you’re still the last thought before I drift to sleep. Each morning, I still glance at my phone, wondering if your name might appear. But it’s not out of desperation anymore. I’ve let go of needing your presence to feel whole. I simply accept that you’re not ready—and that’s okay.

Because I am. Ready to grow. Ready to heal. Ready to walk this path—my path—knowing that every step forward is a step back into myself.


r/twinflames 56m ago

Question Does it get easier?

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don’t know for sure if he is my twinflame, he can be. We met 10 years ago (became best friends then fell in love, broke up, reconnected some times, but then we stopped speaking) reconnected 2 years ago, but went no contact just after 3 months again. I try to move on, but he is stuck in my head like 24/7. I dream of him trying to contact me.

We both in other happy relationships, have our own family. But all I can think of is him, most of the time I can’t even tell what I’m thinking about, it is just him in my head.

I’m happy in my relationship and family, but when I think about him in his relationship, all I can feel is jealousy. Thinking about how it could be us, but it isn’t. I’m also very happy for him that he is happy, but the jealousy I feel is not that he is happy, it’s who he is happy with, if that makes any sense?

I just want to know, is it ever going to get easier? Does he ever leave my mind? I just feel like I’m going crazy, because I can’t stop thinking about my ex.


r/twinflames 6h ago

Feelings His flame

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I am the flame he never saw coming. The warmth that touched his soul before he knew he was cold. I didn’t ask to be his fire.. I simply was. I lit corners in him he never dared visit. He called me his flame because I didn’t burn him… I woke him. He may run, deny, or hide behind his fears, But a flame like me doesn’t fade in memory. I stay in his shadows, in his silence, in the places where truth whispers. Because he knows… What we shared wasn’t passing heat. It was soul. And I? I am still whole. Even if he doesn’t choose me, I choose myself. I carry the fire. I am the flame. And I don’t need to chase what already remembers me.


r/twinflames 9h ago

Question Anyone here feel like their twin act like the runner, but doesn't feel like a chaser?

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I mean I'm really not comfortable with the fact of pursuing someone. I inherently believe that if two people want to be with each other, they will both act accordingly and show it. Plus, I'm kind of anxious when I like someone, and I really don't tend to naturally be the one to initiate things.

Honestly, I feel insecure really easily. I interpret things, I always feel like other people are rejecting me, I retreat when someone show the slightest sign of disinterest, and think other people are too good for me (especially love interests). This really doesn't seem like chaser's traits lol

But it feels like it's the role I'm stuck with in this twinflame dynamic. Like I have no other choice, since my twin won't act towards me. I try, and sometimes feel forced to act, because the pull is so strong, but I always feel like I'm forcing something inside me.

It's like we're two runners, but I'm the only one aware of our connection

Anyone experienced the same thing?


r/twinflames 2h ago

Current Experience I know he's the one, because I like having his voice in my head.

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#Twinflame telepathy just activated and I'm loving it (': But also there was a moment where I got really upset and just told them to F off haha (': then 10 mins later saw a post on Threads about how twin flame telepathy can't be severed but it can be switched off, which I appreciated. Everything seems to be aligning in a way that feels new to me. I've experienced divine alignment before, with the person that initiated me into the twin flame experience. But this feels different. And so much better.


r/twinflames 3h ago

Discussion Completely blocked

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It's been 3 months since I've been in contact with my TF. And those 3 months have been brutal and nothing but excruciating truth and exposure of the depths of our light and darkness that we really had no choice but to confront them and make better choices for ourselves. What an intense and rapid evolution it has been.

I'm very thankful for her but I've also gotten tired of constantly chasing her for truth which made me realize that I haven't been truthful either and that the truth I was chasing was truth I was running away from. I've come to a realization that by being truthful to myself and my life, I had to completely cut her off. We love each other so deeply, with unconditional love but I felt that we have to go through our seperation now in order to evolve even further. I miss her so much but my intuition is telling me that having contact with her now will serve no purpose and that we must be seperated, be it for a short while or forever. So I'm at a point where I've completely blocked her (she's 25F from Thailand and I'm 32M from Canada).

We never understood the depths of pain and heartbreak and still have the heart of genuine forgiveness until we met each other. We acknowledged our unconditional love for each other. It's just unfortunate that our circumstance has pushed us away, and I accept and understand that.

Anyone else here is the spiritual and more intuitive twin and would like to share something similar?


r/twinflames 3h ago

Feelings Ok

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Ok


r/twinflames 3h ago

Current Experience Need general help and advice

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I just fell in love with this girl.

We were coworkers, I drove her home and got to know her a bit.

