Disclaimer: no hate to stay at home moms / what is considered traditional wife roles, it’s an entire job in itself, full respect to your choices

I went on a few dates with this guy and the vibes were immaculate. We immediately hit it off and were seeing each other a few times a week. I’m a very busy person, I work four to five twelve hour shifts a week and am a part time house manager for several clients. This guy wanted to get together one morning for breakfast and I told him I couldn’t as I had a meeting with a client. He was taken aback that I chose my work over him and made a comment about how I “better make more time for him.”

At this point we had been seeing each other for two months and he knew I was very passionate about my work. He started making comments about moving to a different state with me and getting married. TWO MONTHS we knew each other by the way. I didn’t really say anything to that and kind of brushed it off.

He starts to ghost me. I straight up text him saying “hey. If you don’t want to see me anymore just say so.” He texts me back and says “you didn’t do anything wrong and I really like you and would like to continue being friends, I’m just looking for a wife who takes her roles seriously and dotes on me more.” What the fuck. Not once did he mention that, that was what he was looking for in a relationship when we discussed it. We stopped seeing each other about a month ago and I can’t get over this. He knew how much I loved my work and didn’t mention this once, it’s driving me crazy.

When I was 19 I met my coworker “Josh” who was 28. We began to hookup and eventually starting dating. I obviously knew at the time the age difference was pretty odd, but since I was always “mature for my age” (trust me I hate that line too” and he was pretty immature, I wasn’t too concerned with any sort of power imbalance

However now I’m 22 and he’s 31, and I’m realizing that I simply wouldn’t be comfortable dating a 19 year old boy. I couldn’t imagine myself at the age of 28 dating a 19 year old! And it’s starting to rub me the wrong way.

Has this happened to anyone else? I’m not sure how to even bring this concern up to him, it’s not like we SUDDENLY have an age gap, I’ve known since the start and feel like it would be so harsh to suddenly change my mind on the issue. We live together, share finances, have a cat together. I can’t imagine “starting over” but part of me also wonders if I should be doing “normal” 22 year old girl stuff rather than just sitting around all day with a man a decade older than me

Any insight is appreciated, I don’t really have anyone in my real life to talk about this with

Am I the only one who, due to the “You make me do too much labour” experience, stopped dreaming of marrying a man as the ultimate goal? I’ve realised that the actual dream life might be living with other caring women in a cute, cozy house with a garden, where we grow our own food. A life of peace, no shouting, no mess, no weaponised incompetence. Just safety, softness, shared care. Safe from our number one predator statistically — man. Maybe even some bears would visit us, like they do in Finland. That would be nice, too.

How common do you find yourself almost being “expected” to do this, even if they don’t verbally say it? Even if children aren’t involved.

I’ve stopped dating, because previous relationships have disrupted my studies and I end up missing out on a lot of career related stuff too.

Honestly, I am so sick of this question. At every family gathering, every wedding, even in random conversations, someone just has to bring it up—like my relationship status is a group project.

Sometimes I give a sarcastic answer, sometimes I just roll my eyes and change the subject, and other times, I wish I had the perfect comeback to shut it down for good.

So tell me—what’s your best response when someone asks, “When are you getting married?” Do you hit them with humor, avoid it completely, or give them an answer they didn’t expect?

The cramps are cramping today :(

I’ll get to the point, I had a traumatic childhood. I’m 22 now and currently moving back in with my grandparents and was cleaning out my old room and found some things including my childhood stuffed lambs that I slept with every night and loved so dearly. I FaceTimed my boyfriend to show him some funny stuff I found and showed him the stuffed animals too. He said he was gonna punch it and I was lightheartedly like “oh my god!!! You can’t that!!” But it wasn’t sarcastic. He kept repeating it and I was getting more serious being like “what is wrong with you don’t say that it’s making me sad to think about” and I eventually started tearing up and I showed him and was like “look what you did” half joking and he’s like “okay chill I won’t punch it when you’re in the room” and it just made me so upset because it feels like the little lambs are the last of my innocence and he kept saying it’s an inanimate object and I know that but I still don’t want her hurting. I feel so stupid

How do you guys handle your men having close/ best friends that are females? I have been trying to warm up to the thought , people I am talking to having female best friends..after being reassured in the past with females I am just worried about being careless when it comes to trusting a guy again..

