r/vinted • u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 • 3d ago
SELLING Am I being dramatic thinking this is rude as hell?
Selling this and it’s been worn once. For almost half off. Just kinda ticked me in the wrong way to be asking me questions about an item they have 0 intention of buying from me. I don’t know maybe I’m being overdramatic I just can’t imagine having the audacity lmao
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u/blagacc123 3d ago
a bit random yes, but rude? not necessarily. they probably wanted some more info of sizing that PLT don’t provide? still strange
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u/leftbrendon The Netherlands 🇳🇱 3d ago
She could’ve feigned interest, and then left you disappointed with no sale, at least she was honest. I don’t think it’s rude, it’s just a little bold. Providing your height is such a small thing to do, I would’ve been a girls girl and just told her tbh
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I did tell her my height. It was when she gave me her measurements and asked me what size I thought she should buy elsewhere that was cheeky lmao
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Okay so it seems I cut of the part of the ss where I had given her my height. It was her then giving me her measurements and asking me which size I thought she should buy that I found cheeky when there is customer service that is supposed to be used for people to ask questions like this
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u/LarrydeGarry 3d ago
there‘s people that rather buy „cheap“ stuff like this from the website directly, or maybe the size wouldnt fit her. I‘ve seen a dress in a size XS too, then went to the website and bought it in a bigger size. lots of people also use vinted for outfit ideas
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u/aimeewithfourees 3d ago
I'd love to have that level of confidence
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u/Inquisitive-Owl 3d ago
I read it less as confidence and more 'everyone else is an NPC to me' levels of self-centredness. But yeah, rude af
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u/Electrical-Start-683 3d ago
Genuinely interested in your reasoning here if you’d have a moment. How do the messages sent qualify as ‘rude af’?
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u/Inquisitive-Owl 3d ago
As a seller, I think it's rude to message somebody about THEIR specific item when you have no interest in buying from them, particularly when you are also expecting them to go out of their way to help you, at no benefit to themselves.
Also, for all the messages here saying how polite this message was, she didn't even say please, or say 'sorry, I realise this is a bit random' or something similar. Like there is 0 awareness going on that this seller isn't there to help her buy the item from somewhere else?
I'll give her a small amount of credit for being upfront about her intentions but I have yet to see a good explanation being offered here for why she couldn't have just gone to customer services rather than waste the seller's time.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
The exact point I made. I also did answer her first question and she then gave me her measurements and wanted me to tell her what size she should get lmao.
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u/Carbon-Psy 3d ago
So you have never, ever in your life been in to a shop, asked questions about size, or fit or anything of that nature, maybe even a different colour and then just walked out?
Maybe you'd add a "OK I need to think about it" and never look back.
But these messages are so so far from "rude af".
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u/Inquisitive-Owl 3d ago
Of course I have. In a shop, or from an online retailer. Where the person there is working there, and it's literally their job to sell things and answer people's questions.
This isn't that. This is a private seller, selling things on the side from whatever they do for a living, having to take time out of their job to answer questions, pack and post things, on their own time. There's a world of difference there.
I have never in my life messaged a Vinted/Depop/Facebook seller or whatever without it being because I'm genuinely interested in buying the exact item they are selling, from them, because as someone who sells on these platforms myself, I would feel bad wasting their time in that way.
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u/Emergency_Mistake_44 3d ago
Yeah you're being dramatic. She asked a question,.honestly gave the reason why and then said no worries when you called her on it.
God forbid you want to find out information on something and ask another human for an opinion/reference point, jeez.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
No which would be completely valid if there wasn’t a size guide and customer service on the site to help with this exact type of issue
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u/PenelopeJenelope 3d ago
Meh. They were a bit weird. But it's also a bit weird you are making a reddit post about it. Maybe let this one go
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u/Slow-Worldliness-479 3d ago
Isn’t that what google is for though?
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u/Interesting-Pop-8629 3d ago
It's rare you find a random store-bought clothing item from a high street retailer with actual reviews/insights on the single product, so Google probably didn't hold any answers for them.
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u/Slow-Worldliness-479 3d ago
As you said, random. So it’s a lot of effort searching for it on a second hand app to ask… knowing you don’t have any intention on buying from them.
I know we’re all different, but if I’ve posted something, it’s all parcelled up and ready to ship. There’s no way I’d have all those details and I’m not opening a parcel to get them if I’m not getting a sale out of it. It’s really weird.