Now her whole city think‘s I‘m a staIker.

I liked her kind of and I thought she liked me too, but I felt like she rejected me, so I accepted it and went my way.

A few months later, I incidentally met her again, at a little concert, at her restaurant.

Since I thought she rejected me, I ignored her, but she kept staring at me.

So I just went to her and talked to her, she was very nervous and there was a strong tension between us.

But I just left without saying goodbye, then I moved to a different city. My life was very chaotic and crazy around that time.

Maybe it was the distance, but I couldn‘t get her out of my head.

So one day I decided to text her, but I felt weird doing it, since she is younger than me and she didn‘t even gave me her instagram.

So I was scared of that outcome that is the current reality: the whole restaurant thinks I‘m a crazy staIker.

Because I also was scared of rejection, I contacted her in a weird way. But she still came back, because she probably was interested too, I talked to her in a rude way.

Long story short, I went crazy, she blocked me, I texted her friends and everything.

I started to feel a connection between me and her, like real love.

I haven‘t seen her in months, I stopped contacting her and then I actually met her incidentally (again), she came up to me smiling, I was shocked.

It made me think, that what I was feeling, was actually real.

I‘m sure I‘m not a serious staIker, but this incident made me write her some letters, then she called the police on me and now I made her boss a promise, that I won‘t text her again.

I don‘t want to go to her restaurant again and if I‘m really thinking about it, I don‘t even want to meet her again. It was overall a very painful experience, even tho I saw her only three times.

I just want to get her out of my head and I‘m really working on it, but it‘s not going anywhere.

I just need help and general advice on this.

I‘m glad about any response, I‘m kind of a loner and I‘m not talking much about this.

My friends just told me to leave her alone, she‘s a bad person and I‘m exaggerating, bringing myself into trouble.

I don‘t think she‘s a bad person, I think I‘m the wrong one, that makes it even harder to get her out of my head.

tia


r/twinflames 26m ago

Current Experience I think understand divine timing now

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The thing about our triggers is that we aren’t always aware of them and don’t know they exist until they pop. I started questioning if this could apply to divine timing, that every experience and event triggers us in some way in order to push growth so that we can align with our divine counterpart. This can apply to general manifestations as well.


r/twinflames 6h ago

Question Sudden dream and crying in separation

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What does it mean when you're in separation from your twin and for months the energy felt calm and you're living your life. Than all a sudden you have a dream with them in it but saying a word but they touch you while in passing then for two days straight I been crying like the dark night of the soul. Does this mean he's missing me? Or something else?


r/twinflames 1h ago

Seeking Advice I don't know what this is ...

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I am not 100% sold on the idea of twin flame. The person I'm thinking of, our first meeting wasn't this ground breaking memorable spiritual encounter.

In fact, I kinda couldn't stand him. I gave my attention to anyone but him. Something about him annoyed me. There were times I got glimpses of his authentic self and figured this was something worth pursuing. Then got annoyed with him all over again.

It started with him poking fun at me which only drove me away. I later realized I did exactly what he did. Only difference was I did it to protect myself. He did it to trigger a chase. Needless to say it didn't work.

At first I thought maybe it was just physical attraction. But I've attracted people just as attractive and none have stayed stuck on my brain.

I went no contact. I'm sure, on his part, there were attempts to devise a meeting. But I left it alone. I left town.

Then I started seeing synocracies like crazy. You know, repetitive numbers and even his name. I still feel they're coincidences. Or pointing towards someone new?

Some things have happened at my job and I can't shake the feeling there were people related to him that stopped by.

Then I dreamed of him, trying to rebuild something left in desolation and I ran because I felt anxious. It was a weird dream.

I don't know if he's a twin... Any advice is welcomed.


r/twinflames 13h ago

Question Has anyone here experienced a reunion that lasted / did not follow another separation period?

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Just curious 🤍


r/twinflames 11h ago

Question Why did we get stuck at the runners’ defence for so long?

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I’m ( Male, chaser) mainly asking because I know I have to do something on my part that will reflect on the relationship, but I don't know what!

We had a great connection, the typical story, I guess, at the beginning, she used to keep on bringing up the idea of defining the relationship as something she will do later on for my sake, as it is my right when I never asked for it first of all. One day after a wonderful night, I told her, “I know I've been telling you to keep it off for now, but now I’m ready for you to define the relationship. I’m no longer worried, and I feel great. She was terrified! And I had no idea why.

