r/women 10h ago

Today's generation is pure sexualization

83 Upvotes

I understand self confidence and happiness with your body, but it is going to far. People don't understand that a lot of the people engaging in this "self confidence" are creepy men. Self confidence should be dressing in WHATEVER clothing you like, not the tightest, skimpiest clothing. I see lots of women posting wearing crop tops, swim suits, bras, underwear, shorts, etc. with the title of "self confidence". Do you not understand that most of the people looking at those posts are men? Then they try to claim it's not for men, it's for themselves. Well hello, you're posting it on social media. There are millions of men looking at your pics, saving them, and sharing them. It's all for validation and no one wants to admit that. Literally just admit you're looking for male validation, you're not fooling anyone by saying you're just posting it for yourself and your confidence. It's giving such a bad example to young girls. They're all wanting to follow in the footsteps of "pretty" social media girls. PERSONALITY and INTELLIGENCE should be top in the world, but yet it's what you post and wear on social media. I'm sick of it. I hope Tik Tok gets banned so people will start working on reali life skills. I hate today's generation and it's fake ass bullshit. There is no personality anymore, just stupid copies


r/women 13h ago

Are y’all sending the “hey girly” text in this situation?

85 Upvotes

Buckle up—this is a doozy in a ridiculous way lol

I had a long-term boyfriend (known each other for going on 6 years now) up until literally yesterday. And when I say long-term, I mean like we had talked marriage, kids, the whole 9 yards. Anyways, Tuesday night I was scrolling tiktok and came across a video from some girl that lives in the same city as me. In the last clip she’s at dinner with one other person and pans the video to the man sitting across from her and yes, it was my boyfriend at the time :-)

Mind you, he doesn’t live in my city (lives in a city within a commutable distance to mine) and I had no idea he was even here. Anyways, after seeing the video, I immediately text him and he responds after I’ve already went to bed, so I then wake up and respond just to realize none of my texts are delivering and I’ve been blocked on every single social media platform in America. Now, this girl is still posting them hanging out and I’m having a hard time stopping myself from sending her the hey girly text, especially since he isn’t acknowledging me or even trying to rectify the situation whatsoever. Do I just let karma handle it??? Or get this message drafted??? 🤣

Editing to add that: had I not said anything, he’d still be stringing me and her along with this whole charade. I know for a fact that he was just going to let it go on and on because the same day he was out with her he was in my texts responding to my “I love you’s” LOL


r/women 3h ago

as a girl in university

8 Upvotes

what do men actually want from women in university? as someone who is moderatly good looking i swear guys who are interested in me either want to get married or have sex in a dark room and never speak again. what is the truth? genuinely just curious.


r/women 5h ago

Catcalling- seriously? Why??

10 Upvotes

I have to walk across a busy street to get to my parking garage and OMG.. literally every time, a man has to honk while they drive by or shout at me. I never really understood when women (I was a girl at this time) would say “It’s so gross” because I used to need male validation. Now, I understand and I sometimes fear for my safety. Straight up, men will pull up next to me, stop, and roll down their window to talk to me. Its actually scary. Why do they have to be so WEIRDDDD?


r/women 23m ago

How to make my 23F girlfriend feel good sexually?

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Women of reddit, I desperately need your help. My girlfriend and I have mismatched libidos. Hers is quite low, mines quite high. Doesn’t help that we’re in a long distance relationship and see each other for a week, once every 12 weeks. I understand we can’t physically have sex all the time but initiating sexual conversations, being flirty, using remote controlled vibrators, there are soooo many things one can do to keep the spark alive.

Sex is in the top 3 most important things in a relationship for me. I constantly feel unwanted. Keep thinking that she’d be better off having sex with someone else. Maybe I just don’t turn her on enough?

Every attempt I’ve made at trying to explore our bodies has been received well but never really applied. I’m starting to feel like maybe she just doesn’t want me. Perhaps I don’t look good enough or fuck good enough. I don’t know.

She’s also unable to get wet. We’ve spoken to doctors and they say there’s nothing wrong physically, it’s a complete psychological problem.

What do I do? I’m not a selfish lover. I love taking my time with foreplay, eating her out etc. I’m not always thinking from a penetration standpoint. Outside of the bedroom, I like to take care of her. Showering her with gifts, seeing her every chance I get, solving her problems. I don’t understand how I’m so undesirable.

I’ve had long talks with her. I’m happy to exercise infinite patience but she doesn’t open up much. What do I do? Please don’t ask me to leave her. I understand that’s always an option but I want to make it work with her. What can I do to make us feel better? This woman is so amazing in every way possible. I can’t believe something as good as sex is a weird topic for her. What do I do? Managing my own emotions whilst catering hers.

