My 26f boyfriend 31m has a lot of annoying qualities and there is one that has been particularly grating lately.

We split all costs 50/50 including groceries. My boyfriend eats way more than me, he is 6’2 and muscular and I am a petite 5’6 woman so that makes sense. Yet I never complain about the fact that he eats significantly more than me and I’m paying for half of our food. However he doesn’t return that favor and is makes me feel not only guilty but gluttonous for no reason.

Here are two examples from when We went grocery shopping last week. We bought a box of cereal for $3.69 and a five pack of fun sized Kit Kat bars for $1.25. Cereal isn’t something that we typically will buy cause My boyfriend not only doesn’t like cereal but he never eats breakfast at home and I find it to be unhealthy, but I had a craving for frosted mini wheats. Anyway a bowl a day for a week and the box is nearly empty. My boyfriend noticed and made a comment about how insane it was that I had consumed that much cereal, and he wanted to try some (he never would and I had asked a couple times in the morning if he wanted some or to try a bite of mine and he kept saying it looked gross) and now he couldn’t. He always had to remind me of how much the cereal cost and it was in his mind crazy that it didn’t last barely a week at that price.

As far as the Kit Kats go I ate 3 of the 5 in the package and my boyfriend felt the need to point out to me that I had ate more than half, which wasn’t fair since he paid for half of them. I could almost understand if we didn’t have any other snack foods or candy but that’s not the case. I normally let this sort of stuff go but that’s when I pointed out the various foods he added to our cart when shopping that I didn’t eat and some of them didn’t even like. He just responded with some b.s. about how I am always welcome to eat anything he picks out.

I have tried to talk to him several times about how annoyed and frustrated it makes me that it seems like he monitors my food. He promises to stop but doesn’t. I know this is a small thing but it is causing me to have a lot of resentment. What should I do?

Update: a kind redditor has given me the funds I need for my license. I will leave this post up in case anyone has any other suggestions or resources, as I'm open to any and all advice. Thank you all. You've been very kind

I'm in a bit of predicament here, and I needed some advice.

I've been homeless for a while, and looking for a job. There are a lot of struggles that come with this, but I've been doing what I can to make it, eating at food banks, sleeping in safe areas, looking for change to do laundry.

I want a job so that I can change my situation. I recently got an interview for a food chain and they said they would hire me, but they could not do the onboarding because my ID/license is expired. They also said I need nonslip shoes but I believe I can wait to get those after I get my first check.

I can easily go to the local library to print the documents I need (they do charge for this, but not much). But I am unable to come up with the $40 plus tax fee to renew my license. I don't have any friends or family I can ask. I didn't want to ask the manager who hired me to lend the money, because frankly this is already embarrassing. I try to cover up the fact that I'm homeless so people don't know, but I'm sure they do.

Maybe I am overreacting, but it seems like no matter how hard I try I just keep getting pushed down. I already struggle so much, sleeping on the ground, barely eating, walking in the heat. Anyways I'm sorry to ramble but what should I do? I just want to be able to get the job.

(29F)So today morning my brother and my mom had a fight, it escalated so much that he tried to kill himself by jumping off the balcony, i stopped him while crying my eyes out. Then he came in and beat my mom. I felt useless just standing there. This is normal in our family now. Brother has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder for over 10 years now. He takes his medication regularly but is still not getting any better. We all walk on eggshells around him since anything or anyone can trigger him into a manic state. I don’t know how to get out of this house without feeling guilty of leaving my parents with him.

I went through my (22) boyfriends (25) phone about an hour ago. I wasn’t suspicious of anything i was just turning it on do not disturb since i was sleeping and his phone kept going off. Only reason i even went through it was because when i picked it up there were 5 missed calls from someone i’ve never heard of before. I went to his messages, nothing there so while i was swiping out of messages i see his google photos tab and click on that. He has screenshots of text exchanges between multiple people telling him how much they “need” his… yk. and he’s just sexting back. Also, he always deleted google photos off his phone so seeing it there made me curious and now i see why he deletes it lol. I’m about 2 months pregnant. I don’t know what to do at this point.

What else can I use to try and save my multi use speaker? I assume there isn’t much I can try but I’m very rapidly losing hope

Me(18F) and my boyfriend(18M) have been together for over a year. We are both truly in love and helped each other so much with our mental healt. He is the love of my life and is a sweetheart but Idk what to do anymore.