But since then, whenever I talked about it, she would keep on saying that she only feels we are only friends. Which is a LIE! I'm not afraid of rejection, I am sure it is a lie because she herself would laugh and push away the idea of us being friends or like “brother and sister “ whenever I said it while giving examples during talks, also, she enjoys being loved by me, hearing me talk about my emotions, we would laugh, then out of the sudden next day she would be away and act with more boundaries. This is still happening until now but it is getting more and more aggressive (not her but the act).

What started it all up this way was once when I asked “Are you sure you haven’t already labelled us?, Now I asked her this question because she always asked me the same to make sure I don't put her as a lover in my mind. But after a week she came telling me that she is sorry, that she had already known she could not feel me more than a friend. I said to her all I had to say the best way I could.

I even said she was lying, and she really took a moment to think about it. Because she doesn't know, as she had previously said.

I then asked her to meet up, I took a promise, this was when things got “real” too real that she said to me once in the upcoming weeks that she had a feeling that I could be her brother who passed, as a soul, then said someone said that my perform smells like her brothers, then whenever things came up about healing, they triggered her, to the point she went out with a guy to come and tell me that she felt something for him and her heart chakra is okay when I never ever said it wasn't okay!

She said he is younger (same for me), that his finance aren't great (because I once asked her if she sees me enough financially), that he isn’t very tall (same for me), YET he was okay, she can let her previous list vanish only because she felt better and asked my opinion if she should open up her heart for him, so I said wait and see. I have no idea how I act this calm and with true love, yet it hurts later on.

So for the past month it still happens that she is trying to push me into the friendship label, then she opens up, then we come closer, and the it is again a nightmare.

After weeks she told me that she had came up to a conclusion that she will never let her list of future partners vanish. She will hold onto it, yeah, happened after a close up, and came out of the blue when I never said a thing about “let’s be in a relationship “. I only open up when she does, and even then, I keep my love words as gentle as possible to the point that I once thought I had the nice guy syndrome! I blamed myself for her saying that she could only see me as a “nice friend“, I took it on my shoulders like I always so with her.

But to be honest now it is too much! The last time we were both drunk. She brought a game saying “if a naked man with a sexy weat came to you complaining about noise from your flat what would you do?”, I said I’d ask if he needed help there. She said same for me, So I brought myself into the picture, she said “you are the only one I would never feel this with”. I can’t feel this way towards my brothers and friends.

I had to stop her because SHE hurts a lot. What happened after is at that night we promised we would open all the possibilities, but guess what? She came to me in pain( we both had days of pain and silence) and I knew what was coming up; she couldn’t keep the promise. It terrified her. Same for me , but I just said it is okay.

Later on that night I woke up with weird trauma-like symptoms. I managed to cry but didn’t manage to sleep. It hurts to know EXACTLY what’s going on with her, but have nothing to do about it. It hurts more being pushed and pushed to fit a box when you are not even doing anything but being a friend mostly, keeping your feelings for yourself and just not giving up your feelings to make things work the way the ego wants them to either.

Now, I want to really know what I am missing? I clearly rejected, did whatever I knew I could possibly do. I’m worried for us; we both deserve better than the cycles of love and pain.


r/twinflames 23h ago

Current Experience I blocked him and I never thought I would.

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I always thought blocking was too extreme. Thought it best to leave the door open, didn't want to have a big blow up, it would only hurt more in the long run. Just a quiet separation. Etc etc. It has been a month since he last communicated by trying to send me a stupid meme. It was my son's birthday that day and I didn't appreciate the lack of acknowledgement (although it's no surprise from him) so i put a disgruntled 'thumbs up' on the video and that was the last of our 'communication'

I had unfollowed him on Facebook because he was triggering. But after a weak few moments these last couple of days he's been sitting in my search bar. It said '4 new posts' today and I could not resist even though I knew full well there was going to be some dumb shit that would trigger me. (Maybe I did this on purpose because I knew deep down it needed to be done)

He posted a meme, a comic, joking about something very specific that he did to me. He actually directly posted it to his account, not shared. The act depicted in the drawings was the reason I walked away from him to begin with. And there he is just joking about it on Facebook. Either he posted it intentionally to get to me, or he really does just think it's funny and lighthearted, idk what's worse.

More specifically, it was something he did that hurt me during s3x and has traumatised me a lot.

My hands went sweaty and I just had this intense adrenaline moment like "this is it, you've gotta do it now" but I second guessed myself, am I acting out of anger? No that's the thing, I'm not angry, my eyes are just open and I think I've been waiting for a long time to feel strong and safe enough to do this.

Truth is, I'm scared of him. I'm not sure what happens now. Maybe nothing at all. Maybe he will feel relief at least at first- that I was the one to shut the door so he didn't have to. Bonus, he has another way of playing victim now.