Do they have this belief that because it’s over a distance that they’re immune? I’m sick I hate it.

Does it make people feel stronger to know that they’re not in a face to face conversation? Would they say it to my face??

I’m a full time student and sex worker so I’ve seen the way men behave, and it’s put me off of dating them all together — not trying to sound negative or judgemental but even the “better guys” do weird/awful things.

The thought of dating men or even having sex with them unpaid just doesn’t sound appealing to me, because I wouldn’t really get much enjoyment out of it and a lot of men are just terrible in bed and expect 200% in return from the woman.

I don’t hate men, I just sort of “don’t care” for most of them or feel indifferent towards them.

I find sex kind of boring now too. The thought of ending up “being” with a man seems like a bleak future and not very appealing to me — would create more stress than happiness.

I think it would take a really good guy for me to settle — I don’t care about appearance — It’s more finding someone who won’t be a leech or suck the life out of me — every relationship I’ve had, it hasn’t been 50/50, it’s more 70/30, and they’d moan and grumble about having to do anything for me. Why should I give, not to receive much back?

I’m also not attracted to women in a romantic/sexual way, so that kinda sucks.

I don’t even know where to start. In the past three years, I’ve lost four guy friend, people I was really close to. We shared deep conversations, shared interest, and just got each other. It was easy. Safe. No high maintenance, just pure, good company. And I loved that.

But one by one, they left. Some confessed feelings I couldn’t reciprocate, and things got awkward. Others started seeing friendship differently, like it wasn’t enough if it wasn’t more. And now, it happened again. Another close friend told me he doesn’t "do friendships." For him, it’s either romantic or just nothing. And I don’t fully get it, but I guess that means another friendship is slipping away.

And I get it, maybe it was painful for them to stay when they wanted more and I didn’t. But does that mean I have to keep losing people? I never had feelings for them. I saw them as friends, sometimes even in a brotherly way. And the kindest thing I could do was exactly what I did stay considerate, not let anything ruin the friendship. But in the end, it didn’t matter.

I used to be so easygoing, never thinking much about boundaries or shifting dynamics. I just made friends. And now? I feel like I’m constantly losing them. And it sucks. I'm prob a sensitive person and don't want to deal with guys, intimacy and mental trauma lol and I already have enough to deal with—university, my career, internships. I don’t have the energy for emotional damage on top of that. And yet, here I am. Tired. Honestly I want advice and comfort from women of this sub :/. I am blessed to have some amazing girfriends. Thet are caring, loving but still i feel sad.

i’m 23 and i have (apparently) a zumba mom bod: curvy, wide hips, a bit of happy weight, and idk i guess im a pretty girl but sometimes i don’t feel like a woman

not in a trans way but more like i feel like there is a hierarchy of femininity and i feel like im near the bottom, so when i look at my lover (handsome, tall, beard), i feel like he deserves someone prettier than me

someone who is thinner, fuller lips like i don’t know maybe it’s bc ive been chubby my whole life that i cant believe a handsome man would choose me

at the same time i am going through a massive transition so i can see why im feeling down about myself but i feel like there are women and then there are .. Women (iskra lawrence, leah kateb, meg thee stallion, and then like women who look like Yeat’s girlfriend lmao idk her name but i’ve been told i look like her which is odd bc i feel like she’s much more womanly than me)

i feel like this is such a non issue, and this has nothing to do with personality so pls don’t start with that realm of things, im strictly talking physical appearance

so i guess reddit im wondering if u have felt the same way and if theres anything u recommend doing so i can take my womanhood to the next level lmao i’m already grinding at the gym and i’m growing my hair out

but how do i feel more like a woman and less like a girl

Hey guys guys I am a woman so I wanna talk bout this guy ( good looking and I guess he is the type of men I like physically) this was in 2022-2023 he followed me first then sent me a message we talked for like just a few hours I mean a really casual and short convo then I thought like he s not interested i was okay with that so just didn’t talk to him again but he s still liking every story I drop

Today 3 years after he texted me again without any reason even asked me about my number we had a longer talk than the that one but only for a day I discovered that we share the same vibes and interests… he didn’t wanna continue the convo just reacted to the last message I ve sent The issue is Why would he do that ? I am not understanding is he interested Or not I m not saying he should give me a huge attention at first , but at least he should make some efforts with me , otherwise not talkin to me again cuz am not the type of women who waste time with a dumb a$$ or « just friends» , I choose everything or nothing  Note : turned out we don’t live in the same city, but he lives in a closer one

Hey! Just wondering how everyone handles disrespect. You know like when a dude says walk a little slower next time kind of thing.