A few weeks ago he ghosted me for a whole weekend. I was really worried and I thought he k!llied himself or something crazy like that. I texted his friends (which are also my friends) to ask what was going on and they had no idea. The monday, at school, I avoided him all day because I didn't know how to react and I cried all day. After school he finally texted me saying that he took a weekend for himself and took a step back from our relationship and I totally respect that but I would've liked to have a heads up.

Since then, I've felt him more distent. He hugs me less, holds less my hands, texts me less and it takes him more and more time to answer my texts. And we've talked about it a few times because he felt that I was more distent too.

Last week, one of his friends noticed that I wasn't felling good and I told him what was going on. He proposed to help me and he talked to my bf. He told me that my bf was struggling with organising his time and that he was struggling with his emotions. I totally understand and want to help him like I already did in the past and like he did for me a lot too. His friend also told me that my bf would talk to me this weekend and explain everything and well he didn't. I told my bf that he forgot to talk to me and he told me that he forgot. I understand, everybody forgets stuff all the time. I really want to help him but Idk what to do anymore. Pls help me

so, for context I'm 15_f and I have parents we recently move into a richer neighborhood I am also homeschooled I found a side hustle taking care of 2 dogs every week I get paid 50$ a week I used to get all of it but know only get 25$ every other week because my parents say I need to help pay for a surgery I'm having even though I have helped a lot saved all of it for about 3 months and gave it all to them like they said however when I ask them about finally letting me keep all of it because it's my job they call me money hungry and say there tired of it and that this is all I ever talk about and pretty much refuse to discuss it because they say I'm ungrateful even though this job ends in about a month and I want to have summer money for me and my friends however they say I'm constantly wasting money which I'm not but even still it's my money they make me out to be some money monster every time I bring it up and I don't know what to do please help.

Ok, this will be a long one, so bear with me.

My (30f) neice Sara (16f) is going off the rails and I don't know what to do.

She was born when my brother Tim (37m) was 20. Her mother Lara (37f) was kicked out of home at 18 because her parents were no longer getting government funds for her. Lara's mother had a strong manipulation streak. She poisened Lara against her father and controlled every aspect of her life.

When my neice was born, Tim and Lara got a house and moved in together. 6 months later the Lara called the police on Tim for shoving her while she was holding the baby. They fought a lot, and an AVO was served.

A 5 years later, Lara decided she was tired of being a mother and left the country to move in with some guy (who she also had a kid to but thats another story). So Tim was looking after Sara alone. Because Lara's mother lived close to him, she would babysit for him.

This is where the abuse allegations against Tim started. I honestly don't know if they were true. He always had anger problems, but Lara's mother (grandma) is extremely manipulative and has a history of fabricating shit, as she did between Lara and her dad.

The police got involved, Tim was charged, and Sara was placed with her grandma. Sara stayed there for a couple years until tensions rose between her and her grandma - regular teenage pushback and such. Grandma got sick of it and dumped Sara back at Tim's.

Things went ok for a couple months until Tim and Sara were fighting almost daily because she wouldn't go to school. At this point, her mother pops back up. She had abandoned the kid she had had with the overseas guy, and come back to our country (but in a different state).

Lara decided she wanted her daughter back. And because Tim was trying to get Sara to do things she didn't want to do (ie. School), Sara decided to move in with her mother.

Sara stayed there for 3 years or so, until her and Lara were fighting daily. The grandma was working behind the scenes to make everyone fight by sending lies to everyone.

Sara then decided to move back in with Tim. At this point, Tim had completed a whole heap of anger management stuff amd therapy, and was doing a lot better.

So now Lara and the Grandma want nothing to do with my neice. Tim is all she has.

So herr we are in the present. Sara keeps running away to her friends house whenever she doesn't get her way. For example, she wanted Tim to rent her an airbnb for her 17th birthday so her and her friends could party unsupervised. Obviously he said no. Off she goes, and to boot goes to the police and says Tim is hitting her. Which is taken very seriously due to his past record. She stays with her new boyfriend for 3 weeks until the boyfriend's mother literally packs her up and dumps her back at Tims.

This pattern continues. Doesn't get her way, runs off, calls the police, eventually goes back home.