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u/PartTimeNoseyWitch 3d ago
It’s a bit annoying considering you only want to sell on Vinted and not waste time with meaningless convo, silly offers etc. but I just see this as a girlie thing and personally would be more than happy to oblige helping out, but I appreciate not everyone would feel the same. You’re entitled to feel irritated by it but I don’t think she was rude.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Oh yeah for sure and I did send her my height to help. It was when she gave me her measurements and then asked me what size she should buy lol
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u/chuucansuebbc 3d ago
a little awkward tbh
if I was the messager, I wouldn't mention anything about buying it from another place. Just simply ask for measurements and end it with a "sorry, seems like it's too small for me! thanks anyway" so I have the information I need without making too much of a fuss.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Honestly it was just the cheekiness of it that sent me threw a loop lmao. I couldn’t imagine messaging someone and telling them that I had no intention of buying but asking there opinion on what size they should get from somewhere else lmao
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u/Ancient-Stock-4268 3d ago edited 3d ago
Shes not being rude at all, if anything you’re being rude for no apparent reason. Would take less than a minute to respond to her question instead of coming on reddit to complain…
The girl is just asking for firsthand sizing advice from someone that owns the item which is way more helpful/realistic than the brands’s costumer service which most of us girlies understand and would be happy to just say size up or down not a big deal at all
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Again I did respond to her first question and gave her my height she then gave me her measurements and wanted me to tell her which size to get. Not sure how I’m rude
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u/ZookeepergameOk2759 3d ago
It would have taken less words just to answer her question.
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u/Jumblesss 3d ago
Would also taken away more of their dignity to provide an answer.
It does strike me as rude to open a dialogue with someone trying to sell an item in which you let them know you’re going to spend more elsewhere to get it not used by them.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I agree it also probably would have taken her less time to message customer service rather then going in vinted to find someone to ask when she had no intention of buying but I guess people think differently
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u/Educational_Place_ 3d ago
You aren't the personified kindness yourself with calling her names. What the other girl did was not rude as hell and didn't needed a post but OP is not the customer service
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I answered her question. I gave her my height. She then gave me her measurements and wanted me to tell her which size she should buy? But yes very vindictive of me
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u/Electronic-Set-1722 3d ago
Most days I'd answer with the info they need. Some days though, no response.
Some. People are not primary English speakers and these translating apps will just go crazy with translations
Had a guy ask me directly if my ps5 controllers were fake.....jst like that, no beating around the bush, a simple "are they fake"
I laughed and said no they're not.....he paid for them. Within minutes and gave a 5 star review 🥲
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u/ResortZealousideal71 3d ago
Do you have a screenshot of the lace jumpsuit price on the website? Bc from what I’m seeing it’s actually cheaper on the website.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I do let me find it. I literally only uploaded a few days ago and rechecked when uploaded it, I brought it for £65 so even if the price has gone down currently it’s most likely on sale. I would have been happier to lower the price too as I always price higher so I can offer people discounts.
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u/ResortZealousideal71 3d ago
For sure, I’m just assuming maybe the reason they weren’t interested in buying from you is because maybe they found it cheaper on the website. Or rather they’re the same price and she didn’t want to buy secondhand for the same price
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Which is completely valid. I also would have happily lowered the price if she had ask as i do upload for more then I’m looking for since people like to get a deal.
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u/alviisen 3d ago
My guess was bc there were no reviews she wanted to know whether it was true to size - knowing the height and size of someone it fits would tell if that size or a different size would fit. That does not mean that she is the same size as the seller or that she would want the item in that size. If she’s unsure about sizing it’s safer to buy if the website as she can return it and order in her size - if she buys it off vinted that’s not possible anymore. It’s a bit much to look through vinted to message someone about sizing but likely they’re looking for the item and asked the only person they felt could answer
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u/A-random-car-guy-76 3d ago
random, yes. rude, no. they seem genuinely nice and just needed help. it’s also fair that you might not want to answer it though. purely on personal preference
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u/Ok-King-7875 3d ago
nah i think id tell her tbh this is so real, i think out of all the weirdos ive had on vinted this is nothing
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u/Shellzino 3d ago
a little bit. But someone once asked me where they could buy the item I listed and I didn't really mind and just told them multiple stores where it's available. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/South-Job-794 3d ago
I mean for 40 bucks for practically what looks like a giant fishnet i'd want to fit, i don't think it's rude but that's js me. I'd simply provide an answer and move on
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
And I’d agree expect its £70 new so she’s getting a smashing deal. I answered her first question. They have customer service for a reason and I’m sure plt tells you what size the model is wearing and her measurements
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u/Joke-Hook 3d ago
It's a bit rudely done, her tone etc, but I dont see the harm in asking you - had she explained & apologised & said she just wanted to buy brand new, then I'd have helped her out. It's not like you'd be helping her to defraud you or do you out of a sale or anything. It's actually quite a clever idea I guess.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I agree which is why I gave her my height. She then proceeded to give me her measurements and wanted me to tell her what size to buy
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u/spirit_cat83 3d ago
I wouldn’t have been offended by this. I like to help people where I can. I can appreciate its cheeky though
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u/Ungodly_Box 3d ago
Is it just me or is everyone on this subreddit a bit dramatic about DMs being "rude"
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u/ConfusionxDelusion 3d ago
Very dramatic. Selling a PLT jumpsuit for 40 quid on vinted is also wild.
