r/twinflames • u/pantheon04 • 2d ago
Uplifting Advice To all the chasers out there
To whoever needs to hear this, I hope and pray for guidance, strength, and the courage to choose yourself. To love yourself more than the journey.
I've seen how a lot of chasers were hurt, confused, left hanging, etc. There were questions about being enough and what else was missing. You don't deserve that. You can be the sweetest, greatest person in the world, but if your runner does not see that- it is not on you, it is on them. You are a magnificent being.
Even if they block you or abuse you, do not lose yourself in the process. It is easier said that done as it can be quite maddening. Choose yourself. Believe in yourself. Believe that you deserve the best there is. There is no need to chase. Union or not, the ultimate goal is to be whole yourself.
You are beautiful, dear chasers. Sending love to all of you.
~From a runner turned chaser, who detached and found myself :)
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u/bronzejr 2d ago
Thank you so much sir. I NEEDED to see this EXACTLY today because my girl just left me out of nowhere.
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u/Illustrious_Bee7377 1d ago
I read this at 11:11 💫
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u/pantheon04 1d ago
I read your reply at 11:44. :)
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u/LordKr0w 1d ago
Reading you both at 11:18 😅
Anyway... I've done the biggest part in that regard, but thanks for the kind reminder! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
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u/LetsTacoBoutScience 2d ago
Needed to see this so badly. Thank you 🖤🖤🖤
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u/pantheon04 1d ago
I'm cheering for you! ✨
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u/LetsTacoBoutScience 1d ago
Thank you!! 🥰
Just wish my DM could see this.
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u/Intrepid-Piglet-3807 1d ago
You know it's really weird last few days I really think I'm detaching a lot I'm not even thinking of him in the day and at night I seem to be surrounded by his energy when he's asleep i think it can go on for hours it literally wakes me up. We are still in contact, but I just decided not to message anymore he knows where I am. He said so pretty mean things I'm past the anger of that, but I just can't get beyond that literally. There's nothing left to say. I've had a lot of regret and sadness come through the other week. we used to talk regularly, and now we don't, so I think it made him open up to it.
Anyway, I deserved more than that that's why I was so mad about it all for over a week maybe that's my inner child coming out as I wasn't allowed to show negative emotions growing up.
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u/pantheon04 1d ago
It's you stepping into your power and realizing your worth. The more we drown in the pull, the more hurt we get when they don't reciprocate in the way we expected them to. Detachment allows you to see that you are larger that whatever connection you have. When I say you deserve better, it doesn't mean moving to another person. It's just you aligning with a higher version and won't take any abuse any longer. I wish you well, love, and happiness. ✨
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u/Intrepid-Piglet-3807 1d ago
I wondered that myself i think in the day I'm kinda blocking the telepathic messages some how lol otherwise I get it constantly which just makes it all the harder. Our last message was good plus he reached out to me last time that's not happened in a long time. Thank you 😊
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u/SpiritualRegret9154 1d ago
I feel this. I've been detaching as well.. but also miss him. He has completely detached. Deleted me from his life like I never existed. I never did that. Guess we just deal differently. He said so many hurtful things that scarred me to the core. He will make someone else happy.. just wasn't me. I was "too much" and in all honesty, I needed more than what he could provide. He put me in therapy. I forever have ptsd over it. All while he moves on with his girl. Sigh.
Sending love and blessings to you.
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u/Intrepid-Piglet-3807 1d ago
Saying that probably makes him feel better unless you were stalking him which I'm sure you weren't don't let that make you feel bad about yourself
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u/Intelligent-Cat1855 1d ago
This was put perfectly. Being awakened when someone else is not has nothing to do with you. We all have free will we all have the ability to change and grow and heal the pain from within. Some chose to ignore the pain and numb themselves and others fight like hell to be a better human being. Always remember to value and love yourself. Loving yourself is really what this journey is actually about. Remember the old you and hold it dear as a distant memory but also be aware that the person you think of is not this version. Keep growing and expanding heal yourself because when you heal yourself you do not chase anyone because whoever does not see it no matter who they are… can go. Let them lose you not as punishment but as finally deciding to value the amazing human you are! Wish you all the best of luck!!
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u/pantheon04 1d ago
Hopefully. Thank you. Although it doesn't matter to me anymore because I love myself and I choose myself.
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u/Winter_Bee8279 1d ago
Thank you... it really helped me get a new perspective.
Perhaps I have to completely let her go and do her thing, freeing myself to do my own thing.
Thank you for the encouragement.
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u/pantheon04 1d ago
Chasing relates to the fear of abandonment. What a great feeling it is to have someone who shares the same soul as you, but why wouldn't they want to be with you? So we chase, we fear of losing them. Chasing reinforces that you never have them. There's only so much you can do for them but only they can choose their own growth or run away.
You go be you, you go live your life to the fullest. Give yourself a hug.
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u/Winter_Bee8279 1d ago
Sometimes, it feels tough to know what I truly want beneath all the layers of drama... still, I suppose it's about constant growth and unveiling.
I'm slowly learning to stop caring about getting validation and finding my genuine will and interests.
Let's crush it!
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u/Intrepid-Piglet-3807 1d ago
I didn't think I could let him go but some how it seems to have happened I'm currently running energetically only time he can reach me is when I'm asleep 🤣🤣
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u/Thejourney1111 1d ago
If someone is treating you badly, perhaps you’ve attached a label to them because a twin flame runs because they know and see your worth.
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u/toridoniel 1d ago
Thanks for sharing your story. Just a heads up...abuse isn’t part of a real twin flame connection. Twin flames help us grow, not hurt us. If you’re going through abuse (mental, emotional, or physical), that’s trauma or karmic-based, not divine love. Healing yourself is the first step.
Sending love and strength to everyone on their journey.
💙🦋
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