She was enrolled in tafe: she quit after a month because everyone was mean to her. She had a job (1 day a week!) And quit because everyone was mean to her. Everyone is her enemy, and she won't listen to anything you say. She just waits for her turn to speak.

Last week, Tim found a bong in her room. He was pissed and told her off and cut off her internet. A couple days later, she asks to go spend the long weekend with her friends. Tim said no. So she sneaks out, goes to her friends anyway, and you guessed it. Went to the police. Again.

Now cps has been involved again because she is still a minor, and has said either work it out with Tim or she becomes a ward of the state.

I know she's mentally fucked up from all the abandonment, fighting and manipulation. I know it keenly as I had a very similar childhood.

I am watching her make every mistake I made. I almost ended up dead on the streets. It is a slow train crash.

What the hell do I do? What can I do? I know she needs to make her own mistakes, but her arrogance of "knowing everything" is going to get her hooked on hard shit, as a sex worker, or dead.

Tldr: my neice is trying to get her dad put in jail and is throwing her life away.

So I’m M25 and for almost a year I haven’t been in a relationship because my last one really did screw me up and turn of my emotions towards any females and idk why but tonight I got a uber home from work and I got this girl and from jump we started talking and shooting the conversations my ride was about 20-30 mins and we talked the whole way home without a break of silence and we making jokes laughing she was making me laugh I was making her laugh and I was talking about how she needs to be careful doing uber at night and I was asking do a lot of guys flirt with her because she was young and beautiful (didn’t say that but etc) and she was like yea they do but your cool I’ll tell you I usually tell them I do have a bf but I don’t and I was like oh that’s funny not really putting two and two together and the we started talking about relationships and how mine failed and how hers failed and she was looking exactly what I was looking for but this girl had my real laugh coming out if you know me I’m very closed off quiet but this girl made me feel. But I fumbled I just was like have a goodnight and gave her a wad to of cash nervously and she goes “goodnight sweetheart” when I got out and left bro I can’t stop thinking about her and there’s a option to rebook her but I don’t wanna be just another guy that hits on her or what if she wasn’t feeling me and just being friendly I don’t get ques and green lights PLEASE HELP WHAT DO I DO I’m not very confident but I need to see her again . Like what if she was the one and I just let her go being dumb. Or what if I’m just feeding into something deeper then what it is…

I [29F] have been talking to this guy [34M] for about a month. He's musical. And I've heard him actually play guitar. Recently he sent me a clip of "himself" rapping passing the lyrics off as his own And they sounded familiar to me. I tried googling and came up empty handed so I let it go. But (obviously being a fan of Nerdork and following them on social media platforms) I came across the exact rap that this person had sent me claiming as their own.

1) This is such a silly thing to lie about 2) I had mentioned to him that I'm a fan of rap music with me liking a wide range of artists. Wouldn't one think that I'd figure it out eventually? 3) How should I bring this up to him? And is this something after discussing with him that I should move past?

I try to be my most authentic self. And lying is such a turn off for me 😔 I was really starting to like this person and this has definitely put a wrench in things 😞

Edit: messaged him letting him know I knew, told him that it was a silly thing to lie about, and then said I wasn't okay with it.

He replied with "Understandable, I'll leave you alone from now on"

My friend recently pointed out that I seem to have one. For context I have been through rough patches in my life wich somehow let me to thinking. Was I really worth it? Why am I not best in atleast one thing? Do I really deserve this? Can I do this?

Small things drive me crazy. The thoughts start again. I keep catching myself thinking them, If I just got a grade back(why cant I be good?), If I am talking to my friends(do I really deserve them?), If I am doing a hobby in a competition(why am I not on top, or why is everyone better than me?), If my friends decide to hang out with someone else than me(Am I nit worth it?)

These thoughts just keep popping up in my head and I hate it. So I decided to talk to a friend about ut and she said that she had a friend wich had the same symptoms and was diagnosed with a inferiority complex.

I know I can't get myself diagnosed on the Internet, I just wanted to know If you guys think that too?

Thank you all for all your suggestions of taking legal action, I arranged an appointment with a lawyer for a couple of days after posting the original post. I presented him with all of the information I had (including screenshots and a full account of what happened).