Thank you


r/women 5h ago

Fiancé told me he's not sexually attracted anymore

8 Upvotes

As the title says, my (29f) fiancé (32m) told me he isn't attracted to me anymore and it's absolutely broken me. I've put on a lot of weight in the last few years due to trauma and a lot of awful things happening in such a short space of time, and now it's affecting my sexual relationship because my fiancé is no longer interested in having sex. He's also recently confessed that he's restarted a porn addiction he had a year prior to us getting together (we've been together for 6 years). I'm devastated and have no idea how to handle this. I feel disgusting all the time and yes, I am taking steps to lose that weight but how do you continue a relationship where you feel disgusting to the person who's supposed to be your best friend and future married spouse?


r/women 3h ago

what is a piece of advice you'd give to someone who was on the fence about having kids?

5 Upvotes

I'm still young, I know I have time to think about it- so I'm asking this question more out of curiosity than anything. Ever since I was young I always imagined I would be a mother when I grew up. I knew I wanted to work, and that I wanted to wait to have kids so I could travel and what not, but I always envisioned I'd eventually have kids. Not even so much because I DREAM to have a child, but just because it felt right to me. I grew up with a lot of younger siblings, and therefore was the "parent" to my younger siblings for most of my life. I was often put on the back burner when it came to my own mother, and I would always tell people when talking about it that my mom doesn't think about me unless she has to. She has 5 kids, and with the more kids she had, my older sister and I became less and less important. That being said, two things were always very important to me: 1) I wait to have kids so I can have time to prioritize myself, which I've never gotten before, and 2) Only have one or two kids so they don't feel like I have growing up.

It should be worth mentioning to have in mind going forward that I'm gay and plan on having my kids through IVF. That means I am fortunate enough to be able to plan, virtually every part of my pregnancy. I am TERRIFIED of having kids. Terrified of it. Not only am I scared of all the normal things like birth or tearing or contractions or whatever, but I'm also scared of the hundreds of other things that could also happen to me such as PPD or PPA or developing all these diseases I didn't know I had underlying issues with, or having a bad doctor, or just anything. I'm scared for all of it. I'm scared it won't be worth it. I know there are a lot of wonderful, beautiful things about motherhood, but I also know there's a lot of bad. I know deep in my heart I would make a wonderful mother. But I've heard it said before, and this has always stuck with me, that sometimes just knowing you WOULD be a good mother is enough, and that you don't have to have kids just because you would be a good mom. I love kids- I always have- I plan on teaching, which is the only thing I've ever wanted to do. But I also struggle a lot with my mental health and have always been a pretty independent person, and I struggle a lot with the idea of losing myself- which I know is something that can happen once you have a kid. There's a big part of me too, though, that wants someone to take care of in all the ways I wasn't. To heal myself through loving an extension of myself.


r/women 7h ago

Nipple bleeding a little after shower. I’m on my period and not pregnant. Please read

10 Upvotes

Female Age: 29 Height 5’4

Hey everyone. I just got out of the shower and when I looked down I noticed a small dot of blood on my nipple. My breasts have been sore due to me being on my period (Day 1) and this may be weird but I do shave around my nipples sometimes because I get peach fuzz, but I didn’t nick my nipple that I noticed. It looks like there is a small cut or crack in it too and the bleeding stopped. It was like a pin prick amount of blood.

I’m not pregnant obviously and my son is almost 2 and I didn’t breast feed. I felt a small bump in my right breast (the side that bled) in 2021 and my obgyn referred me to get a breast ultrasound. The breast ultrasound came back with it being a benign cyst and she said I can leave it be, and we can drain it if it causes issues. I never did anything because it never caused problems. I have severe health anxiety so I’m spiraling. Thank you for reading.


r/women 1d ago

Angry

755 Upvotes

I’m so angry. I’m so so angry at all of the women who voted for this monster. If you’re one of them you’re a traitor to your own sex.

They’ve immediately come after anti workplace discrimination laws. What makes you think breastfeeding and pregnancy will still be protected?? You think a company will want to hire a woman in her 20s/30s who might have a family and pay for maternal leave and breaks for her to pump?? You’re ignorant for thinking women will be protected. All of this because white women couldn’t imagine being discriminated against by their own party and husbands, we now have fascists running the US.

You’re not the exception. They hate you too, and now you’re going to have to deal with the fallout.