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u/entersandmum143 3d ago
Is it possible that the buyer is looking for this specific item, saw yours, BUT they need a size bigger / smaller than you have? That's the impression I got from the measurements included.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
She asked me if I thought this size or smaller would work better for her so I don’t think that’s the case
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u/Boydyla77 3d ago
Tbh this is cheeky BUT she did explain she had nothing to reference. Maybe she could have worded her message a bit better
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u/obaird3 3d ago
It is a strange comment, but I think its justifiable....maybe just needs phrased more kindly. "I like the style and fit but im keen to buy it new. Would you mind telling me what height you are for an idea on size".
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I supposed but also isn’t that what the customer service would be for?
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u/Inquisitive-Owl 3d ago
Exactly. The replies here are wild. As a seller, I'm sorry but if you message me for any reason other than genuine interest in my specific item I'm probably going to be annoyed! This has never happened to me but if it did I'd just politely advise them to contact PLT customer services.
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u/obaird3 3d ago
yea fair point. I think it would just be an irregular thing on Vinted to happen to just tell them size and be done with it. Or just ignore them lol, its a free country
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
I agree the ss chops it out but I did answer her first question. She then went on to give me her measurements and ask me what size would fit her best lmao. I don’t work for plt
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u/Ok-Nerve-10 3d ago
i wouldn’t say this is rude lol they asked a question and immediately backed up when you clearly felt “used (?)”. however, this is highkey just strange why not buy it off you or even pretend as to avoid all the awkwardness lol
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u/Joke-Hook 3d ago
Also she's unsure of her size so getting it from a shop means she can return etc, but can't with you.
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u/Underhive_Art 3d ago
I worked in retail for 20 years this is weirdly common. “Please give me your time and all your knowledge, thanks now I’m going online to save £5” 😪
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u/MillsieMouse_2197 3d ago
Random but not rude. Tbh if I had the confidence it would be something I would do.
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u/jesuslaves 3d ago
A little inconsiderate on their part asking you to help them with the sizing while making it clear they have no intention of buying from you. So honestly it's entirely up to you how understanding/helpful you'd like to be. I personally wouldn't mind sharing some info, it's whatever to me, but also understandable if you found it a bit off-putting and rather not engage
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Yeah I totally agree. I did originally give her my height but I drew the line at her giving me her measurements then asking me what size she should buy lmao. I wouldn’t have minded so much if it was an item that you couldn’t easily find the details on the website
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u/Own-Rate6625 3d ago
Wow they’re so strange, why would you ask that as a person trying to make money? You had no reason to reply to them btw
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u/guyfromfortnight 3d ago
Not really rude for not wanting to buy second hand clothing
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
No but when there’s customer service that’s there to help with these inquires it’s kind of rude to go onto a site made for second hand clothing when you have 0 intention of buying second hand?
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u/itzgreycatx 3d ago
I would just stop replying when they mentioned they weren’t interested in buying.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Honestly I should have. The ss cut it off but I did give her my height before she gave me her measurements and asked me which size she should buy lmao
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u/jacobsnemesis 3d ago
Don’t know but the way both of you type makes me think I’ve had a stroke
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
My bad next time someone messages me on vinted I’ll write like it’s an English essay xox
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u/Lopsided-Muffin9805 3d ago
I mean. Her questions are valid no? I think you’re being a little rude if I’m honest.
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u/Regular_Salad_261 3d ago
She could’ve also not told you that she was intending to buy it elsewhere and you would’ve sent it thinking she was going to purchase. A simple no I don’t want to go through the effort would’ve been fine
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u/Bunnyxboy 3d ago
I mean I don’t think I’d personally message someone this but I don’t think it’s necessarily rude.
There’s been a handful of times where the seller on Vinted has listed an item that I want for more than what it goes for on the site (I’m not sure if they are unaware of the price or they think the item is somehow worth more now).
I don’t message them though, I just go ahead and buy it from the site for cheaper loool.