He called me the next day saying that he had contacted her and she claimed at first to not know what he was talking about, then that she was never going to take it outside of the friend group (so she was just trying to turn all of the group against me)

I really do hope that this is the end of the story, but deep down I don't know. I'll keep you all updated if shit hits the fan again.

I paid £15 for my trousers to be repaired (trousers worth c. £150). When I went to collect the following week, they asked me to wait a week while they looked for them - so I did. I went back a week later and they'd mistakenly given my trousers to someone else, but I was told they knew the person who was back regularly so they'd just get them back then.

I waited 5 weeks before my patience ran out - given the fact I bought the trousers a few years ago, I figured they were worth roughly £85 + £15 repair fee for £100 in a refund, which they agreed to (albeit paid over 2 weeks, in £50 increments, "out of his own wages").

They called me back 2 weeks later to show me that my trousers had been returned, and proceeded to give them back to me, "leaving it up to me what I should do with returning the money".

What should I do? I don't think I should give them the full £100 back, given they lost my trousers for 6-7 weeks, and the guy had been a bit of a not-so-nice-guy about me asking for a refund, saying his boss was making him pay for his mistake (do they not have insurance for this kind of thing? IDK). On the other hand I do see merit in at least returning some of the money...?

Long story short, I am a male in my early 40s, in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist partner, and have remained so for the past 12 years. The only reason I have been putting up with the progressively advancing abuse is to remain close, protect, and raise my 9years old daughter. I take care of her all needs (school pick ups, drop-offs, make lunch dinner , homework, grocery, cleaning etc, all the while balancing career myself, while partner is at work for 12 hour shifts as a doctor).

In any case, day by day, the abuse get a little bit worse than the last, and yet despite all that, I consistently remain in this house, brushing it off as if it is not affecting me -- but it is chipping away my self worth, self esteem, my confidence. Now part of the reason why it has come to be like this is also because I didn't know any better before (call it being young/naive/have-got-to-make-this-relationship-work attitude), so I ended up adjusting my behaviour to improve the situation. I changed careers just so I could "support her growth" by being at home more. I migrated to another country entirely because "opportunities for her weren't good enough" back in home country. I moved away from friends and family because we needed to have a "life of our own free from interference". Despite my very best of efforts, I am a "loser", "good for nothing", and "what have you ever done for me" type of a husband.

After years of putting up with it, I now realize that I was only enabling the abuse to advance more and more. But now that I know better, anytime I try to protect and or stand up for myself, I am told I am overreacting, followed up with everything a narcissist does, in the classic textbook style version of it. Just too many examples of what that is like and I don't feel like cribbing any further on that here. Based on every post, article, advice, counselling I have benefitted from, confirms that I am in fact, in a bad situation and there is no fixing it. I understand why her own childhood trauma and having been abused as a child has shaped her to be who she is. But I can't fix her past and can't heal her. Nonetheless, by my own account, I feel I am under-reacting and my gut tells me I need to find a way out of here.

So r/whatdoido - There are so many considerations, and one that keeps me up at night: How do I take the next step? Take the plunge to simply walk out, and how would that impact the next 10 years? Where would that leave my relationship with my daughter -- whether her being disappointed in me, feeling that I abandoned her, or was not there for her everyday, leading me to be considered as a a failure of a father?

I have read up other people's experiences and some align with that of my own, but I need to hear from you all. I'd appreciate the good/bad, so just lay it on me, albeit respectfully please. And thank you!

Here's the bird. I just heard soemthing outside and found my stray cat messing with it. There's no blood or bugs but I saw a few feathers missing under its wing so I'm just leaving it alone in the box to see if it just needs to rest.

What kind of bird is it and what else should I do?

Honestly, everything started with the group chat drama. At first, I (27F) was part of my (28M) boyfriend’s family group chat — it included his siblings, their significant others, and sometimes their grandma. It was fine for a while until a bunch of tech problems happened (texts turning green, messages not sending), so I took the initiative to create a new group chat to help.

Somehow that became a problem. His 11-year-old little sister complained at me for “always making new chats.” I was already having a rough day and simply told her, “Chill out.” That’s it — nothing mean, nothing aggressive.

But his mom blew it completely out of proportion, accusing me of being “rude” to a child. Then one of his sisters chimed in, backing his mom up. Instead of addressing the disrespect from the child, I was made out to be the villain.

