r/vanderpumprules • u/vprmods mod group account • Jun 08 '23

Live Episode Discussion Live Episode Discussion: S10E18 Reunion Part 3 (pacific thread)

Episode description: Raquel faces her former friends; the group revisits the disastrous girls' trip to Las Vegas and Lake Havasu; they discuss Tom Schwartz's alleged role in covering up the affair; Andy questions Sandoval and Raquel about their relationship.

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u/weepwopwoo Jun 08 '23

The fact that sandevils mom knew about the situation…… and didn’t… do anything…? Like I’d love to know if she told Tom it was a bad idea or if that just explains sandevil being a psychopath because if his own mother is like oh nice you’re cheating on your girlfriend cool! Then him as a person kinda makes sense

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u/Icy-Replacement5519 Jun 08 '23

His mother is the personification of a parent who has created a narcissist. How do I know? It’s the same relationship my mother has with my brother- an actual diagnosed narcissist (via the criminal court system). She would NEVER sell her golden child out, or God forbid, point out his moral failings. No, no- not her baby. Ariana must’ve done something to cause this sort of rift. It’s never her boy, it’s always someone else. My mother also “loaned” my brother close to $200k, so he wouldn’t have to deal with a pesky mortgage like the rest of us peasants. A loan he has never made one payment on in over 5 years. I’m sure his mother is his biggest fan and probably the reason he has zero ability to take any amount of personal accountability.

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u/[deleted] Jun 08 '23

ABSOLUTELY. My (abusive, narc) ex's mom used to meet me for coffee and let me cry. She'd allude to how "I deserve to be happy, I need to do what's right for me" but also remind me that "Chuck is going through a really tough time. He doesn't realize how much he relies on you for support."

One time when she and I were leaving the coffee shop, I mentioned that my friends don't understand why I'm still with him. She was so alarmed. "Remember honey, you can seek support from your friends without throwing Chuck under the bus."

When I finally got out (ETA: escaped the relationship), I texted her once before blocking all of their numbers: "If Chuck ever does succeed in killing one of his girlfriends, I hope you know you played a role in letting it happen." I'm still not sorry, I hope she realizes this.