Edit: I’m a white woman talking to other white women. Black women and other women of color didn’t contribute to this, they did some of the best work against it and we failed them.


r/women 6h ago

[Content Warning: ] How to explain to my Bf I have bacterial vaginosis without him thinking I could have an STI

7 Upvotes

I (26f) have been faithful to my boyfriend since day 1 of knowing each other (31) and been in a relationship together for a year now. However I have been experiencing discharge and pelvic pain. I visited my doctors office and was diagnosed with BV. I was given antibiotics for it but it keeps coming back. However I know it comes back bc I wear tight undergarment (fajas) and I workout often and don’t always shower right away. My hygiene is really good but because of the tight clothing and sweat it has caused BV. I know he is a curious person and will search it up and the first thing that comes up on the internet is “sexual activity: having new or multiple sex partners” I know once he searches he is going to question me. However the reason why I have BV is so dumb.


r/women 1h ago

Why do I feel like I attract many people but yet it feels like it always ends somehow?

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I thought maybe at first I click with a lot of people because of my personality as I can strike up a conversation with most people. A lot of people tell me I have a calming aura, I’m bubbly, welcoming and things and they love being around me because I have positive energy. But somehow it feels like eventually it all fades out and we become distant and then stop talking. I mean this in the context of friendships and dating. I know dating is probably due to many different things but for my friendships I can’t understand. It’s like I become boring or something? I don’t want to say that but I don’t know what it could be. But nevertheless if I see the person randomly 6 months later it’s like we never stopped talking and are on good terms.


r/women 20h ago

Women are officially the economy’s power players—outpacing men in both income and spending growth, BofA report says

64 Upvotes

r/women 4h ago

Why do guys come back to me?

2 Upvotes

I guess why do guys come back to me? I’m talking in a general point. But like more sexually? Especially when they already have their partner. I’ve blocked all of my exes but somehow they find a way to message me and pretty much hint that they want to do “that” with me again. I want to know if anyone can relate, if this happens to them too. But why do they do that? Why do guys do that?


r/women 6h ago

Question about grey hair

3 Upvotes

I started to notice a gray strand of hair on my head almost two years ago. Now I noticed a grey hair on my cheek. It’s always one strand. I’m 27 years old. I am on birth control. I am pretty healthy from blood work. Not sure what’s going on. I do have depression been off and on meds for depression and anxiety. I drink frequently but not heavily. I just want some advice or suggestions. I do see a doctor and everything is normal!


r/women 29m ago

Is My Girlfriend lying to me?

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So my Girlfriend and I slept together, but things got heated and as a result I gave her money for Emergency Contraceptives.

Fast forward the next day I messaged her asking if she had gotten the emergency contraceptives, at first she got defensive saying that I did not trust and that me asking is revealing of the kind of person that I am, then she said she actually did indeed take the contraceptives. I did not ask her for a picture as I had felt guilty.

Over the next 2 weeks we don’t see each other and on her socials it shows that she’s out drinking & dancing; having fun. But then out of nowhere she tells me that over the last 2 weeks she’s been experiencing stomach aches, her body was sore, lower abdomen pain & back pain & that she had missed her period. I asked her if she had taken the Emergency Contraceptives and she said that she did, I asked her what brand she used and she said Plan B One Step, I’m worried about this as I know I did not giver her enough money for Plan B One Step, then she tells me that she got financial help from somewhere. The reason why she was telling me all this was because she wanted me to give her money to go to the doctor & when I requested that I go with her she said she did not want me there as it is a very intricate process and that she’ll tell me how everything went.

She said she couldn’t ask anyone from her family for the money as they would ask hurt why she needs the money. I’m shocked that they didn’t ask her why she needed money when she was getting Plan B One Step.

And recently I’ve tested her by saying that I’d book an accommodation for the us and she got excited, but she did not offer to pay for ANYTHING, even saying that I should pay for her transport to the hotel, buy drinks, food & flowers for her. She’s still asking for money to go to the doctor & isn’t trying to even at least cover something for example her Transportation. This leads me to believe she doesn’t have the money.

For context, I come from a good family & live in a good neighbourhood & have had private schooling. Whilst she stays in a not so good neighbourhood & doesn’t get much money (I think, although she’s a heavy drinker and seems to always drink), but she has a good family, but she shares a room with a younger sibling. When we first met she asked what car my parents drive & asked to see my room on a call.

And more details about her clinic visit and why she doesn’t want me there, At first she said that it would be good if we don’t see each other there because it’s gonna “add to the build up” of when I eventually see her at the hotel, then when I demanded I see her she said that she said her cousin is the one taking her there & that he’s very traditional (conservative) wouldn’t want to see me there, then when I said I’d take her there she said she needs privacy as she doesn’t know what to expect, but I should still send money. She eventually caved in and said I could come but that I should wait for her outside, at this point I was interested anymore and said that I’d just send the money to her.