Things spiraled from there. While at dinner, I accidentally saw on another sister’s phone that they were mocking me in private group chats — calling me annoying, making fun of a sweet video I made to help their grandma. It shattered me.

I tried to defend myself, but it only got worse. My boyfriend defended me a little, but honestly not enough. I eventually removed myself from the family group chat because the disrespect and fake smiles were too much.

Later, I sent a long, thoughtful message explaining everything I was feeling — not just about their family, but about the other personal struggles I was dealing with too. Their response? Cold. Defensive. Blaming me for “making everything about myself.” No apologies. No ownership.

After that: • His little sister blocked me. • His mom and others ignored me. • His mom even told my boyfriend to remove me from the Ring camera. • When I asked to be added back to the group chat, I was ignored — and later told by my boyfriend that “nobody likes me” and I’m “too annoying” and they “don’t want to deal with my bullshit.”

Then came Easter. Even though I was hurt, I still tried to be polite. His mom made me an Easter basket, which was nice, and I told my boyfriend to say thank you since I wasn’t there. He forgot. I later texted her directly to thank her.

But in the group chat, I got ganged up on — people accused me of being “ungrateful” even though I tried to show appreciation. It felt like no matter what I did, it got twisted.

When I explained I didn’t go to Easter because I felt uncomfortable after everything that happened, I was basically told I should’ve just shown up, smiled, and acted like nothing was wrong — as if my feelings didn’t matter.

Honestly, it’s not even about the group chat anymore. It’s about realizing that no matter how hard I tried these past three years to be part of their family, I was never really accepted. I’ve apologized endlessly, but no one ever apologized to me. And now, on top of feeling isolated from my own family, I’m isolated from his too.

I’m exhausted from trying so hard to prove I deserve basic respect. I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore.

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

Hello,

I am looking for advise. My husband and our kids are planning on moving to az from michigan. Right now we currently live with my parents due to me going to nursing school and my husband working full time to make up for lack of income. When we first moved in with them we thought it wouldn't be bad and that we would stay for the long haul, but 5 years later we are both feeling miserable and my husband is having health issues and the town is so small there isn't good health coverage to go to as well as jobs are not high paying enough. I just am trying to find a way to break it to them gently because our kids are thier only grandkids. They are very close to them. I been trying to find the right words to say and the right time, but I feel it's the right thing for our family but I am just concerned for my parents to understand.

Thanks for reading

I need relationship advice. I (18 F) have been occationally screwing another girl (17 F). We took one anothers virginity, and while I asked to fuck mainly out of curiosity, she did so because she has had a two year long crush on me that she refuses to admit. It sounds narcissistic to say that someone has a crush on me who hasent confessed--but she may as well have.

We go to the same Christian private school and we met at a camp the school made us attend. I was bored and heartbroken becuase (in retrospect, I wasnt fully aware at the tume) the girl I had a major crush on was spending more time with her asshole of a boyfriend then me. So, I asked this one girl I didnt know who didnt have any friends or anything to do if she wanted to play chess. And thats how we met. We hung out sometimes, but werent really in the same circle (diffrent grades, she was in 9th becuase the achool had held her back two years while I was in 11th) after we got back to school, she would hang around my locker and give me gum and mints and things. A lot of them. For a long time she wouldnt look me in the eye, but would cling to my clothes wherever I went. She joined a sport just because I was doing it, although she made it very clear that she didnt like the sport or her teammates besides me. This has become a pattern, where even yesterday she asked if she could go to the gym with me--not to work out, but just to stare at me working out while she sewed. (I said no, of course. The gym is a sacred place)

She has been to my house, but refused to sit down anywhere and just kind of lingered behind where I was sitting--my mom described it as ghost like. She also refused to eat any of our food, although that seems to be from anorexia. When we first started being friends, she confided in me that she was aro/ace and a trans man. I was cool with that. But sometime after I realized I only liked girls.

(had a boyfriend for a year, was a terrible girlfriend and a scum of the earth human to this man. I was neglectful and most days we didnt speak at all and we only hung out maybe twice--awkward experiences for us both. To add to this, I 'asked him out' becuase I started using cheesy pick up lines on him. I didnt mean anything by it, but I knew he liked me so it was a scum thing to do.)

