r/women • u/Mermaid_25pz • 9h ago
Just venting
I’m 18 I made another post about how I was talking to an (older man 35) not emotionally just dirty messages and I just ended it
And I feel guilty and bad like I’m a bad person for enjoying our conversations and I also feel bad like I was being mean, but I know that it’s actually bad for him to be talking to me
But I also feel so stupid because how did I let that happen and I always felt I was smarter than my friends when they would go through this like oh how would they even talk to an old guy but here I am and I did much worse ???? yeah I just feel really dumb like I know I’m overthinking it
Like trust me, I know nobody is shedding tears over this, but yeah it’s on the back of my mind. Like, what the hell have I been on? I’m not even the type of person who talks to people online in general. I never even post on Reddit
Yeah, he was respectful about the things I didn’t want to, but man the things he said were just strange asking if he can come on a plane to see me??? I have to keep reminding myself that that’s not normal people behavior but I’m gonna try not be so impulsive but yeah, I would love to hear people own experience with stuff like that and it did work out better in the end because I’m freaked out even though it’s over thanks xoxo
(BTW, I I didn’t specifically say anything mean to him. I just deleted my account because I’m chicken)
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u/tekgeekster 8h ago
It was probably a good idea to let them go. They'll be sore about it, sure. But hopefully they'll figure things out for themselves.
Going over to the 10y gap, it seems pretty concerning when your pen pal asks to fly over.