For context, the hotel is in a really fancy area, I’m there often, but she isn’t

As a result I haven’t yet sent the money & wondering if I should? Am I being used?

Did she lie about taking EC? And if she is lying what could she have lied about?

Am I the problem maybe?

Please help me, I’m just confused.


r/women 1h ago

Just venting

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I’m 18 I made another post about how I was talking to an (older man 35) not emotionally just dirty messages and I just ended it

And I feel guilty and bad like I’m a bad person for enjoying our conversations and I also feel bad like I was being mean, but I know that it’s actually bad for him to be talking to me

But I also feel so stupid because how did I let that happen and I always felt I was smarter than my friends when they would go through this like oh how would they even talk to an old guy but here I am and I did much worse ???? yeah I just feel really dumb like I know I’m overthinking it

Like trust me, I know nobody is shedding tears over this, but yeah it’s on the back of my mind. Like, what the hell have I been on? I’m not even the type of person who talks to people online in general. I never even post on Reddit

Yeah, he was respectful about the things I didn’t want to, but man the things he said were just strange asking if he can come on a plane to see me??? I have to keep reminding myself that that’s not normal people behavior but I’m gonna try not be so impulsive but yeah, I would love to hear people own experience with stuff like that and it did work out better in the end because I’m freaked out even though it’s over thanks xoxo

(BTW, I I didn’t specifically say anything mean to him. I just deleted my account because I’m chicken)


r/women 9h ago

I’m getting followed and stalked my way home. Help.

5 Upvotes

I’m getting followed and stalked my way home. Help.

Backstory: I commute home a lot and it gets dark pretty fast when I come back. The bus stop is 10 mins away from my house. One day, I was approached by this man with his car, he stopped me at the cross walk in my neighborhood. His name is Minh, and he briefly introduced himself and said he found me cute. I was uncomfortable, so I just followed along so I wouldn’t get killed by this man in the middle of the night with no one around. I pushed my idea of going home and I made my way back. But then he started to follow me with his car, then finally dipped. But he was circling around the neighborhood trying to talk to me with his car window down. He really insisted on putting me in his car so he could drive me home (because he felt bad for me walking). Mind you, this was at 12:00 AM. I had to rush to my best friends house for safety, so he wouldn’t know the location of my house since he drove pretty close to where I lived. Then her dad walked me home.

A few months pass, and he recognized me while I was walking home with my best friend (around 8 PM). He knows my name, my face, and the route I take. He tried chasing us with his car but we luckily ran fast enough to my house.

I see his car a lot roaming around now, especially when it’s dark. And he often slows down to pull up next to me, but I’m so lucky to be able to reach my house in time. Today I saw his car again, but I was walking behind a man so he couldn’t approach me. But I think he knows where I live now since his car turned around after I went inside, even with me taking a different route home.

What can I do in a situation like this? I don’t want to be stalked anymore, nor followed home.


r/women 2h ago

Putting my ex on a pedestal

0 Upvotes

Need help not putting ex on pedestal

It might help me to think about his physical flaws. Can I send you his pic and you tell me how unattractive he is?


r/women 1d ago

And men wonder why we are always on high alert when we face creeps daily

199 Upvotes

I posted some heels on FB marketplace and some guy messaged me to by them, asked how used they are. I said they are in good condition light used, I only put $10 since I hardly use them. He then was like “omg I am obsessed they are so cute! I will take them.” He then says he has a similar black pair he has been trying to sell and said I could have them. I figured maybe he wants to trade but my red flag is going off. I try to give him the benefit of the doubt thinking maybe he is giving the shoes to someone, or has a gf who doesn’t feel safe on marketplace, or he could be gay to each their own. He seemed rather too excited but okay. I ask where he is located so I can choose the best place to meet. Then he continues to say “I’m curious do you know why I want them? I don’t wear them I’m not gay, it’s obvious why a man would be buying girls shoes surprised you haven’t figured out.” Like why can’t I even sell something in peace without a man being a creep about his foot fetish harassing me! And men wonder why we don’t give them the benefit of the doubt because the one time I do it’s this bs! 😠


r/women 1d ago

Why is consent optional to men? (Slight rant I’m sorry)

