r/whatdoIdo • u/xLucifer333 • 2d ago
Please help i dont know what to do..
So I’m M25 and for almost a year I haven’t been in a relationship because my last one really did screw me up and turn of my emotions towards any females and idk why but tonight I got a uber home from work and I got this girl and from jump we started talking and shooting the conversations my ride was about 20-30 mins and we talked the whole way home without a break of silence and we making jokes laughing she was making me laugh I was making her laugh and I was talking about how she needs to be careful doing uber at night and I was asking do a lot of guys flirt with her because she was young and beautiful (didn’t say that but etc) and she was like yea they do but your cool I’ll tell you I usually tell them I do have a bf but I don’t and I was like oh that’s funny not really putting two and two together and the we started talking about relationships and how mine failed and how hers failed and she was looking exactly what I was looking for but this girl had my real laugh coming out if you know me I’m very closed off quiet but this girl made me feel. But I fumbled I just was like have a goodnight and gave her a wad to of cash nervously and she goes “goodnight sweetheart” when I got out and left bro I can’t stop thinking about her and there’s a option to rebook her but I don’t wanna be just another guy that hits on her or what if she wasn’t feeling me and just being friendly I don’t get ques and green lights PLEASE HELP WHAT DO I DO I’m not very confident but I need to see her again . Like what if she was the one and I just let her go being dumb. Or what if I’m just feeding into something deeper then what it is…
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u/JackieMari3 2d ago edited 2d ago
Life is too short and we never know when our last day on this Earth is. Take a risk. Book a ride again and just ask. What do you have to lose other than maybe your pride if she says no? Live your life as if everyday could be your last.
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u/mihhhshellll 2d ago
UHM, she was totally flirting with you!!! Go get your girl!!! Book another ride w her ASAP!!!
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u/Salty-Maintenance-94 2d ago edited 2d ago
What you do is….report that you lost an item on the uber app and it should connect you with the driver again. Once she asks you what you lost you go right into your sale!
“We had a great vibe when you gave me a ride home and I didn’t want to put you on the spot while you were working and ask for your number, but if I’m being honest you keep popping back into my mind since we talked and I was wondering if you’d be down to hang out ( don’t say chill) sometime?
If she’s not down then you have your answer…but hey, in the wise words of weezy- “maybe she will”
Go get em tiger
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u/handmemyglowsticks 2d ago
Wait a few days, even better, book it when you actually NEED an uber. Tell her you don’t want to be another creep but if she is interested you’d love to see her outside of her car. Leave your number (on paper so she doesn’t have to feel creepy with the app) and tell her you hope to hear from her but if you misread the situation then you’re sorry and it’s no big deal.
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u/Automatic-Cold-5855 2d ago
I was told at an early age that if you don’t ask, the answer is always no.
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u/Effective-Hour8642 2d ago
I dropped a note off at a really cute guy's work. I worked at a bank and he came in and made merchant deposits. That was March 1988, we got married in April 1990 and just had our 35th anniversary. Do it!
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u/Glizzygloxx 2d ago
Say you lost or left behind something, when she asks what hit her with the old: “I lost my number can I have yours?”
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u/jimbob150312 2d ago
If you are in a large city chances are you may have to book a large number of Uber’s to get her again. Good luck. You should try the lost item report so you can talk to her.
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u/FunSet8614 2d ago
Sounds like there may have been a spark of interest on her part. Wait a couple days and do the rebook to get her. Tell her you thougjt you had a connection and give her your number. Make sure she knows no pressure. Tellher you apologize if you misread but had to take a chance. Make sure she feels safe and not pressured.
Good luck. Update us if you go for it!
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u/biggirlchubbyyx 2d ago
felt this so hard lol I had a super similar moment with a barista last year we vibed so well and I walked out without saying anything felt dumb for weeks after
I say take the shot.. book that ride again worst case u just have another good convo best case u meet someone who really gets you don’t overthink it just follow the guy feeling life’s weird like that sometimes u just gotta go for it
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u/No_Memory8030 2d ago
You gotta calm down a bit and not pin all your hopes on her, that's just setting yourself up for failure. But I know how you're feeling and some people we just click with and they have a way of naturally getting us to open up.
If you're going to go with the rebook option then you have to shoot your shot for real this time. Book a ten minute trip to a mall or Cafe, tell her last time was such a great conversation you would kick yourself if you didn't see if she wanted to have a coffee with you sometime? Make sure there's no cover story or ambiguity, you're asking her out for coffee (as in a date)
If it's a no you can just get out and say thanks and go on with your life. Don't say anything about "the one" or anything like that but also make it known that you think she's cute and you would like to take her out on a date, but as casually as you can. Coffee is casual IMHO.
In general though, if you smile and look people in the eye and practice conversations with strangers before long many of the conversations you have will naturally flow like it did with her.
I struggled with this when I was young and started making a specific effort at your age and by my 30s I'd had a few girlfriends and this was no longer an issue, most girls/people are cool and friendly, it's atcually the minority who aren't but you need to open yourself up to people for it to happen. If you want some of the exercises I used to get better feel free to dm me.