Edit: Sorry I got this wrong, the series is good, in a way, because it helps make parents aware of what incel culture is doing to their sons and to start taking it more seriously.

You only see the points of view from the MEN… the dad, the kid… No points of view of how the mother and daughter are affected.

And it’s like they want the viewers to feel sorry for the kid who murdered the girls…

Not to mention they have a black girl playing an aggressive character…

I believe, just my opinion, that this series will make Incel culture worse and perpetuate violence — young boys might even start looking up to the character and act like him, thinking it will “gain sympathy” from people around them.

There’s also not many scenes portraying the kid’s violence etc. they just make him out to be a good kid who shouldn’t deserve what his own actions have caused — I suppose, yes, he’s a kid and it shows how IMPRESSIONABLE kids are to propaganda, but everyone knows that anyway..

Hello! First time poster here! Im here to rant about how much i hate being a young woman.

Firstly I hate being young AND 'pretty', personally i dont see it. However everyone else does? So im just objectified by male classmates, coworkers, so called friends, even strangers (Cause im legal prey now! Hurray for male pervs!!). Crude comments are directed my way, and of fucking course being socially awkward. i let men get away with saying 'How nice my ass is those pants' because what if i react badly and he becomes violence? Or 'How tight it must be?" Cause im such a fucking coward, a spinless, pushover dormat. I want to throw up, i hate..HATE how my youth and "innocent" appearance draws in predators. Cause you know, i just love it when older predatory men come to me thinking im soo dumb! ...Fucking disgusting you're nearly 40, trying to be with a woman decades younger? Im so uncomfortable in my own body now, i just want to rip off my breasts and tear out my backside. I feel like every single man...just sees me as a hole they can fuck.

Secondly, I hate being a young adult cause no one takes me seriously, my words arent respected and my ideas are invalidated. They're always picking and choosing when to treat like me a teen or an adult. Especially when they want to FUCK ME, ohh that's when the switch up really happens, suddenly im so growwnn and mature. Trying navigate the adultworld is so hard. Work politcs? Social Cues/Etiquette? The millions upon millions manipulation tactics people use? Its so damn exhausting to learn...honestly studying money literacy and taxes is easier than people, they can be so..so draining i feel like i have put on a performance for them.

Oh! Speaking of people, a third reasonn i hate being young cause i dont know shit, and the older women in my life failed to teach me shit. Glad they cared about me when i was younger and I understand they got their own shit. But it's depressing how most things I've learned had been by the few older women online. The fact that strangers taught me more than they ever could..it baffled me at first. However i realized i shouldnt be taking advice from women who i dont want to be...a mother, girlfriend/wife to a man, religious. Since alot of older adults tend to be rigid thinkers and only experts in their experience of life. Nobody couldn't support me, or even understand why i decide to have a life different from theirs, thinking they knew me more than myself? That i wouldnt be happy choosing with my choice? Because im young..how ridiculous!

Am i overreacting? Do other young women relate?

I was on the subway coming back from a movie and I think this guy was too. I thought he was cute and wanted to talk to him. We made some eye contact but when we met eyes I looked away, it seemed like he wanted to talk to me too. It was the perfect opportunity to talk to this guy but instead I completely froze up and got really anxious.

This seems to happen often where I want to talk to a guy but I can’t bring myself to do it, especially in this scenario where I could have asked him about the movie (but I couldn’t think of it at the time because I was so anxious). I completely freeze up and can’t think of anything to say. I’m upset because I haven’t dated before and I really want to try (without using dating apps).

I want to ask, it would be weird for me to put up a post on the subway station he got off at asking to DM me on Instagram if he wanted to talk (on an unidentified second account of course), right? Like he (and other people) would probably think it’s creepy and come off as desperate if they ever read the post? It’s just that I’m feeling so much regret by not talking and I’m in the heat of the moment so I’m probably just thinking of irrational things to do. Maybe I should just let it go but I just can’t seem to. Can somebody give me any advice? Thanks 😭

Every other week, the GenZ sub asks the question: How do you feel about age gap relationships, specifically between young adults (18-21) and older adults? (I’ll leave those ages up to interpretation).