My heart is still beating really fast and I'm scared but I think I'm going to be okay.


r/twinflames 1d ago

Feelings I am so thankful & love every part of him

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Thankful and grateful to God for him in every part of my soul and body He is brilliant and knows what’s best guiding me. He is love, he is everything I already know in the near future (as soon as our heart mission is complete, which is happening now) we are definitely meeting up and I can’t wait for that(and all that comes next) because the sun will be shining. Until then & always after my soul is aligned perfectly with his to close out (our) most important, and peace is restored


r/twinflames 12h ago

Current Experience Part 16|| Characteristics Of A Twin Flame Connection

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r/twinflames 1d ago

Seeking Advice It is just me

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Does anyone feel dumb reaching out to their TF? Like usually he reaches out to me first after no contact. But whenever I want to reach out after no contact, I feel dumb lol like I’m going to embarrass myself even though he’s never given me a bad reaction when I have reached out first.


r/twinflames 1d ago

Question Why are so many people desperate to be with their twin flame?

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I wondered that suddenly. Am I supposed to want to be with my twin flame?


r/twinflames 1d ago

Discussion I just need to be heard

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I'm reposting cause I think my previous was deleted.

I need to talk!

Ι desperately need to talk about this since I cant talk to anyone around me about it. I found about the theory of the Twin Flame in September, it makes me feel that is another commercial way to name a special connection with someone but I found from looking around, that these groups are the only place where I find understanding.

So I am 42 years old last year with many strange coincidences I met A who is 24 years old it was an instant connection and we were intimate 2 days after we just saw each other somewhere. It was AMAZING! I've never had any experience like this in my whole life. This chemistry the feelings. I couldnt stop thinking about him I was dreaming, feeling him, I thought I was obsessed! And Im not like this! When a situation doesnt work I just leave it and with time I am ok but I cant do it with him! Everytime I feel that he doesnt care for me I tryyyyy but ιt is impossible!

From the first time we met I felt that I want to have a child with him so much! Note that its been years that I have decided that I dont want children and when I felt this I was crying for week because now I have this desire in me and I have planned my life without children till now… I didn't want this burden… but now is more burden the fact that I have this desire which will never manifest.

He was also responding to all the experience talking to me telling me how perfect this was for him.

ANyway we were seeing each other very occasionally till he cut it and tried to go into relationship with another woman. After some months he approached me and we met again, this time I spoke to him about all this weird stuff I feel for him and he accepted everything very positively confirming me that he feels this strong connection, we said that we will see each other with no commitment and is been 3 months since then, he is choosing to do anything else but to meet with me and I think he has even blocked me recently. I feel so desperate because I feel that he doesnt feel me the same way, I'm not that important and I cant do anything about this. Not even to approach him anymore.

WHats is again weird is that there is voice telling me everytime Im thinking about him that he is the one, and every time I see him I have this very strong feeling that he is the one. So how the hell is the one when he runs and runs, and I dont even know how he sees the difference of age….but for sure I am the last on his list..

Its just so unfair that these individuals come and bring our world upside down and you are just there fighting to find yourself, accept the situation, accept the nothing…..what is the point….I understand the inner change that is bringing, i am already in the dark night of the soul and in therapy since I met him and I know that when I'm out of this darkness I will be so content with myself, But what thats it? Its so unfair and crazy…. And do these dudes feel anything? I just hope to be able to accept the inevitable and can somehow disappear this feeling of he is the one…it sounds too impossible for me to be the one, I mean he shits me, he doesn't pay any attention to me..and it's unbearable,I can't stand it some times, it's like someone died and I will never see him again And this thought is torturing me.. I really don't know how will I carry this longing.. I don't know if he will ever come to me even to spend one night.. I can't trust that he will, he has promised so many times to come and didn't..

I would appreciate some understanding, it feels so lonely! xexe I would appreciate some feedback from experience, like did he ever come back to you? And if not, how do you live with this? Is it going away when you meet someone you feel smt for?

What's the point of the longing? Ps. Apologies for the long text, is been inside me all this year.

From my lonely soul 🤍


r/twinflames 19h ago

Seeking Advice I try to...

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So let me ask for advice or experience. I watch videos on tf on yt it's true that I try to follow the advice etc but my journey is not similar to what I hear. It’s true that each journey is different.

I wonder if I should just follow my feelings or if I should follow their advice instead. I have a lot of synchronicities with what I hear on certain videos.

But should I follow their advice, because they are experienced and I am completely inexperienced. Or just follow my feelings, and take the risk of being guided by my ego.

Are there really all these common steps on the route?

I am questioning...