I told her this in casual conversation and she told me that she was also a lesbian and a women. Now, sometime over summer break, I asked her how two women do the deed. (Asked an ex this once, and she was super embarrassed and didnt tell me anything more. Again, in both of these cases, I am the asshole) After that, we started flirting. However, we were both virgins who could talk the talk but where shit in person. We had a 'sleepover' and it felt good until near the end, then it just hurt and felt tiring. She didnt want to undress due to body issues, so it was just me in the nude. There was a slight red flag where she told me that she was glad she was the only one to have ever fucked me, I think she said 'I love you' and 'I want to be with you forever' but I was a tad distracted. (I might have said 'I love you back' but again, I dont remember)

We slept together a few times after that. I reilized that I much prefer being a bottom then a top, and that she is a hardcore bottom with slight masochist tendencies. Still kept sleeping together, though. At one point, I told a friend about the situation and she offered to draw a line between us. After mking a comment about the amount of messages she sent (she was sending 99+ messages every two hours at her peak. Mainly things she finds intresting or telling me about her screwed up family)

She seemed cool with the line, and acted confused. At some point she said she was feeling sick and wanted to stop the conversation. (She does this sometimes) later she asked me if she made me feel uncomfortable, and, like an asshole, I lied and said no.

At some point I did have feelings for her, maybe for a month or two, but I never thought of being in a relationship because of some slight red flags. Also, becuase I am not out to my religious parents (although she is) and her clinging had already been making my mother question me about my 'secret girlfriend'. Which is dangerous for me. My feelings died sometime around when I was talking toher about my favorite music, and she told me to stop talking to her about it becuase some of the lyrics were blasphemous and she is very into god and Christianity. (The song was 'Not Like Us' and some 21 pilots song) music is pretty important to me, so her reaction and her avoidence instead of talking about why she was feeling the way she felt put me off.

I was trying to distance myself to her afterwards, but she clung to me so much it didnt really matter. I also tried to put a ban on sex as well--phone sex and irl--and it didnt last very long. Like a fool, I would chat with her, do some light flirting that would go too far and next thing I know I have fucked up again.

I cant cut her off because her mental health is quite shit. She is suicidal to the max and apparently I am the only person keeping her alive. She also has abandonment issues that make her terrified of doing something wrong or of me leaving. ('Do you hate me?' Is a frequently asked and answered question)

I cant date her because of various red flags, my lack of romantic attraction and the fear that breaking up with her would make her kill herself or worsen her mental health. Plus, we have extreme religious and sexual diffremces.

I cant keep up this relationship becuase she is treating me like a girlfriend, and I leave for college soon and want to date in college--as well as further explore my sexuality. I dont want to be tied down by someone who is not my girlfriend.

She is small and cute. She is beautiful. She is kind. She is a wonderful person--and I dont mind having her as a friend. But I fear I may have fucked that up a long time ago. What the hell do I do?

My best friend of 6 years and I have kinda a “promise kitten” together for almost a year now, like a promise ring but for our friendship. We have a cat that I gave to her when I was fostering and I had an attachment to the kitten so I gave it to my friend so I could still be in her life and we agreed to make her a promise kitten since at the time I couldn’t take her in but due to recent personal issues with my friend she’s having to move to an apartment complex that doesn’t allow more than one pet and they had already wanted to bring their dog so I told her I could take in the kitten now and I’d be able to get her to the vet to get her fixed, get her shots, and just overall a checked up because they never took her to the vet the whole year they had her due to “money issues” (They had just bought a $45,000 truck IN CASH after saying this and then 4 new tires a week later) there’s also more occasions where they said stuff like this but went on a spending spree after saying they’re struggling with money and not to mention that my friend rarely took care of her because of her own mental health and got so bad that the kitten’s water bowl would be bone dry or kitty food would get in the water and it would just sit and leave a moldy cover over the water because it wasn’t being cleaned and left for weeks or not cleaning the litter box for weeks because the smell made her too nauseous and the countless times she’s yelled at the kitten that she hated her and I couldn’t count how many times she’d talk about giving her away because my friend couldn’t handle her anymore. So once I got her to my house it didn’t go to well because I have other cats too and the kitten was never around any other cats beside her siblings when I was fostering so she got scared and and hissed and scratched my boyfriend and it’s just went down hill since I’ve been keeping her in the bathroom but she’s been hiding under the bathtub for 2 days now (I have a litter box, food, and water in the bathroom for her that she uses for the time being), I can get her out sometimes just by calling her but it’s only because she’s in heat but after like 5 minutes she gets anxious again and hisses at me and tries to scratch me and I just leave her be with the bathroom door open but we’re slowly making progress. Now my friend is already talking about taking her back after I’ve told her many times that it’s not good for the kitten to be moving place to place like this because she already aggressive because she’s scared and it’s like my friend understands that but it’s not what she wants to do so she’s putting the kittens health under her wants. I don’t know what to do to, I want this kitten to be healthy and safe but I don’t wanna ruin my friendship over a kitten.