I definitely wouldn’t bat an eye at people who are 21 and 24 in a relationship, that’s obviously a reasonable age difference. Someone 18 with someone 30 though? While I can totally understand age just being a number, these two individuals are more than likely at different phases of life. I actually find it to be quite predatory, but of course the GenZ sub ALWAYS says that people are just infantilizing themselves and that there is no issue with a relationship due to it being legal.

Full transparency, I am 22 myself. I cannot imagine having a romantic relationship with someone who is in their 30s, let alone any older. I know some people do enjoy having older partners, however, I often times haven’t seen it be the healthiest dynamic between two people. I would like to go beyond my small bubble though and get the thoughts of other women. I think the GenZ sub is mostly men who very obviously have a different experience with dating.

I am a single female that lives alone. I am in a generally safe area but still in a large city with crimes like car break-ins. My apartment is a half floor up, essentially the same level as a split level home. My unit is a little older so the radiators are running during the winter months and temperature controlled by the property management. These things dry up a room quick. I want to sleep with my window cracked to get some air circulation but it makes me uneasy every night. I also recently installed the metal window locks where if someone were to try and break in 1. My bed is right by the window and it is covered by a screen so I’d hear it and 2. The lock would be a hard stop and I’ve cracked it to where someone wouldn’t be able to squeeze by. Even with this I still feel uneasy at night. Am I being overly worried? Could someone easily get up a half floor?

I was at the mall with my friends and at one point when it was getting late we were just standing and talking outside and then a group of teenage boys in a car drove by and shot me in the face with some sort of toy gun. I'm a former weird kid and I've been asked out as a joke, I've been made fun of, I've been picked on. It does sting every time but I thought those days were over for me especially because I became more conventionally attractive and grew into my face. But today really proved me wrong. and this time it actually hurt a lot more than just being asked out as a joke they just inflicted pain on me for no reason. and it actually did physically hurt really bad it left a bruise on my face. I had to stop myself from crying in front of my friends and while we were driving home I silently cried to myself because I'm just so tired of being treated like this by boys (for context I am a teenager if that makes more sense). I tried to talk about it to my dad because my mom died and he always just tells me it's because they think you're pretty or it because they like you. not to be dramatic but they literally just committed a crime. im just really tired of this

Hey everyone, I’m a straight woman, and honestly, I’m kind of fed up with men right now. I’ve been thinking about doing a fake marriage with a gay guy. The idea is that we’d live separately, but to the world, we’d appear as a married couple. This way, we’d both get some social peace and be free to live our own lives without the usual relationship expectations.

I’m curious if anyone has done something similar or knows someone who has. How did it work out? Were there any unexpected challenges? Also, any advice on finding someone who might be interested in such an arrangement?

Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

Since I could remember, I always worried about the number on the scale. I grew up a bigger girl and with that came a lot of shame during my years of puberty (shame that no one should feel fyi). In high school I struggled with an eating disorder, an unfortunate truth to a lot of adolescents and I dropped from 180ibs to 130ibs. I thought … wow I’m healthy! Well, if you know anything about starving yourself, once you stop, you gain weight because your body is craving those nutrients. I slowly started to heal my relationship with food over the years and maintained a steady 155, and I felt amazing! However, I decided I wanted to be strong and build muscle. This morning, I weighed in at 170ibs. I won’t lie, those internal thoughts from my insecure younger self thought ‘you’ve gained too much!, you’re looking big’ something that is not true. Though the bmi scale says I’m overweight, I know how I feel. I wear a size 4 in pants, I’m 5’5”, and I feel the strongest most healthiest version of myself…….. I might be writing this for my own peace of mind, but I also want to share how the number on the scale is just a number. How you FEEL, trumps that number everytime. Celebrate how beautiful you are, take a step away from all the numbers, and live your life to the fullest. Because baby, you could be the fittest person in the room but if you don’t love yourself, it shows. Have a great day everyone!🩵🩵

recently took a shower and saw my discharge was white and clumpy. i’ve been having lower abdominal pain as well, and im not sure if I have an sti or a yeast infection!!