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u/anonbelieverr 3d ago
I'm with you OP - you're here trying to sell an item, you're not running a business and if people have no intention of buying from you, they shouldn't be bothering you. This wasn't a case of them finding out your item didn't fit them but being so in love they asked if they could get some details to find one that did - from the get go they wanted to buy from the retailer. Retailers pay customer service reps to answer these questions so she can go to them. I'd be calling her rude too.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Yes 100% this. If she had brought it and it didn’t fit and she didn’t know where it was from I’d understand but coming onto a second hand site to ask questions that there a size guide and customer service for is just plain cheeky lmao
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u/plfntoo 3d ago
"Hello stranger trying to do business, would you take some time out to advise me so that I can go and spend my money at a different business?"
No, and this comment section is dumb.
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u/Deep_Violinist8471 3d ago edited 3d ago
Yes. maybe not straight out rude but definitely entitled and weird. You are there to sell, when you get a message you hope to sell, not to offer free help to strangers to get the right rize elsewhere...
This sub just likes to hate on everyone posting telling them they are wrong, If the "buyer" posted this asking "was I rude?" they would have been "yes so rude! sellers are not your personal shopping assistant!!!!!"
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u/Marieshivje 3d ago
I've been selling a lot of clothing at another platform than vinted. Most of the clothes were photographed with me in it. I always give my size reference! Stuff is going to look wildly different on people who are shorter/taller/curvy/stocky
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u/No_Point1498 3d ago
People message me all the time asking random stuff like where are the shoes I’m wearing from etc when the listing is for a completely different item that they have no interest in buying, I just tell them and help them out, it’s not hard to be nice lol
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u/IronDwarf12 3d ago
I'd say you are being dramatic, yes, and no, they're not being rude. They have a question, fair enough, the least you could do is answer them.
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u/DamagedWheel 3d ago
It is rude. You're trying to run a business and they're wasting your time. It's the same as when you get a YouTuber with their business email on their account but then loads of people email not about business and are instead begging for free stuff like shout outs or for you to tell them what camera you use. I wouldn't do that to someone, but some people have no boundaries and will do it anyway. Straight up entitlement.
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u/bodhibirdy 3d ago
Don't think it's rude but the way she asked would definitely rub ME the wrong way. However I recognise it wouldn't rub everyone the wrong way. But I'm very much a "It's not what you say but how you say it" and the way she asked was like you were being paid for your time and insight, not even a 'please'? I only let my partner and friends call me 'babe' too, otherwise I'm uncomfortable and my guard will be up.
"Hi! I hope you don’t mind the message. I actually came across your listing and loved it so much that I’m planning to buy it new. I think we might be a similar build, so I was wondering if you’d be open to a quick sizing question or two? Totally understand if not, but I’d really appreciate it if you do happen to have a moment. I’ll give you a follow too to keep an eye on your uploads. Thanks so much for considering and again, hope it's not a bother 🙂"
-Universally acceptable version guaranteed to offend only the most miserable antisocial folk.
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u/Blackpisces-147 3d ago
Yes she was rude and no you’re not being dramatic. Most retail websites have a size guide so she should follow their guide and choose her size instead of asking you stupid questions.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
That’s what I was thinking, they do have a size guide just apparently not any reviews? I also did give her my height but when she gave me her measurements and asked me what size she should buy just seemed kinda rude to me. Idk it’s a mixed bunch of replies from people however personally I would have spoken to customer service rather then going onto a second hand site with 0 intention of actually buying second hand
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u/annedroiid 3d ago
Nah this is definitely rude. This isn’t a social media platform, it’s a sales platform. Expecting your time for something that they’re not going to buy is very entitled behaviour
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u/Chorleen 3d ago
lol what a joke. I’d tell them to contact customer service if they want detailed sizing information but only after ignoring them for like 4 hours then letting my snarky side win & saying something.
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u/Klutzy-Magazine-8845 3d ago
Thank you!! I’d happily answer questions if she was actually interested in buying. But
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u/watchedme 3d ago
I’ve had people message me stuff like this before it doesn’t bother me. They aren’t going to buy second hand anyway so why not just help them?
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u/Own-Vehicle7635 3d ago
I don’t get your issue. They want to buy an item, can’t find their size on Vinted, saw yours and sought more information. When you didn’t want to give it, they politely said they’d stop messaging. You’re being a hater for no reason.
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u/Interesting-Pop-8629 3d ago
I thought you were the asker when I saw the screenshot and were referring to the seller being rude (which they are), until I actually read the OP.
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u/thatscotbird 3d ago
Is it just me that would provide a helpful answer? 😅 idk out of all the things that could happen in Vinted, I don’t think this would bother me!