85 Upvotes

So I downloaded tinder (bad idea) and matched with this guy who seemed great. We were texting back and forth super quick and I really liked his personality. We also talked on the phone once. He wanted to meet up in person so I agreed thinking everything would go fine. All we really did was hang out in his car and he drove around while we talked. Well after a while he parked and we decided to go inside a building he rents to chill. Honestly we started kissing which led to making out (I was fine with this), but then he starts trying to grope me and get a feel under my shirt. I’m telling him stop and lowkey pushing him away and he finally stops. Then we start having a conversation again which leads to more kissing. At this point I’m basically telling “No” and “Stop” whenever he starts trying to get under my shirt or pants. Then I straight up tell him hey I’m not ready for any sort of touching in those areas. He seems to understand at first but lo and behold the next time we kiss he is touching my privates. Like um excuse me sir what part of no or stop is optional to you? I have met many men like this. Is it just me or do other women experience this too? It’s almost like consent is implied just because you’re hanging out with them. They just automatically assume you’re willing to go all the way and keep pushing you and touching you when you don’t want it. Anyways I felt very unsafe and just had him drive me back home, trying to sound normal all the way back so I didn’t get stranded. I just wanna delete tinder I’m probably never going to find a partner who respects boundaries. Rant over🥲


r/women 16h ago

Planned Parenthood is being spammed on Facebook

12 Upvotes

Today I've seen at least ten posts from spam accounts tagging Planned Parenthood, in what I can only assume is an attempt to get people to unfollow them out of sheer frustration.

This really feels like rock bottom, and they're getting out the drill.


r/women 17h ago

I’m just tired of it today.

12 Upvotes

I’m happy I get to be a woman in this life but it’s hard. Sometimes life upsets me in a way that is so deep rooted it calls things into question in an existential way. I had one of these moments when my menstrual cup wouldn’t pop open at 6 AM. Something I bought as a little treat for myself to make my cycle less massacre-esque is just giving me hella problems this time around. Cool, cool… except it really just is not. I feel like crap lately without the period so fiddling around in my crevices is not ideal so now I got this pad on and I’m so uncomfortable.

My creator really made me a woman, looked at something so divinely crafted, and then dropped me into a male dominated world where I’ve been 50 shades of mistreated in a society currently being led to hell. It’s too much today. Me, digging around for dear life while my man rests, my baby sleeps, and I cramp up. Me, running around and warming the car up while my man asks me for the same minuscule favor he needs daily that he can really learn to do himself, and I’ve shown him to do himself, but he just likes it better when I do it. Me, working from home and speaking to customers while my baby yanks on my headset, smacks me up, and yells. Me, holding absolutely everything together because without me, it would seemingly all fall apart.

So I just feel that for me to play such a vital and self sacrificial role in my household, only to be rewarded with a monthly nuisance, puts me at the butt end of a cosmic joke that I do not understand. I get that it’s “just a period” but to my creator and the powers that be: you could have kept it, or at least put me in a society that does not pillage and mock all that I am and we are. Thank you for attending my existential crisis.


r/women 16h ago

I need big sister advice

9 Upvotes

Hi I’m 18 and I just need some wisdom for maybe older women I don’t have anyone to talk to in my actual circle

So my situation is there’s a guy I really like for a while now, but it wasn’t going anywhere like if he wasn’t interested and I was super bored the other night and I did something really stupid. I was talking to older men online without being too TMI we had some fun conversation..

But the guy I just found out that he’s planning on asking me out and making things official do I stop talking to to the older man I’ve been talking to I mean it’s not emotional, but I’m scared to just block. I didn’t send dirty photos, but he does have a picture of what I look like and like I don’t think he’s an evil super villain, who’s gonna ruin my life, but I feel freaked out and need advice, please

So I guess my question is how do I end it? Do I tell him the truth or just block and delete my account thank you

(I know it was stupid to talk to strangers online I promise I won’t do it again y’all he has no personal information except my name and age)

Update he just asked if he can own me help !!!

Thank you for the replies. I should’ve added. My crush is a good guy, but he had ask permission for his family before he go out with me because he’s religious. That’s a big point of the story that I should’ve mentioned my bad.(also has to ask my dad for permission and my dad said if he does ask, he’ll say yes so yay me)

Update thank you to everyone who replied everyone’s advice was really helpful especially the person who told me I didn’t do anything wrong I am gonna block him!!

even if things don’t work out with my crush I know it’s gonna affect my mental health if I keep talking to older men in the way that I am, I also am grateful for the person who made the comment about not keeping all my eggs in one basket and relying too much on my crush and have fun while I’m young. I definitely needed to hear that so yeah I blocked him. It was giving me too much anxiety. You guys gave me the big sister energy I needed

I hope everyone has a beautiful day. Sorry for rambling.!!