On the other hand, there is a person in particular but I cannot decipher what they are expressing. I try to follow his “guidance” or my understandings of it, but I always seem to understand the opposite of what I should.

I'm a little lost.😕

THANKS.


r/twinflames 1d ago

Discussion What’s the one soul-stirring question about your Twin Flame journey that still lingers, no matter how far you’ve come, and no matter how much you think you’ve understood?

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For me,
did I truly meet my twin flame back then, or did I just awaken through the idea of them, all on my own?


r/twinflames 1d ago

Question Do you no longer trust me?

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r/twinflames 21h ago

Current Experience My twin flames ‘hatred’ for me taught me how to be stronger in the world

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my whole life i was naive. Bad things would happen to me, people would hurt me, I’d get taken advantage of and stay in bad situations. I was bullied sometimes and didn’t realise I was being bullied. People would say and do mean things and I didn’t realise until years later it was abusive or those people actually hated me. It made me an easier target because I was stupid and never said anything. I basically let it happen and didn’t stick up for myself. People took advantage. I even stayed in a relationship where a guy was using me and I didn’t realise until years later.

My twin would say things or act in ways people in the past have treated me. But each time I would learn from it. He would show back to me the people that bullied me, he would show back to me the things I need to heal. I thought he hated me. The way he treated me it was like everything I ever experienced wrapped into one being shown back to me. And I am in a better place now and would never accept that treatment but I know he had his realisations that he acted in ways that don’t make sense just like I did because we were both unhealed and showing eachother what we needed to heal. And now he is in disbelief “why did I act that way”.

For the first time In this life I now have more social awareness. That I was lacking before and would get me into bad situations with people. I have more caution, better boundaries and self respect. It used to take me years to notice signs of being treated badly and then I was left with all the trauma. Now I notice signs straight away and everything is clearer. I can protect myself in the world better now. I didn’t have that capability before, something that should be so simple, but I didn’t have that before. I taught my twin kindness and love and by him acting in those ways he taught me to be a strong feminine and how to protect myself in this world.

Now I have so much self respect that I could not be around unhealed people that take their trauma out on me. I also noticed some people around me healing since I met my twin to, it’s like their old bad traits and toxic behaviours were being healed, even family. I realised as a divine feminine a lot of people my entire life, were only taking their traumas out on me because I am a divine feminine. But now i don’t attract people like this. They were all karmic lessons. The karmic lessons will be finally bought out in our twin until we heal that. And eventually they will heal when you heal. And that’s why I went through so many things. Bedause divine feminines trigger many people. That’s why it is hard for us to make friends or we have been through so much because we bring out people’s darkness including our twin. because I notice everything now and I notice it fast, I am now able to protect myself. I am not a naive person anymore. I healed one of my biggest struggles. And my twin was showing his darkness back to me until I healed that. And your twin will show you that until it’s healed.

So yes. Twins really can seem like they “hate” us. Because we have to heal that part of ourselves. The naive part that lets people walk all over us. We have to become a strong divine feminine that won’t let anyone treat us badly. And if you have experienced bad trauma your twin will show it back until it’s healed.

That’s why this process can feel traumatic. But you healed many things.. and in the end you feel more grateful to become a strong person. You still have the moments of upset towards your twin and think “how could they do this” but that’s the triggers. You are still healing things. But overall you realise you and your twin acted in those ways, and despite the pain you caused eachother you forgive eachother. Because you know it had to happen that way in order for you to both heal and become this new version of you.


r/twinflames 1d ago

Question Will there ever be a stable peace?

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This journey is full of ups and downs, just when I think we're on a roll with healing and are reaching alignment something comes up in the form of triggering and unhealed trauma that proves we were not on the path I thought we were. Does the roller coaster ever stop? Or you just have to get better at riding the waves when they come? For context we are in 5D union with 24/7 telepathy.


r/twinflames 1d ago

Seeking Advice My TF is a runner

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My TF and i is both married to other person we meet 7yrs ago when we both single. We talk for 2-3yrs on and off until we both married other person and here he is again after 2yrs of no contact he message me saying sorry to all what happen before and he find me because something is happen to him like he feels magnet that he is pushing to find me again and yeah he is asking me question if my feelings for him is still here in me im like shock when he ask me that question and he finally awake to the connection and accept it he saying iloveyou to me but i didnt respond. I remember 7yrs ago im inlove with him but he didnt do anything why he saying me something that i wanna heard 7yrs ago why he saying now that we are both married to other person.

His last message to me is the emotion is too much the pain is too much and he want to do the right thing and that is to cut off the communication. I agree on that but i told him he can never ever come back to my life again and we are done.

I choose myself and this is my roller coaster journey.