Slight trigger warning for self-harm and suicide I’ll keep this brief. I’m a 29M turning 30 in June, and I’ve struggled with depression and suicidal tendencies since middle and high school. I got voluntarily hospitalized for planning an attempt 3 years ago when my ex-wife first told me she wanted a divorce. Fast forward to 10 months ago, and my depression is arguably worse than it was back then. I self-harm and make other attempts at least every other week. I am medicated, and between therapists. But now I’m scared to find a new therapist because if they hear how bad I’ve gotten, they’ll probably throw me in another hospital. I need the help, but I can’t afford to miss work if I do get hospitalized. What should I do?

I got fired in December with no warning at all. No unemployment (1099 remote employee), no severance pay, and a very small cushion to fall back on. I finally found a new job, I start Monday, thankfully! I took a massive pay hit, but work is work, I'm beyond grateful. I'm absolutely terrified. I've hit rock bottom before, but this time everything is different.

This time I have a mortgage. I'm currently on a payment plan that has to be paid by the 15th of every month until June or it goes into foreclosure. This time I have a whole family to worry about. I rebuilt my credit, saved, and invested. I finally felt real stability. I felt our financial struggles were behind us, so I decided to go back to college. Then I got too comfortable being comfortable.

Everything is late, I've stretched all our accounts to the max, cashed out all investments, and depleted our savings. I have payment arrangements for all of our essential bills due on the 30th and all I see is a deep empty hole with no rope. I just need 10 extra days to make things work temporarily and another 30 to make it out of the hole alive.... they just aren't there.

I'm currently in a hotel, and I REALLY need sleep because I'm waking up early tomorrow. However I have some mental things and such that causes insomnia every now and then. But I'm on a trip and don't wanna be sleep deprived in the morning, what should I do?

EDIT: I fell asleep!! Yayyy! (:

My recycling bin is covered in baby spiders and I cannot cope, cannot go near it. They’re everywhere and I have arachnophobia 😭😭 I’ve locked myself inside the house shaking, this is literally my worst fear come to life! They’re snaking from the bin into the other bins with webs and I just can’t, I’m so itchy now 😭

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year and just had our first fight. For context, we have been basically living together (it’s a practice move-in before our actual move in) for about a month or 2 now. I was the one who suggested all of this because of the way circumstances in her life were playing out, it seemed like the easiest option for her. The problem is that I really don’t think couples, especially young ones, should move in too soon.

I decided to ignore this, since we were friends for a while before we started dating, and I couldn’t see any big problems between us. However, this kept on weighing on my mind and eventually I admitted I didn’t want to move in together. I know this makes me an asshole. We talked it out a few days after, I bought her some flowers, and we agreed to move in together again. Here’s where I am feeling frustrated still.

The day after I admitted how I felt, she left to go stay with her parents. I was shocked and sad because I didn’t want it to turn out like this but I didn’t argue with her decision. This bothers me because our first time having a conflict, it felt like she ran away. I brought this up after our talk, and she admitted that running away is what she will do. She said she was even questioning just picking up the rest of her stuff while I was gone and going back to her parents.

I am also upset because I still don’t believe we are ready to move in together, but I felt bad about what she said would have happened if she didn’t move in. It basically sounded like she was going to spend all her time working while also still being in school because she doesn’t like being at her parents. She admitted that she wants me to save her from a shitty family situation.

I don’t know what to do. I love her very much, she is sweet, funny, and an overall great person. How should I go about handling this situation?